Hello, I am 24 years old and currently 37 weeks pregnant with a little boy. This is an unplanned pregnancy and I am no longer with the father. Lately I have been wrestling with decision on whether or not to give this child up for adoption. I want what is best for this little guy. I have a steady job and know that I can be a good mother, I just don't want this poor little child to have to suffer because of my mistakes. He will also end up spending a lot of his young life being raised by a nanny since my job requires that I work 10 hour shifts overnights. That just isn't fair to him.
The reason I am on here is because I don't know what to do because of the father. He was very excited about the pregnancy from the very beginning. I left him because he was starting to become a bit mentally abusive towards me and was using me for my money. I was not happy in the relationship and left so that I could get myself healthy again for the baby as all the stress of being with him was making me sick. The father then began to be verbally abusive towards me in text messages and in his facebook posts because he wasn't getting his way. His mother and brother both support me in my pregnancy and my decision to leave their son/brother.
I did recently ask him what he thought of adoption and all he had to say was that if I didn't want the baby he would take him out to Baltimore where he is planning on going to school and play hockey a few weeks after the baby is born. This guy only 22 and also has a criminal record. He served 17 days in jail and is now under 5 years supervised probation due to a him taking a plea bargain in a case where he was accused of terroristic threats and false imprisonment again a former girlfriend, he can't seem to hold down a job for more than a few months because he either quits or messes up too many times. If I choose to parent he said he will support me, but on our terms.. he wants to keep the government out of it in case he can't make a payment one month. Right now I am unsure because if he were to stop adoption proceedings, will that give him an edge in a custody battle? I don't want him raising this child, he is sexist, thinks the world revolves around him, can hardly pay for his own rent and enjoys sleeping around, he plans on being a full time athlete, student and employee.. how does he think he can raise a child at the same time? I want to know if anyone else has been in a similar situation and what happened with them?
The reason I am on here is because I don't know what to do because of the father. He was very excited about the pregnancy from the very beginning. I left him because he was starting to become a bit mentally abusive towards me and was using me for my money. I was not happy in the relationship and left so that I could get myself healthy again for the baby as all the stress of being with him was making me sick. The father then began to be verbally abusive towards me in text messages and in his facebook posts because he wasn't getting his way. His mother and brother both support me in my pregnancy and my decision to leave their son/brother.
I did recently ask him what he thought of adoption and all he had to say was that if I didn't want the baby he would take him out to Baltimore where he is planning on going to school and play hockey a few weeks after the baby is born. This guy only 22 and also has a criminal record. He served 17 days in jail and is now under 5 years supervised probation due to a him taking a plea bargain in a case where he was accused of terroristic threats and false imprisonment again a former girlfriend, he can't seem to hold down a job for more than a few months because he either quits or messes up too many times. If I choose to parent he said he will support me, but on our terms.. he wants to keep the government out of it in case he can't make a payment one month. Right now I am unsure because if he were to stop adoption proceedings, will that give him an edge in a custody battle? I don't want him raising this child, he is sexist, thinks the world revolves around him, can hardly pay for his own rent and enjoys sleeping around, he plans on being a full time athlete, student and employee.. how does he think he can raise a child at the same time? I want to know if anyone else has been in a similar situation and what happened with them?