Things I wish I knew when FOB left me......

[Dezireey]

I thought I would start a thread and ask for input from single parents on what they wish they hadn't worried about at the start of their emotional journey when FOB left them just before / during / after pregnancy. If I had been reassured by these things, I may not have spent so many nights crying in the beginning and enjoyed my newborn that much more.

Things I wish I knew when FOB left me...

1. My baby doesn't know, doesn't care and won't even ask any questions for at least 4 years about his FOB. Don't waste time 'worrying' about baby feeling abandoned till then....and then you will be a stronger mum anyway to deal with it.
2. That it all does get better, it just takes time and patience
3. That FOB is not worth the tears anyway. Man leaves baby = man not ever worth bothering about. period.
4. Being a single mum is empowering and fulfilling, you feel like you can do anything when there are good times, its not as bad as people make it out to be, you will cope because you have to.
5. The bond between you and baby is so strong and the feeling of never sharing LO with FOB will intensify and you will be glad he is not around anyway.

Any other suggestions ladies?

 

[lemontree12]

6. My baby will have a better up bringing, in a stable home rather than having, this man that lies come in and out of her life.

 

[lemontree12]

7. I couldnt possibly share my baby with fob and his gf, so why try. this option actually became the best option

 

[Jade--x]

I love points 4 and 5

9. Don't think that because you're now a single Mum you'll never find the right guy, that no one will ever want you or be attracted to you again because you have a baby, just enjoy being you and LO and it will happen when its supposed to..And they'll be a thousand times better than your FOB and you'll wonder why you were ever worried

 

[george83]

That the love you have for your baby is so incredibly strong that the love you ever had for fob fades into insignificance and keeps fading every time you and your baby share a new first

 

[Dezireey]

11. That after baby is born you will live in your PJ's for months, your hair looks like a rats nest and you forgot what a toothbrush looks like and you sigh.... Because you are a single mum, sometimes it's heavenly not bothering to be pretty to impress your OH. oh bliss. probably the best time to WANT to be single.

 

[TinkCee]

12. All your attention will be on growing/raising/protecting your child rather then having the burden of an unattentive male.
You really dont need to watch two new borns, just the one that came out of you!

 

[Rhio92]

That spending all day, every day in pyjamas is AWESOME! Until you have to go back to work/college anyway
You all need to get yourself a onesie. Best invention ever