they keep saying I'm big

[tinytoes]

i'm trying to nto take things pesonally, but at work two of my colleageus keep mentioning my bump size. One says "ooh you're showing so early, I could hide mine until 4.5 months..."and the other is like "oh you're growing by the day - are you sure you've got your dates right?"

I'm delighted to show. i'm delighted baby is growing...but why do I feel like a bit of a fraud? Or a little upset by their comments?
The extra size is all belly/bump so it's not like I myself and growing by the day, but it makes me feel a bit weird when they say things like that...like I don't know what I'm doing...
perhaps I'm just hormonal today but I wish they'd just be happy and marvel at the bump rather than wonder why it's so big....I am virtually 4 months right, it's OK to show!...

 

[JessNJeremy]

Hmmm well how rude of them to even make those comments and to not even realize that you are sensitive right now and hormonal! I would be upset too and if it were me I'd say something back, but if that's not in your nature maybe just tell them that you and the LO are perfectly happy and that you are damn proud of the bump that you have! Kindly remind them that every freaking woman is different and every baby is different.
But keep your chin up and do be proud, I started showing very early and have a pretty proper bump at only 17 wks but I'm happy about it Alot of it probably is due to hormones, my younger sister-much younger-often reminds me of how big i look and often mistakes the "baby bulge" for fat and says "ewww" or "gross" and sometimes its silly that it offends me but it does and i know that it's just hormones. It's normal for you to feel the way you do-but NOT normal, I think, for other women to make such comments to you-especially if they have been pregnant themselves before!
Hang in there

 

[charlottecco2]

hey honey i think that it is brilliant you are showing, and i am very jealous. Who cares what your colleagues have to say, as long as you are happy with your beautiful bump then thats the main thing. I can't wait till i have a bump that people comment on, and when i do, it won't matter what they say, i'll just be happy people find me so important to talk about haha, thats all i can say about your colleagues as if they have so much spare time to marvel over your bump, then its obviously because they find you very special or have nothing better to do with their time (in which case, get a life).

We love all bumps here, no matter big or small, everyone is different and thats what makes it so special. big hugs.. xxxx

 

[tinytoes]

thanks ladies.
It sort of makes me feel like I must be doign something wrong...though I know how daft that idea is!!

You're right. sod em xxx

 

[Tezzy]

oh hun, dont be upset by their comments, its seems to me that when you are pregnant people think they can do/say stuff without offending you.

just be happy your little bump is growing nicely

 

[tinytoes]

this place gets worse - one woman just virtually shouted "oh my god, it's starting to show" and grimmaced (this isnt pregnancy paranoia this one!) like it's a boil or something?!?! She looked like it was a bad thing!
She's never had kids, maybe she finds it all a little alien...but really...she could pretend to smile!!

I just smiled and said "yes", ina proud manner. daft bat.

 

[Tezzy]

and why shouldnt you be proud!? show it off girl lol!

 

[supernurse]

Exactly, everyone should be proud of their bump no matter what the size.

I think it depends on what people have seen other bumps looking like, then they think that everyone should be that same size.

Next time someone comments on it, just say "yeah, it's great, wanna closer look?"

 

[elles28]

Be proud of your bump I am raging that it is so cold I have to wear big coats & I cant show mine off enough .

 

[Linzi]

I wish I had a bump! I can feel myself sticking my belly out at work now because people keep telling me Im really small for how far along I am!

People make silly comments without thinking about how you might feel about what theyre saying. Ignore them if you can hun. Be proud!

xxx

 

[Angelica]

Aww dont worry hun be proud like the others say.
Im 3.5 months & showing already & ppl have also commented but I proudly smile!!

 

[TryingAgain]

I had a bump really early too & it is so annoying that people feel they can make comments on your size, grrr!!

For the last few weeks i've had people saying have you not had that baby yet, or your HUGE!! & baby isn't even due yet, people should really keep rude comments to themselves!

 

[CK Too]

Why is that as soon as you announce you are pregnant, people assume they have the right to comment on the size of bumps, the size of boobs, hormones, bad moods etc etc.

They should all just keep their comments to themselves. Be proud of your bump Tiny Toes and just ignore them.

 

[Ellianna]

I'm sure you have a beautiful bump

xx

 

[Vickie]

I'm sorry those women are upsetting you so much. Not everyone grows at the same rate or to the same size, I don't know why other women can't understand this.

 

[leeanne]

this place gets worse - one woman just virtually shouted "oh my god, it's starting to show" and grimmaced (this isnt pregnancy paranoia this one!) like it's a boil or something?!?! She looked like it was a bad thing!
She's never had kids, maybe she finds it all a little alien...but really...she could pretend to smile!!

I just smiled and said "yes", ina proud manner. daft bat.

People can really get to you when you are pregnant.

With my first pregnancy, my hubby's brother came over one time and said good luck to losing the weight after. Gosh, that's all I thought about. He was in for a shock when I lost the weight and was back to my normal 95 lbs. I meant to prove him wrong too.

After I had my baby girl, I would dress her in pink and I would still get comments "Oh, what a lovely boy." Oh my gosh! That would put me over the edge too.

Anyhow, I am about 9 weeks pregnant and noticed I am already showing. This is my third pregnancy and I've heard that you show earlier in each pregnancy after. True or not? Well, seems to be with me.

In summary, people show at different times and no one is the same. Don't let these people bother you

 

[Wobbles]

Don't worry hun people did it to me including my MW making me think shit my babies gonna be massive - I showed in second tri I was massive even jokes on here it would be a 10 pounder lol then I read around 30 week "you now start to get bigger" ERRRRRRR already done that & I had! My baby was 7lb exactly not a big baby at all but boy did I flood my livingroom

 

[leeanne]

Don't worry hun people did it to me including my MW making me think shit my babies gonna be massive - I showed in second tri I was massive even jokes on here it would be a 10 pounder lol then I read around 30 week "you now start to get bigger" ERRRRRRR already done that & I had! My baby was 7lb exactly not a big baby at all but boy did I flood my livingroom

LOL!

 

[elles28]

Don't worry hun people did it to me including my MW making me think shit my babies gonna be massive - I showed in second tri I was massive even jokes on here it would be a 10 pounder lol then I read around 30 week "you now start to get bigger" ERRRRRRR already done that & I had! My baby was 7lb exactly not a big baby at all but boy did I flood my livingroom

Wobbles I LMAO reading that I remembered the night you were in labour constantly refreshing the "Think Wobbles just pissed herself" thread!!!

 

[Tilly]

You're having a baby, it's a lovely thing... I find pregnant women really sweet lol, brings back so many memories and I notice them looking at Bethanie in her pram and smiling (I used to do that too, im sure most of us did/do lol). I got asked at 7 months "are you due soon?" on countless occasions "oo, not long now"... me: "erm only 2 months...?" lol.

Ignore it