Tiny Rant: People are obsessed!

[Lucy Lu]

another rant from me - i hate being made to feel abnormal by oh's family because our LO isn't weaning yet (at only 4 months!). there are members of his family that were sticvking rusks in bottles when their babies were 8 wks old, and they talk like I am in the wrong for holding out a bit longer!!!!!!! they dont stop to think for a second that they might have been jumping the gun in a major way!

 

[Bingo]

they try to stick fingers in his mouth

WTF?!! Keep your filthy fingers to yourself I would say! Yuck. And as for trying to feed your baby when your back is turned. That is outrageous. What is wrong with people? Sheesh. Good for you sticking to your guns.

 

[becstar]

I get asked this all the time, especially at work where I express 3 times a day. I just reply 'until she doesn't want it anymore'. I replied with 'at least until she's 1' once and the person who'd asked looked at me like I'd said 'well, I intend to breastfeed her on her wedding day'!!!

I started weaning onto rice and then some vegetables before 6 months in exceptional circumstances but Ilana still has at least 4 big booby feeds a day and will do for as long as she wants. My husband and I don't forsee the need to ever buy any formula.

 

[silver_penny]

But don't you ladies know that having a baby is supposed to be EXPENSIVE?!? I mean, you have to buy all the latest gizmos,put them in the most fasionable clothes, put them in disposable diapers for the convenience, and by golly! that formula may cost a lot, but its a necessity!!

It aggrivates me to the core when people try to tell me how to raise my own child and how much it will cost me. Oh yeah, and I'm supposed to help put them through college on top of it all. If my child can't pay his own way through college, I guess he wont be going. I had to pay my own way, so why the heck can't my own kids?

And what's up with having to buy the baby rice and oatmeal? Can't I make it myself? Or the baby puree's either? Oh, that's right, I'm supposed to pay ten times the cost of the food just so it will be conveniently pureed for me. Granted, its nice to have if you can afford it, but still not a necessity. And you have to love the comments about co-sleeping. My favorite one is "What if you roll over on your baby and smother him?" Yeah... apparently they take everything in from society and dont care to do a little research of their own.

/rant

 

[madasa]

And what's up with having to buy the baby rice and oatmeal? Can't I make it myself? Or the baby puree's either? Oh, that's right, I'm supposed to pay ten times the cost of the food just so it will be conveniently pureed for me.

/rant

You don't even have to puree it... if you wait until the baby is ready for solids, you can offer food which he can pick up and put in his mouth himself

 

[Sarah+]

When I hear, 'Oh, you're STILL feeding...?', I just choose to take it as a compliment. Breastfeeding for us was a real stuggle for the first couple of months and is still a challenge, so I just think how well we've done to stick with it (we're combined feeding now but still bf morning and night). I know that a lot of poeple, like my MIL, who seem surprised, also found bf v. hard and may not of had the support that I had which is why they expect us to of stopped as well. I wouldn't ask a ff mum why she didn't bf (unless a close friend etc.), as that would be considered offensive, so why ask the other way?

 

[madasa]

//I wouldn't ask a ff mum why she didn't bf (unless a close friend etc.), as that would be considered offensive, so why ask the other way?//

You're better NOT asking.... trust me on this. It's considered VERY offensive by a lot of mums.... Even in the context of sympthay/support (thinking maybe they wanted to bfd and couldn't/didn't have the right support etc, which is pretty common.)

 

[Lu28]

I get this alot, especially as we're approaching the one year mark, it's as though people are starting to get uncomfortable with me 'still' bfing as if it's any of their business. I use formula for LO's porridge as it took me 3 30 minute pumping sessions a day to get enough for it and I just don't have the time. MIL saw the box in the cupboard and seemed so excited when she asked if she was coming off the boob and then seemed disappointed when I said no?!

 

[Lucy Lu]

I get this alot, especially as we're approaching the one year mark, it's as though people are starting to get uncomfortable with me 'still' bfing as if it's any of their business. I use formula for LO's porridge as it took me 3 30 minute pumping sessions a day to get enough for it and I just don't have the time. MIL saw the box in the cupboard and seemed so excited when she asked if she was coming off the boob and then seemed disappointed when I said no?!

hehe don't comments like that strengthen our resolve to go on even longer?

 

[madasa]

I get this alot, especially as we're approaching the one year mark, it's as though people are starting to get uncomfortable with me 'still' bfing as if it's any of their business. I use formula for LO's porridge as it took me 3 30 minute pumping sessions a day to get enough for it and I just don't have the time. MIL saw the box in the cupboard and seemed so excited when she asked if she was coming off the boob and then seemed disappointed when I said no?!

hehe don't comments like that strengthen our resolve to go on even longer?

It does me! Why get so excited about formula? Hardly a cause for celebration... I mean, have you SEEN how much that stuff costs??

 

[MummyJo]

I'd say something back like... "Well I was going to keep going until he starts secondary school, I guess it'd be just weird after that."
Would soon shut them up.

 

[Seraphim]

I get this alot, especially as we're approaching the one year mark, it's as though people are starting to get uncomfortable with me 'still' bfing as if it's any of their business. I use formula for LO's porridge as it took me 3 30 minute pumping sessions a day to get enough for it and I just don't have the time. MIL saw the box in the cupboard and seemed so excited when she asked if she was coming off the boob and then seemed disappointed when I said no?!

I swear my MIL near wet herself when she saw the lil bottles we give colief in... not to mention when she saw a bit of gum she mistook for a tooth

 

[Lucy Lu]

I get this alot, especially as we're approaching the one year mark, it's as though people are starting to get uncomfortable with me 'still' bfing as if it's any of their business. I use formula for LO's porridge as it took me 3 30 minute pumping sessions a day to get enough for it and I just don't have the time. MIL saw the box in the cupboard and seemed so excited when she asked if she was coming off the boob and then seemed disappointed when I said no?!

I swear my MIL near wet herself when she saw the lil bottles we give colief in... not to mention when she saw a bit of gum she mistook for a tooth

Do you mean she thinks you'll have to stop when her teeth come through Seraphim? I've said to my MIL that I will carry on bfeeding a bit after six months and she's totally dismissed it and said I won't be able to do that for sure when he has teeth. Nice and supportive there

 

[Rebaby]

People are all about the teeth aren't they?!

When OH's Dad and Stepmum visited when Toby was only a couple of weeks old she was telling me how- it would be "better when he is on the bottle", how i'd have to give up bf when he got teeth and how X (her Son's LO) was weaned at 4 months and on cows milk by god knows what age etc etc.

Plus my mum has told me the same story a couple of times now about a woman who was on the PN ward at the same time as her when she had 1 of my younger sisters who's baby was born with teeth and how she couldn't breastfeed because of it

I am trying to train myself to tune all the cr*p out as white noise but it isn't easy, at the minute it seems all i hear is: when will you stop breastfeeding, when are you going back to work, what about when he gets teeth, he'll be eating soon won't he, when are you going to wean, he can have something from a spoon soon, do you think he'd be better on the bottle, etc etc etc but i am hoping that in time all i will hear is blah blah blah blah blah!

 

[madasa]

People are all about the teeth aren't they?!

Yeah, like it doesn't hurt when they bite down with "just" their gums!!

 

[bana]

People are all about the teeth aren't they?!

Yeah, like it doesn't hurt when they bite down with "just" their gums!!

 

[Lu28]

Aisling's on her third tooth now and we're always getting the teeth comments too. I've also been told I'll be making a rod for my own back by continuing to bf after she got teeth - never quite worked that one out!

And the cost of formula, I know! We get the Hipp one because it comes in 2 separate sealed bags so the box lasts us 6 weeks but I still nearly choke every time! Only one more box, then it'll be cows milk in porridge

 

[Lucy Lu]

Hehe - one more comment about teeth from anyone and tell them you are stopping when the adult teeth come through because they will really hurt!!!!

...My goodness, I should really go back to bed - LO is not even feeding at the moment!

Loving this thread Rebaby!

 

[anothersquish]

I got a good one yesterday, thought those on this thread would appreciate it...Theo was weighed at 10lb2oz...much proud me for him having put on 1lb2oz in 15 days. I told MIL this (when she turned up on the doorstep unannounced...grrr) and she straight away says "Oh hes so big hes not going to be getting enough from your milk soon, would you like me to pick you up some hungry baby formula?" *eye twitch* I mean how the hell she work that one out? Its "MY" milk thats put the weight on him not fresh air so how come 'my' milk suddenly wont satisfy him just because hes putting weight on quickly?
Mind you the HV also had to ask three times how I was feeding him and also commented he was "putting weight on like a FF baby" ...thats nice...and? Dont think she believed me til I decided to feed him whilst she was sat there just to proove he was BF and I wasnt just saying it.

 

[madasa]

I know folk mean well, but argh! the ignorance is astounding! It's your milk that is putting the weight on him, and your milk will keep changing and adjusting to suit him as he grows so that he continues to thrive!