tatsNflowers
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WARNING: SOME OF THESE ARE KINDA FUCKED UP!
CAN I HAVE A CHILD?
i've been off BC since april 2012.
been BD-ing quite regularly without a condom since.
haven't really been trying but you think it would have happened by now.
i've had 31-37 day cycles since my OH died.
i don't know if i'm ovulating.
this is my first cycle truely ttc with my new man.
now that i'm finally ready and he thinks i am. and he is. lol
I'M ADOPTED.
i don't know my family history.
i don't know about any medical issues or anything.
it was closed so i doubt i'll be able to find them.
the first step would be talking to my parents which is a no go.
I WAS BORN PREMATURE.
and with a heart defect.
supraventricular tachycardia arrhythmia.
hole in the heart.
i had an oblation when i was 4 and open heart surgery when i was 6.
suffered a lot until then.
what if my child has problems like i did?
WHAT IF I'M NOT A GOOD MOTHER?
i refuse to hold newborns because of their heads.
it scares me.
how am i going to be with my own child?
i can handle babies when they can hold their head up. lol
WHAT IF I DON'T LIKE MY CHILD?
what if i feel like my child should be half of my dead OH and not my new love?
what if i don't love it like i should?
MY LIFE ISN'T HOW IT WAS.
i don't feel pure happiness like i did with my dead OH.
i should be happy.
i have a great life right now.
he's always on my mind.
i'm not going to go into detail bc it's like a whole different thread.
JOB.
stupid job.
my dad asks about if i have one every time i see him.
he needs to JUST STOP.
my new love's mother is even hounding me about it now.
just give me time! i need time. please.
i just wish people could see through my eyes. feel what i feel. know what i know. then i wouldn't have to explain myself. seems like everything i do is a waste. i don't know what to do.
CAN I HAVE A CHILD?
i've been off BC since april 2012.
been BD-ing quite regularly without a condom since.
haven't really been trying but you think it would have happened by now.
i've had 31-37 day cycles since my OH died.
i don't know if i'm ovulating.
this is my first cycle truely ttc with my new man.
now that i'm finally ready and he thinks i am. and he is. lol
I'M ADOPTED.
i don't know my family history.
i don't know about any medical issues or anything.
it was closed so i doubt i'll be able to find them.
the first step would be talking to my parents which is a no go.
I WAS BORN PREMATURE.
and with a heart defect.
supraventricular tachycardia arrhythmia.
hole in the heart.
i had an oblation when i was 4 and open heart surgery when i was 6.
suffered a lot until then.
what if my child has problems like i did?
WHAT IF I'M NOT A GOOD MOTHER?
i refuse to hold newborns because of their heads.
it scares me.
how am i going to be with my own child?
i can handle babies when they can hold their head up. lol
WHAT IF I DON'T LIKE MY CHILD?
what if i feel like my child should be half of my dead OH and not my new love?
what if i don't love it like i should?
MY LIFE ISN'T HOW IT WAS.
i don't feel pure happiness like i did with my dead OH.
i should be happy.
i have a great life right now.
he's always on my mind.
i'm not going to go into detail bc it's like a whole different thread.
JOB.
stupid job.
my dad asks about if i have one every time i see him.
he needs to JUST STOP.
my new love's mother is even hounding me about it now.
just give me time! i need time. please.
i just wish people could see through my eyes. feel what i feel. know what i know. then i wouldn't have to explain myself. seems like everything i do is a waste. i don't know what to do.