Thinking ahead, as you do..

[mummyluv]

I don't think we'll be trying it. I don't like the idea and I think it sounds potentially dangerous, so we're steering away from co-sleeping.

Same! I've always thought that too and have always been told that it can be theoretically VERY dangerous especially with heavy sleepers. And believe me i'm a really heavy sleeper even when I was a tiny baby my Mum told me that I slept through the night from a really early age!! (I guess I was just as Lazy back then) I think that LO will stay with me and OH at first just for convenience (Like mentioned above I'm quite lazy and don't think I could be bothered to go all the way to another room at 2am) But as soon as LO is sleeping for at least the majority of the night they will be moved into there own room.

 

[baby9]

It increases the chances of cot/crib death if you're an idiot about it. No pillows or blankets anywhere near baby, never sleep with baby if intoxicated, don't put baby in between you and the dad, make sure there is no opening between the bed and wall if baby is against there or make sure you have purchased a barrier to keep them from rolling/falling off the side of the bed. It can be INCREDIBLY safe but there are too many idiots out there just plopping the baby down amidst duvets and pillows.

wow,..strong feelings from someone who isnt in bed with people who co slept and lost there baby..

yes some are idiots but not all...

one of my friends co slept with all her kids, she had 6...

she did EVERYTHING right but the baby still died from cot death and to this day she is broken....

i have on occasion co slept but when i do I myself have panicked...

even no matter how safe I have made my bed, in my thoughts if there is someone else in the bed its dangerous for the baby...

i wake up so panicked because im so scared I may roll over or whatever....

the baby is so tiny and im huge plus just other problems i think come with co sleeping that its just not a good idea.

but i wouldnt sit and call everyone an idiot if something happened to there babies...the fact is like it or not cot death increases with co sleeping no matter how safe you make it...

my friend use to argue with people till she was spitting about how safe it was and now she is just lost ...and she is not an IDIOT..

accidents happen, as parents i think its our responsibility to make all environments as safe as possible..

those co sleeping beds they have for this now I think are great...if your going to co sleep i would think that would be the best...baby is right next to you but is in a safe environment....

cot death can happen period even without co sleeping but co sleeping does ramp it up..and if we as parents can do something to protect and reduce the risks i say we should...

again i think calling everyone who had problems co sleeping idiots a bit harsh...

WSS. If health professionals say the extra body heat and other factors can increase SIDS risks, then that's the advice I'll listen to. I was only trying to help OP as she asked for people's input and it's something she may not have been aware of. No need to be rude really...

 

[justhoping]

double post

 

[17pregnant]

I understand all the risks, i'm currently studying SIDS so yes I know it can increase the risks, but there are many other factors. I just wanted to see what the reality is like rather than whats on paper

 

[TwilightAgain]

I think co-sleeping sounds fabulous for those who wish to do it. I'm not expecting but its definitely something i'd look into when the time comes though i'm going to read up on it like crazy to make sure its done safe etc etc. I've noticed in the US they do really cool co-sleeper which give baby their own private space in the bed which is rather cool. Not sure they do them in the UK though. The side co-sleepers look quite cool too that attach to the bed so baby still has their own space. Having said that though, I probably no doubt will stick to a cot for my own peace of mind but you never know really until baby comes so I hear so I will keep an open mind.

Definitely worth looking into though!

I am confused about how they recommend not co-sleeping if you're overtired though doesn't early motherhood guarantee sleep deprivation? hmmm confusing! if anyone has any knowledge on this, feel free to enlighten me

 

[17pregnant]

I think co-sleeping sounds fabulous for those who wish to do it. I'm not expecting but its definitely something i'd look into when the time comes though i'm going to read up on it like crazy to make sure its done safe etc etc. I've noticed in the US they do really cool co-sleeper which give baby their own private space in the bed which is rather cool. Not sure they do them in the UK though. The side co-sleepers look quite cool too that attach to the bed so baby still has their own space. Having said that though, I probably no doubt will stick to a cot for my own peace of mind but you never know really until baby comes so I hear so I will keep an open mind.

Definitely worth looking into though!

I am confused about how they recommend not co-sleeping if you're overtired though doesn't early motherhood guarantee sleep deprivation? hmmm confusing! if anyone has any knowledge on this, feel free to enlighten me

In NZ where I am it's hard (and expensive) to find the flash co-sleeping contraptions! And yes I know I have always been confused about your question too. I think it's more directed at dad? Although i'm not 100% sure

 

[octosquishy]

If you don't want too awful mixed of reviews, I might go into the Natural Parenting board and ask there


I am neither for nor against co-sleeping (it's fine for some people I guess, lol! I just think it makes for really clingy children, myself) BUT, you can't just start co-sleeping halfway through the first year, like I tried.
My son got to where he wouldn't go to sleep unless I laid down in a dark room with him and gave him his bottle in bed with him, but, I'd be damned if he wanted to stay in bed with me for 5 minutes after he fell asleep, he wanted his own space in his own crib, he got used to it.
The only downfall to co-sleeping that I see from other people on here, is that if you do that for naps as well, sometimes the baby wakes up if you try to get up, and then you can't get anything done (which trust me, is fine for the first couple of months, then you really can't do that anymore lol, laundry, dishes, etc. calls)

It's all up to you sweetheart, you have to weigh out the pros and cons.

 

[17pregnant]

For sure I will definitely be weighing up pros and cons thanks everyone for your opinions! I suppose we will just have to wait and see, either way, whether I will co-sleep or not, I will have baby close to me. Maybe a moses basket next to my bed, but we will definitely see

 

[justhoping]

For sure I will definitely be weighing up pros and cons thanks everyone for your opinions! I suppose we will just have to wait and see, either way, whether I will co-sleep or not, I will have baby close to me. Maybe a moses basket next to my bed, but we will definitely see

this is what I always did with my babes, it was really easy he was right there next to me in there basket and safe in his own space
when they get bigger they have those small cribs they can fit in till two yrs old..
i also had my children right next to me in that until they where to big for it....
im all for kids being right there next to you....it just makes it so much easier and its a bonding experience..
but in there own safe place

everyone gave you good advice for both......

 

[AP]

Justhoping I think you need to go back and re-read vinteenages post? I think you've taken her completely wrong, you are in fact agreeing with her? Both of you say co-sleeping is safe if its done properly.

OP - I was completely against it once upon a time. Our first was also a very premature baby so it was a huge no-no in my mind. We had a second baby, who was healthy and term, and she had no issues. She was also breastfed. Generally its said you are more in tune with your baby while you both sleep if you breastfeed (theres always someone who takes offense to this,but it is in no way a jibe at those who FF, its just a natural fact) Had I FF our second from the start I would have never had the confidence to co-sleep but knowing that the fact I was breastfeeding was a pro to co-sleeping, I went for it.

Indeed we did get more sleep. I FF my first baby when she got home, and we got far less sleep
Breastfeeding and co-sleeping is easy peasy and you dont have to get up

Like most of the ladies have said, if you are safe about it, ensure you wear the right clothing, and keep pillows and duvets away, and the baby is on the outside of the bed, then you should be just fine.

A co-sleeper that attaches to the bed is a fantastic idea, they can be pricey but oh boy its worth it!

You'll find your way!

The only con I found was I got cramp a lot, as there is a position you should use to sleep as well, and I always got a bit sore!

 

[justhoping]

Justhoping I think you need to go back and re-read vinteenages post? I think you've taken her completely wrong, you are in fact agreeing with her? Both of you say co-sleeping is safe if its done properly.

OP - I was completely against it once upon a time. Our first was also a very premature baby so it was a huge no-no in my mind. We had a second baby, who was healthy and term, and she had no issues. She was also breastfed. Generally its said you are more in tune with your baby while you both sleep if you breastfeed (theres always someone who takes offense to this,but it is in no way a jibe at those who FF, its just a natural fact) Had I FF our second from the start I would have never had the confidence to co-sleep but knowing that the fact I was breastfeeding was a pro to co-sleeping, I went for it.

Indeed we did get more sleep. I FF my first baby when she got home, and we got far less sleep
Breastfeeding and co-sleeping is easy peasy and you dont have to get up

Like most of the ladies have said, if you are safe about it, ensure you wear the right clothing, and keep pillows and duvets away, and the baby is on the outside of the bed, then you should be just fine.

A co-sleeper that attaches to the bed is a fantastic idea, they can be pricey but oh boy its worth it!

You'll find your way!

The only con I found was I got cramp a lot, as there is a position you should use to sleep as well, and I always got a bit sore!

''im agreeing that a co sleeping bed that attaches to the bed is better and a moses basket is also better if one wants to have there baby close but in a safe place as well....
I have done co sleeping in the same bed here and there but do not suggest it for obvious reasons...
dont know what your talking about in agreeing with somone...if it means i agree with it as long as the baby has there own space, Yes.....that is correct...