To shower, or NOT to shower.....

[Laylagirl]

Ok....so please ladies be brutally honest with me.

I'm 32....I got divorced 7 years ago and brought 2 children from that marriage. 2 lovely ladies.

I am now remarried with a 2 year old daughter with my husband. We are now expecting our second child, my FOURTH! (I get lots of people disapproving) We found out this one is going to be a boy!

We are very excited and well, now my question is, since I've had three children already, can i have a shower for this baby? Or is this bad taste? I am just so excited to have this new experience, I would like to celebrate every way possible! Im not saying I will be giving myself a shower, but is it wrong to want this child celebrated? With my first 2, I did not have showers, but my husbands family gave us one for our daughter, (my 3rd) and that was two years ago. This little bean is due Nov 22.

Any thoughts are welcomed!!!
Thank you!!

 

[cupcaker]

Why the heck not I say you should. It doesn't even matter that it's a boy anyway...it can simply be because your other daughter had one, so it's making it fair anyway if anyone were to question! I wouldn't even question it as any kind of bad taste personally!

 

[Nina83]

Why are people disapproving?!
I think that each baby deserves to be celebrated as well, why does only the first one deserve a shower? Is this baby going to be any less loved by those around you?
I want to know who thinks it's wrong to have a shower for this LO and
Sorry, I'm not usually violent, I don't know why this bugs me so much!

 

[Laylagirl]

Why are people disapproving?!
I think that each baby deserves to be celebrated as well, why does only the first one deserve a shower? Is this baby going to be any less loved by those around you?
I want to know who thinks it's wrong to have a shower for this LO and
Sorry, I'm not usually violent, I don't know why this bugs me so much!

I think mostly because Im on my fourth child. Im really excited and so is my husband, but other family members of mine (relatives) not my parents or sister, think i have too many children already. Lol....

 

[Nina83]

I still don't get why people disapprove more than 2-3 children.
As long as you give them enough love, there is nothing wrong with more kids.
The only reason I disapprove of my sister having 4 kids is because she had them in 6 years! She'll have more though, and I have no problem with that.
Kids are a blessing

 

[Brightxeyes]

Have one!

In England we don't really do full on big showers, and I feel shy having all attention on me, but my sisters going to organise one anyway, but I reckon it will be more toned down than your typical shower, as I don't like surprise parties or anything BIG like that!

I definitely want one as I want to celebrate, but I would definitely do one for each of my children. I can understand that you'd feel unsure on your fourth child, I would feel the same also, but hell no, celebrate each child!!

 

[Maybe1daysoon]

I personally think it would be tacky considering this is A. Your 4th child and B. You had a shower two years ago. If you do want something small I personally wouldn't register and clearly print on the invite no gifts please. Some people will still bring something small but at least people won't feel obligated that way.

 

[hopefulfor1st]

I had one with my little boy in 2012 so I would think it inappropriate to have with this girl but if you think the people you invite would be supportive and happy and you are comfortable with it why not

 

[RinnaRoo]

I'd do it. Family and friends are just as excited as you are, they want to celebrate with you! If no one wants to come, they sure as hell don't have to.

 

[Cntrygal]

I'd say it's totally your call. Another option that may appease both sides of opinions is to have a gathering after he arrives. I've heard them called sip'n see's. That way your baby boy gets celebrated, anyone who comes gets to meet him, you can offer refreshments, and those who do want to celebrate him will no doubt bring a gift. Taking the word "shower" out of the equation may cool a few jets. But I'm always the people pleaser, so you should do what is right for you and your family.

 

[PumpkinBump]

It's not tacky. If it was another girl, then I would say no shower. But this is a boy, so you need boy clothes and stuff. I would have a shower for sure!

 

[cookette]

Its not something I would do or encourage..but maybe call it something other than a shower? Call it a celebration, a whatever you want it to be?

I know here in the south they figure your first shower is really for a new momma who may have no clue what all shes really going to need. By the second, you know. If you want a party though, then have one!! Your baby!

 

[lala222]

I say do it up! Why are people disapproving? Cause they're jealous? yep. pretty much! It's your first BOY! Not to mention another beautiful life brought into this world. These miracles can't be celebrated enough, I say! if anyone thinks it's wrong to have a shower for your 4th child, and FIRST boy, hopefully they will know better than to come, therefore it'll make your day even better with only people there that TRULY support you

 

[Unexpected212]

I had a baby shower with my son and I'm having a 'baby sprinkle' for my daughter, it's like a less intense/gift orientated gathering and more of just a social event with party games and food and people can bring stuff if they want but I've stated gifts aren't necessary.

 

[lala222]

I had a baby shower with my son and I'm having a 'baby sprinkle' for my daughter, it's like a less intense/gift orientated gathering and more of just a social event with party games and food and people can bring stuff if they want but I've stated gifts aren't necessary.

I love this idea! I'm totally gonna have a 'baby sprinkle' with this one (seeing as how it's my first girl) that's such a great idea! I'm a social butterfly too, so it sounds awesome. And also a great way to celebrate a new pregnancy and new baby on the way without requiring people to bring gifts!

 

[ParisJeTadore]

My opinion on subsequent showers is this: Unless it's been 10 years since you've had a child and a shower then I don't think it's fair to have one. In the same instance, I think it's very important that every child that comes into the world be celebrated so there are other things you can do that don't involve gifts. Personally, I think we will be having a bbq with our immediate family and friends. No gifts, basically just a party to celebrate our baby! That way you can still have loads of fun, eat lots of great food and enjoy good company of those you love

 

[Laylagirl]

For me, its not so much abiut gufts, because we still have stuff from our daughter and weve purchased plenty of clothes so far and only need small things. Things we can surely purchase. With our daughter, we got a kot of clothes, but nothing big like cribs or furniture or strollers. So this is not the issue. Its mostly about the color! BLUE!!! I love parties and CAKE and just having people over serving food. Im ok with no games, or gifts, I just want to come together and celebrate my blue bundle. But i understand how some think its tacky because its my fourth. Well, maybe I dont. Because whenever I hear of any female friend or relative who is pregnant, instantly i want to know if there is going to be a shower. It doesnt even matter to me what number child she is on. Unless shes having a baby every 10 months and on her 7th. Lol just kidding, i think that because this is a boy, im really wanting to celebrate because i never thought I would have one after 3 girls. As I said before I didnt have showers for my first 2 girls. I never really wanted them and with my first I was kind of young and wanted to do things my way and declined a party. With my second, I had everything leftover from my first daughetr so I needed nothing. With my third, it was 8 years later so I had nothing for her. My husband and I are going to buy clothes, diapers, and a double stroller. We dont need anything else for him. This new experience is what has me so excited. I think he will be my last child also. So I think I will definitley be having a party to celebrate a number of different things for us. If it does make me look tacky for having blue decor for him and yummy cake and some bbq food.....so be it. I have lots to celebrate. Thank you ladies! I appreciate your opinions.

 

[Unexpected212]

I'm in the UK so our baby showers seem to be more like social gatherings with small giftss. Everyone I have been too has had a buffet, party games and people have bought things like clothes/nappies/wipes.

Mine will only be 2 years apart and I'm so excited to get to decorate in pink and have a pink cake this time when last time everything was blue

I wasn't sure whether to have another one but all my friends and family practically begged me so I just called it a baby sprinkle and am having close friends and family round for a good social gathering.

 

[Meljenn]

In the south it is looked down on from the older generation but I love the idea of a "sip and see"
Your friends and family will buy a gift regardless and it doesn't make you seem like your holding your hands out

 

[jhughes0709]

I think all babies should be celebrated. With my 2nd little boy I had just a diaper shower because my oldest 2 were pretty close in age. I don't think it's bad taste at all. This is my 3rd and our small group at church is giving us a shower.