The "No FOB" Thread

[18singlemom2b]

i'm in a similar situation to most of you guys, sometimes FOB claims that he wants to be around but i know him and how he is and he won't be around, and frankly, with the way he acts i don't want him to be.
he cheated on me the whole relationship and claimed to not want this child at all after he got me pregnant purposely, we were even trying for a while.
so i dont want to sell my kid short by having them know a father who can't be there for them.
if he had his way i would have had an abortion. i know im doing whats best.

 

[rjb]

to be honest, (this is somethingi'm not proud of) i barely even know my FOB.
we were on again off again for two years.
but i only saw him a few times.
my parents were very (rightfully) protective.
and so i really don't know him.
i feel awful admitting it.
but the truth is, if she made faces like he made, or if she has anything that looks like him (ie, "his" eyes or "his" nose" i probably won't even know..
i've never admitted that before :/

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

to be honest, (this is somethingi'm not proud of) i barely even know my FOB.
we were on again off again for two years.
but i only saw him a few times.
my parents were very (rightfully) protective.
and so i really don't know him.
i feel awful admitting it.
but the truth is, if she made faces like he made, or if she has anything that looks like him (ie, "his" eyes or "his" nose" i probably won't even know..
i've never admitted that before :/

It's okay, hon. I don't really know my FOB either. I thought I did, but then it turned out everything was a lie.
As for not being able to point out "his" features or faces, sometimes that's a blessing. It breaks my heart when Livi makes a face that looks just like him. It's just like pouring salt in an open wound. I wish I didn't know how that quirky smirk she does looked on his face. Or how her fingers look like they were plucked from his hand. It's just too hard sometimes.

 

[rjb]

to be honest, (this is somethingi'm not proud of) i barely even know my FOB.
we were on again off again for two years.
but i only saw him a few times.
my parents were very (rightfully) protective.
and so i really don't know him.
i feel awful admitting it.
but the truth is, if she made faces like he made, or if she has anything that looks like him (ie, "his" eyes or "his" nose" i probably won't even know..
i've never admitted that before :/

It's okay, hon. I don't really know my FOB either. I thought I did, but then it turned out everything was a lie.
As for not being able to point out "his" features or faces, sometimes that's a blessing. It breaks my heart when Livi makes a face that looks just like him. It's just like pouring salt in an open wound. I wish I didn't know how that quirky smirk she does looked on his face. Or how her fingers look like they were plucked from his hand. It's just too hard sometimes.

i think it will make it easier, but i hate to admit to people that when it comes right down to it, he was practically a stranger :/

 

[Jadelm]

My situation was a little different because my Dad didn't leave or not want me or anything, he died when I was 6 months old so my Mum had to go it alone and honestly she did such a FAB job that even though it's a horrible thing to grow up knowing you'll never know you daddy I never once felt like I was missing out. And when she met my step dad everything just fell into place so easily, he was such a nice man and there was never any pressure for him to be my dad but in the end he was the best father I ever could have wished for and I loved him with all my heart So don't think just cos you're on your own your child is missing out, I had the best childhood ever and I only have happy memories

As for me.. it looked like FOB wouldn't be seen for dust but now I'm not sure.. he's so fickle and I'm too nice to just tell him to do one.. I want to give him a chance you know but he keeps wanting to know one minute and not the next so I'm giving him ONE CHANCE onces she's born and if he fucks it up or says he doesn't want us in his life once more then he is GONE. Watch this space lol.


Good luck to all you girlys doing it on your own though, you'll all be great mummys xxx

 

[QuintinsMommy]

When we lost our first baby he blamed me
and said god took our baby to prove to me I would be a bad mother.

wow! thats disgusting that he could say something like that

That's horrible! I'd have made him eat the ground he stood on if it were me!

And does anybody else get slightly annoyed at the cookie-cutter families? I mean that literally. I was looking at the cookie cutters in the store today and they had Christmas ones out already! shock I noticed there were almost none of just one parent and a child. (Except your religious ones) I'm half tempted to buy it anyway and just break the daddy off. Or I could just cut him out while the dough's still soft.

to be honest, (this is somethingi'm not proud of) i barely even know my FOB.
:/

same here, only dated for a month, but knew each other for about 5 months

It's okay, hon. I don't really know my FOB either. I thought I did, but then it turned out everything was a lie.

also same here he told me he didn't do drugs ( other the pot and drinking)

i think it will make it easier, but i hate to admit to people that when it comes right down to it, he was practically a stranger :/

same here!!! its nice to know people feel the same as i do but i hate saying that , when I was writing up some papers to try to find FOB to bring him to court I had to leave more then half of it blank because I barely knew anything about him

 

[candace]

I'm a single mom too...

 

[lauram_92]

i think us single mums will just end up being more protective of our little ones. and probably be a bit poorer than most families.. especially with all the cuts in benefits; which i think are ridiculous. i would rather spend time with my wee man, rather than go to work when he is about a year old and learning to walk etc. anywaaaay i am just trying to ignore all the threads on here that are like 'lets praise our OH', 'i love my OH'.. etc. blaaah. gutted, seen a gorgeoussss baby grow set on the internet, one said i love mummy, the other i love daddy.. why can't they sell it seperately?