Greetings,
I'm new here but am quite old comparitively. Today is the 25th anniversary of our loss. I was in my 24th week (possibly viable by today's standards) and the sorrow of losing that first little boy has always stayed with me. I wish that we would have had forums in those days to connect with others, it was such an isolating experience then. I was at least lucky in that I had one sister who was willing to listen and to allow me to mourn, sadly it wasn't something folks encouraged you to talk about then. I can say only that from the moment you know you are pregnant, your "mom dreams" kick in and you have viewed your child's life in your minds eye in so many ways. Even 25 years later, he is still a part of my heart. One of the things I hated hearing most at the time was "it happened for a reason", that about drove me insane! In my case however, it actually did, my daughter will celebrate her 24th Birthday tomorrow and she wouldn't be here had I carried my little boy to term and delivered him.
For all of you dealing with loss, I am so sorry, while time doesn't heal, it does soften things and I wish you all Godspeed to the place where you can find your "new normal".
Thanks for listening.
Elizabeth
I'm new here but am quite old comparitively. Today is the 25th anniversary of our loss. I was in my 24th week (possibly viable by today's standards) and the sorrow of losing that first little boy has always stayed with me. I wish that we would have had forums in those days to connect with others, it was such an isolating experience then. I was at least lucky in that I had one sister who was willing to listen and to allow me to mourn, sadly it wasn't something folks encouraged you to talk about then. I can say only that from the moment you know you are pregnant, your "mom dreams" kick in and you have viewed your child's life in your minds eye in so many ways. Even 25 years later, he is still a part of my heart. One of the things I hated hearing most at the time was "it happened for a reason", that about drove me insane! In my case however, it actually did, my daughter will celebrate her 24th Birthday tomorrow and she wouldn't be here had I carried my little boy to term and delivered him.
For all of you dealing with loss, I am so sorry, while time doesn't heal, it does soften things and I wish you all Godspeed to the place where you can find your "new normal".
Thanks for listening.
Elizabeth
..I was 22 weeks.. I will never forget that day and how I just screamed, it was awful...I didn't want another baby, I was scared..Now, I am 45 and I wouldn't dare try..I will grieve my little peanut till I die...........I go to her grave every week and probably will till I am dead...
