Hi everyone. I just wanted to find some support here. We have been TTC for 29 mos for #2. With our daughter, it only took 3 months! We have tried clomid, ovidrel, progesterone, estrogen, hysterscopy, femera, etc. Almost everything except IVF...and we frankly can't afford it. I have stopped my fertility treatments for the last two months because my mood swings and hormones were so severe. And not to mention the awful TWW of always wondering if some little twitch was a sign of BFP. And I am just tired. Tired of hoping honestly. But I don't want to give up, so it feels like this really frustrating battle inside of me. Does anyone else feel this way? I just need to know if this is normal. Thanks
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vkj73
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I hear you. We've been trying since summer 2012.
Tomorrow will be our 8th or 9th IUI...there was an anuovulatory cycle in there so I lost count.
We have a "next steps" appointment set for late January, but honestly, I don't know if I have the "next steps" in me.
We weren't sure if we were going to have #2, but we decided to try, and if it worked/didn't work, that would be our "sign."
I'm beginning to think, this is our sign.
I'll be 41 in April, so the age factor makes me nervous.
Let's keep each other posted.
Tomorrow will be our 8th or 9th IUI...there was an anuovulatory cycle in there so I lost count.
We have a "next steps" appointment set for late January, but honestly, I don't know if I have the "next steps" in me.
We weren't sure if we were going to have #2, but we decided to try, and if it worked/didn't work, that would be our "sign."
I'm beginning to think, this is our sign.
I'll be 41 in April, so the age factor makes me nervous.
Let's keep each other posted.
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Hi ladies. I 100% understand not wanting to try and not wanting to give up at the same time. Trying is frustrating, tiring, stressful and I turn into a looney symptom spotter every month.
I also tried for 3 months to get my beautiful daughter. She is 3 1/2 now and we've been trying for number 2 for coming up on two years now. I've tried Femara, Ovidrel with no luck. I'm not a candidate for IVF. I actually do know what my fertility problem is and my "next step" is egg donation/adoption which I don't think is for me. So frustrating to not have any control over what my body is doing and over my big life plan.
I just read a book called The Tao of Fertility. Ironically I am a laboratory scientist by trade but also a believer in eastern medicine (not a common combination). This book is fantastic. It talks about the chinese medicine approach to infertility. The basics of it is that if you can't get/stay pregnant it's because there is an imbalance/problem in your overall health that needs to be fixed. It discusses using diet, herbs, supplements, exercise, acupuncture to improve your overall health and boost your fertility. The testimonials in the book are amazing.
Upside of chemotherapy was it saved my life; downside is it destroyed my fertility. I used acupuncture once before to start my cycles after they had completely stopped for over a year due to the chemo. I got pregnant recently but had a miscarriage and my cycles haven't started back up since then (just 10 weeks). I just went back to my acupuncturist this week. I'm upset with myself that I ever stopped going! But I'm back now and I have very high hopes of getting pregnant and also just feeling much better overall.
I hope we all find ourselves with a little baby to hold soon
I also tried for 3 months to get my beautiful daughter. She is 3 1/2 now and we've been trying for number 2 for coming up on two years now. I've tried Femara, Ovidrel with no luck. I'm not a candidate for IVF. I actually do know what my fertility problem is and my "next step" is egg donation/adoption which I don't think is for me. So frustrating to not have any control over what my body is doing and over my big life plan.
I just read a book called The Tao of Fertility. Ironically I am a laboratory scientist by trade but also a believer in eastern medicine (not a common combination). This book is fantastic. It talks about the chinese medicine approach to infertility. The basics of it is that if you can't get/stay pregnant it's because there is an imbalance/problem in your overall health that needs to be fixed. It discusses using diet, herbs, supplements, exercise, acupuncture to improve your overall health and boost your fertility. The testimonials in the book are amazing.
Upside of chemotherapy was it saved my life; downside is it destroyed my fertility. I used acupuncture once before to start my cycles after they had completely stopped for over a year due to the chemo. I got pregnant recently but had a miscarriage and my cycles haven't started back up since then (just 10 weeks). I just went back to my acupuncturist this week. I'm upset with myself that I ever stopped going! But I'm back now and I have very high hopes of getting pregnant and also just feeling much better overall.
I hope we all find ourselves with a little baby to hold soon
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I completely understand! As my signature shows we are on cycle 23 and just passed the 2 year mark since we started TTC #2. DS took 5 months and now it seems was possibly a miracle baby!
We are just about to see specialists and so I have so many mixed feelings. I'm delighted to finally get things going but I'm frustrated we are only seeing the specialists now - I feel like it should have happened a year ago. We did find out last year that DH has a low sperm count so we assumed that was our problem but for all we know I have problems as well after having my C-Sect.
I'm so tired of the waiting - every month I go through the battle in my head of 'maybe it's just not meant to be and I need to accept that' to feeling that I don't care what it takes, a want a sibling for my DS! I wish this TTC journey just wasn't so draining and difficult! For so long I was fine with it not happening (realising of course that it doesn't always happen straight away) and then I started to get super confused as it didn't seem to make sense. Now I'm just fed up and want to know one way or another whether we have a chance or not.
I am also struggling a bit with the fact that DS has such a low sperm count. I just don't understand it. Everything I read on how to improve sperm count is stuff we have always done anyway. It is also so difficult that I have absolutely no control over the situation. Don't get me wrong none of us do, but I feel like if the issue was with me I wouldn't mind having to take 30 vitamins a day or medication or anything really! Whereas DH has all of the control and it seems he's not really into anything just now. I got him Fertilaid which he is taking but only 2 a day. Even at that he has started to complain that he doesn't like the way he feels so I have no chance of getting him to take 8! I've mentioned acupuncture to him as well (I have had it done in the past and LOVE it!) but he just kind of brushed it off. I am hoping his trip to the Urologist might wake him up to our situation as right now I feel like he just thinks everything is ok, it's just going to take time......
Hugs to you all
We are just about to see specialists and so I have so many mixed feelings. I'm delighted to finally get things going but I'm frustrated we are only seeing the specialists now - I feel like it should have happened a year ago. We did find out last year that DH has a low sperm count so we assumed that was our problem but for all we know I have problems as well after having my C-Sect.
I'm so tired of the waiting - every month I go through the battle in my head of 'maybe it's just not meant to be and I need to accept that' to feeling that I don't care what it takes, a want a sibling for my DS! I wish this TTC journey just wasn't so draining and difficult! For so long I was fine with it not happening (realising of course that it doesn't always happen straight away) and then I started to get super confused as it didn't seem to make sense. Now I'm just fed up and want to know one way or another whether we have a chance or not.
I am also struggling a bit with the fact that DS has such a low sperm count. I just don't understand it. Everything I read on how to improve sperm count is stuff we have always done anyway. It is also so difficult that I have absolutely no control over the situation. Don't get me wrong none of us do, but I feel like if the issue was with me I wouldn't mind having to take 30 vitamins a day or medication or anything really! Whereas DH has all of the control and it seems he's not really into anything just now. I got him Fertilaid which he is taking but only 2 a day. Even at that he has started to complain that he doesn't like the way he feels so I have no chance of getting him to take 8! I've mentioned acupuncture to him as well (I have had it done in the past and LOVE it!) but he just kind of brushed it off. I am hoping his trip to the Urologist might wake him up to our situation as right now I feel like he just thinks everything is ok, it's just going to take time......
Hugs to you all
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Your not alone. I've been married since Aug 2011, have not been on any protection since and not a blimp of a pregnancy. Its quite sad and disappointing. At times i beat myself up horribly and then other times I'm fine. My mind has to be my biggest enemy. I did my HSG and blood works.. all normal. Hubby has yet to do his SA. but regardless I'm losing my hopes of ever becoming a mother.
The jealousy and affliction of seeing others with kids is getting worse. I absolutely hate how my body just wont act right. *Sorry to rant*
The jealousy and affliction of seeing others with kids is getting worse. I absolutely hate how my body just wont act right. *Sorry to rant*
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My first son was my first half hearted try, the second, a missed mini-pill while breastfeeding.
Since then, ive MC a few times, had a few CP.....and nothing. I have PCOS, hormonal imbalances, and im overweight.
I wish I was only trying 2 years.....I am at 10 with time running out and only one ovary.
https://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/vitex.html
Since then, ive MC a few times, had a few CP.....and nothing. I have PCOS, hormonal imbalances, and im overweight.
I wish I was only trying 2 years.....I am at 10 with time running out and only one ovary.
https://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/vitex.html
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Hello ladies! I have been trying for #1 for 3 or 4 years on and off. It can be really frustrating. Im at the point of just accepting the fact ill never carry my very own bean. I recently hit my knees and started praying for guidance. Me snd OH have now been discussing adoption. I feel so angry that the one thing a woman is programmed to do and I cant!
