Did your child start sleeping through and not waking for boob/bottle etc on thier own, or did you do something to encourage it?
Ilana slept through from 3 weeks to about 4.5 months. She used to be in a hammock but by about 4 months she wanted to stretch out more so we moved her to a cotbed next to our bed. We ended up taking the side off the cot as her night waking got more frequent and she was up more and more...
A few times when she was smaller I tried shhing and patting and all that malarky but it never worked with her, she'd get more and more upset the longer I did it and I couldn't bear to see or hear her so upset. I also tried not feeding her if she woke before a certain time, and then only feeding for a set time and reducing this gradually... but it went the same way, with her becoming distraught and I just couldn't continue.
I am a full time primary teacher of young kids and it is exhausting, so we decided that I would just continue to give her boob when she woke so I could get as much sleep as possible. For ages we've been saying 'we'll deal with it in the holidays' but now it is the holidays I can't face any kind of sleep training still - I just can't bear to hear her cry when I could be doing something about it.
She sometimes goes 7-4 without waking then has a feed and she's out again until 7am, other nights she's awake at 10, 12, 1, 3, 5, 6, 7!!! Normally she'll wake 2/3 times.
So I'd love to know if and when this changed for other co-sleepers and non-sleep trainers, and if they did just grow out of it or if you had to help them. My mum and all HVs and half the world seems to be telling me that she'll never give it up of her own accord and you have to be cruel to be kind etc etc but I just can't bear sleep training. My instinct is that she just isn't ready to sleep through yet but she will in the end... but then I get the doubts and all the HVs words whispering in my ears!!!
ETA I don't have a problem with others using sleep training/CC etc but it's just not for me.
Ilana slept through from 3 weeks to about 4.5 months. She used to be in a hammock but by about 4 months she wanted to stretch out more so we moved her to a cotbed next to our bed. We ended up taking the side off the cot as her night waking got more frequent and she was up more and more...
A few times when she was smaller I tried shhing and patting and all that malarky but it never worked with her, she'd get more and more upset the longer I did it and I couldn't bear to see or hear her so upset. I also tried not feeding her if she woke before a certain time, and then only feeding for a set time and reducing this gradually... but it went the same way, with her becoming distraught and I just couldn't continue.
I am a full time primary teacher of young kids and it is exhausting, so we decided that I would just continue to give her boob when she woke so I could get as much sleep as possible. For ages we've been saying 'we'll deal with it in the holidays' but now it is the holidays I can't face any kind of sleep training still - I just can't bear to hear her cry when I could be doing something about it.
She sometimes goes 7-4 without waking then has a feed and she's out again until 7am, other nights she's awake at 10, 12, 1, 3, 5, 6, 7!!! Normally she'll wake 2/3 times.
So I'd love to know if and when this changed for other co-sleepers and non-sleep trainers, and if they did just grow out of it or if you had to help them. My mum and all HVs and half the world seems to be telling me that she'll never give it up of her own accord and you have to be cruel to be kind etc etc but I just can't bear sleep training. My instinct is that she just isn't ready to sleep through yet but she will in the end... but then I get the doubts and all the HVs words whispering in my ears!!!
ETA I don't have a problem with others using sleep training/CC etc but it's just not for me.