Thinking ahead, as you do..

[17pregnant]

Hi all I have been thinking non stop about everything and wanted to know everyones opinion on co-sleeping? Also for those mums out there that have already had their LO's, have you tried it before? Is anyone planning to do this? Want to know what everyone else thinks

 

[blamesydney]

I did it for quite some time as it was easier to feed her during night wakings, but I found I hated it. She woke up way more often then she does in her crib, and I have the freedom to get up and use the bathroom and talk on the phone, whereas I would have woken her up before. I loved being close to my little girl, but the exhaustion was killing me. It is for some people, just not everyone!

 

[MommyGrim]

I loved it but had a lot of issues getting her to go back into her bed, and now in her toddler bed, she still crawls into bed with us. I know quite a few moms that have co-slept and never had an issue though. It really depends baby to baby but I plan to co-sleep again with this LO because I loved the closeness and the bonding.

 

[xxlovexx]

Hi, not a teen mom, but I did get pregnant when I was 19 and had DS when I was 20, so that counts, right? I co-sleep/bed share and although my son still wakes up at least 2-3 times per night to nurse, I love having him right beside me. Before he was born, DH was completely against co-sleeping, but when DS was 6 days old and I got NO sleep due to worrying, even though his crib was right by our bed, I decided to start co-sleeping. Plus, it helps so much since I'm breastfeeding. DS is almost 9 months old and DH thinks it's time to move him to his own room, but I'm no where near ready to do that. I know that when you bed share, it can be a very hard habit to break, so a co-sleeper may also be an option? (I may still order an Arms Reach Co-Sleeper when I'm ready to start the transition of getting DS to sleep without me holding him and eventually move him to his own room) I will say, I do not sleep well most nights, but the comfort of knowing that my baby is safe in my arms is worth it...and I do get enough sleep to function properly...I just usually wake up every 1-2 hours. lol

 

[17pregnant]

Thanks for your replies I guess I will just have to wait and see if it works out. I have considered getting something like arms reach to help with co sleeping, but I do plan on breast feeding and think I would prefer the closeness.

 

[KateCardwell]

I don't think we'll be trying it. I don't like the idea and I think it sounds potentially dangerous, so we're steering away from co-sleeping.

 

[jesssika]

I've always wondered the same thing! But I'm absurdly petrified I'm going to suffocate LO as I'm not a very self aware sleeper! I think I will have to stick to cot
Good luck if you decide to co sleep x

 

[vinteenage]

Yes, and we had a hell of time with it. Finn wouldn't sleep in his own bed until he was nearly 2 since he was so used to sleeping with mom and dad.

We'll be getting an Arm's Reach cosleeper this time around and moving baby into their crib at 5/6 months.

 

[jozylynn896]

I've always wondered the same thing! But I'm absurdly petrified I'm going to suffocate LO as I'm not a very self aware sleeper! I think I will have to stick to cot
Good luck if you decide to co sleep x

That'll change once you're LO is here. Hehe. I was the heaviest sleeper in the world. And not aware at all. Nothing could wake me!
But since I had Noah I can hear a pin drop and jump up haha.

Also on co-sleeping. I personally never even considered it. I like it so much being able to just put him in his moses or later on a crib and being able to just lay down and stretch and sleep.
good luck on whatever you choose though. Everyones different but for me it just would not have happened lol.

 

[MommyGrim]

I've always wondered the same thing! But I'm absurdly petrified I'm going to suffocate LO as I'm not a very self aware sleeper! I think I will have to stick to cot
Good luck if you decide to co sleep x

That'll change once you're LO is here. Hehe. I was the heaviest sleeper in the world. And not aware at all. Nothing could wake me!
But since I had Noah I can hear a pin drop and jump up haha.

Also on co-sleeping. I personally never even considered it. I like it so much being able to just put him in his moses or later on a crib and being able to just lay down and stretch and sleep.
good luck on whatever you choose though. Everyones different but for me it just would not have happened lol.

This is actually true! At least from what I understand. I used to sleep pretty well before I had DD and once she was born, I would be instantly awake if she made even the slightest noises! It sucked SO much when I was sleep deprived but I was still happy that I knew I wouldn't ever sleep through her crying etc.

 

[jozylynn896]

I've always wondered the same thing! But I'm absurdly petrified I'm going to suffocate LO as I'm not a very self aware sleeper! I think I will have to stick to cot
Good luck if you decide to co sleep x

That'll change once you're LO is here. Hehe. I was the heaviest sleeper in the world. And not aware at all. Nothing could wake me!
But since I had Noah I can hear a pin drop and jump up haha.

Also on co-sleeping. I personally never even considered it. I like it so much being able to just put him in his moses or later on a crib and being able to just lay down and stretch and sleep.
good luck on whatever you choose though. Everyones different but for me it just would not have happened lol.

This is actually true! At least from what I understand. I used to sleep pretty well before I had DD and once she was born, I would be instantly awake if she made even the slightest noises! It sucked SO much when I was sleep deprived but I was still happy that I knew I wouldn't ever sleep through her crying etc.

Yes, you become VERY aware. I believe no one who told me this while I was pregnant. its true tho

 

[baby9]

I haven't tried co-sleeping but my family nurse has given me leaflets about it and it apparently it increases the risk of cot death. There are cribs you can buy which attach to the side of your bed with one side missing so you're close to baby. These give you the benefits without the risks. I might get one of these instead. X

 

[vinteenage]

It increases the chances of cot/crib death if you're an idiot about it. No pillows or blankets anywhere near baby, never sleep with baby if intoxicated, don't put baby in between you and the dad, make sure there is no opening between the bed and wall if baby is against there or make sure you have purchased a barrier to keep them from rolling/falling off the side of the bed. It can be INCREDIBLY safe but there are too many idiots out there just plopping the baby down amidst duvets and pillows.

 

[snowfia]

I bed share with my LO. Atm we don't have enough room for her own bed but we're moving next week and we will be putting her in her own bed as I don't want her in the bed with a newborn.
I tried putting her in the moses basket at first and she wouldn't sleep in there and as I breastfeed it is so much easier in the night. LO just latches on herself :L
It really isn't dangerous at all if, like vinteenage said, you're not an idiot about it and just make sure there's no pillows or anything near them. You sleep much more lightly and you're completely aware of them.
It also helps establish breastfeeding as your body knows your baby is there and it helps with your milk supply

 

[fieryphoenix]

I haven't tried co-sleeping but my family nurse has given me leaflets about it and it apparently it increases the risk of cot death. There are cribs you can buy which attach to the side of your bed with one side missing so you're close to baby. These give you the benefits without the risks. I might get one of these instead. X

It DECREASES sids/cot death

 

[17pregnant]

Thanks so much for all your input! There is a lot of things I have to consider and I understand that. I have already looked and read about all the safe ways to do it, and I am not a smoker, so that immensely decreases the risks of SIDS. I am thinking about the arms reach or a little bed to put on my bed so LO has their own space, but I suppose I won't know until he or she is here

 

[ClairAye]

I did it some nights OH was away and we took him in at 7 months due to teething, it is lovely but I don't plan on doing it with this baby, it's too much hassle getting them back in the cot and my sister works with someone who's 5 year old refuses his own bed, that really put me off!

 

[kimberleyrobx]

My sister is 7 in september and she still refuses to sleep in her own DOUBLE bed, point blank refuses to sleep anywhere without mum! and she has no will power as to actually get her into her own bed, so shes stuck with her! really put me off co-sleeping! the most ive done is giving emily a night feed (when she still had one) and maybe falling asleep for an hour in the bed, and then regretting it when i woke up and swiftly move her back to the cot! same with nathan! i refuse to co-sleep because im terrified they become too attached to the bed and dont sleep in their own, although i have nothing against it xx

 

[x__amour]

I co-slept! It was great, I loved snuggling. She did go into her crib at 4 months though and into her own room at 6 months. I would co-sleep again though.

 

[justhoping]

It increases the chances of cot/crib death if you're an idiot about it. No pillows or blankets anywhere near baby, never sleep with baby if intoxicated, don't put baby in between you and the dad, make sure there is no opening between the bed and wall if baby is against there or make sure you have purchased a barrier to keep them from rolling/falling off the side of the bed. It can be INCREDIBLY safe but there are too many idiots out there just plopping the baby down amidst duvets and pillows.

wow,..strong feelings from someone who isnt in bed with people who co slept and lost there baby..

yes some are idiots but not all...

one of my friends co slept with all her kids, she had 6...

she did EVERYTHING right but the baby still died from cot death and to this day she is broken....

i have on occasion co slept but when i do I myself have panicked...

even no matter how safe I have made my bed, in my thoughts if there is someone else in the bed its dangerous for the baby...

i wake up so panicked because im so scared I may roll over or whatever....

the baby is so tiny and im huge plus just other problems i think come with co sleeping that its just not a good idea.

but i wouldnt sit and call everyone an idiot if something happened to there babies...the fact is like it or not cot death increases with co sleeping no matter how safe you make it...

my friend use to argue with people till she was spitting about how safe it was and now she is just lost ...and she is not an IDIOT..

accidents happen, as parents i think its our responsibility to make all environments as safe as possible..

those co sleeping beds they have for this now I think are great...if your going to co sleep i would think that would be the best...baby is right next to you but is in a safe environment....

cot death can happen period even without co sleeping but co sleeping does ramp it up..and if we as parents can do something to protect and reduce the risks i say we should...

again i think calling everyone who had problems co sleeping idiots a bit harsh...