To shower, or NOT to shower.....

[fides]

Im not saying I will be giving myself a shower, but is it wrong to want this child celebrated?

absolutely not! i think every child is special and should be celebrated!

my sons are 15 months apart, and they both had a shower. granted, DS2's was just a lunch meet-up at a restaurant and the invitations said gifts not necessary, but i was sooo humbled by the cute things he got anyway - a picture frame, a new outfit, a blanket made just for him - those sorts of things - special gifts given to welcome him.

i think i've seen somewhere on here call the 2nd one a "sprinkling" instead of a shower. anyway, i say go for it! you have every reason to be excited, and every reason to gather with friends/family to celebrate the new life!

 

[Mushymilkfor2]

I have a friend that is about to have her fourth child. She has three boys and now she's having a girl. She had a shower for her and I really thought nothing of it! No one else seemed to either.

But to be honest I never heard of a second shower being rude or tacky until I saw it on this forum.

 

[heidi87814]

Oh heck! I plan to have more after this one and, believe me, every baby's going to be celebrated in every which way.

Who are they to make judgement on you? What's wrong with 4? I'm one of 5 and, like I said before, we have no intention of stopping yet with baby 3 on the way. Go ahead and do what you need to do.

 

[sprite30]

Here in PA the hot new thing is a sprinkle. Espesially if you have all girls and are now having a boy I would think that everyone would be so excited to celebrate with you. Even if it is to just hang out and enjoy some time together. And the people who don't agree with it probably won't come so who really cares what they think anyway.

As my dh would say any reason to have cake is fine by him. Shower, sprinkle, sip n see gender reveal well have them all but we are social people and our friends know they are always welcomed to celebrate with us and not worry about a gift.

 

[victoria1987]

Firstly, I think big families are awesome and DH and I want four too so good for you!

On the issue of the shower, I see no reason not to "celebrate" but because you had a proper shower two years ago and this is your 4th I would say make it a "no gifts" type of thing. Just make it clear on the invites that you don't want presents but want to have a party to either celebrate your pregnancy or introduce your little guy and I think that you will not step on even the most etiquette sensitive toes. You will probably still get presents though lol, people love to buy for babies! But if it was a proper baby shower, people may feel like it is a bit of a gift grab, especially if they recently attended your first shower.

 

[hopefulfor1st]

I keep looking at the title of this thread and thinking its a question of personal hygiene lol

 

[pLadyBug]

I'd say it's totally your call. Another option that may appease both sides of opinions is to have a gathering after he arrives. I've heard them called sip'n see's. That way your baby boy gets celebrated, anyone who comes gets to meet him, you can offer refreshments, and those who do want to celebrate him will no doubt bring a gift. Taking the word "shower" out of the equation may cool a few jets. But I'm always the people pleaser, so you should do what is right for you and your family.

That's very clever!

 

[Jett55]

I say have one especially since it is a different gender a but even then my sister had a shower for both her boys. But if you dont have any items for a boy umm I see no reason not to have one. Each child is just as important & I don't find it inappropriate doing something to celebrate

 

[Cntrygal]

This is my first and I was just informed yesterday that a few friends are throwing me a shower. The nicest part about it, they won't tell me anything. I just have to give them names and addresses. I'm as curious as a cat and a big planner so not having ahold of the reigns at all drives me a little nuts. But at the same time, we have so much going on that it's nice to know I just have to show up. For any future baby's I'll do the sip'n see or meet'n greet type deal once he/she is here if no one wants to throw a shower.

 

[Laylagirl]

This is my first and I was just informed yesterday that a few friends are throwing me a shower. The nicest part about it, they won't tell me anything. I just have to give them names and addresses. I'm as curious as a cat and a big planner so not having ahold of the reigns at all drives me a little nuts. But at the same time, we have so much going on that it's nice to know I just have to show up. For any future baby's I'll do the sip'n see or meet'n greet type deal once he/she is here if no one wants to throw a shower.

Thats a nice gesture of your friends.... To be honest, i would really like a shower, but im not up for organizing one for myself. I might do a sip and see type party after hes born. When I had my shower two years ago, my mother and sister in law threw it. And while i am grateful for the thought, they did not invite any of MY friends OR family. The party was more for my husbands sake....to show they cared. It was a nice gesture but I did not know any of the family members they had there. Just a handful of my husbands friends. It was a little awkward and they had a DJ and beer, and it rather felt like a house party with gufts instead of a baby shower. Not really my idea....but hey, like i said, a nice gesture and here I am sounding ungrateful. Im looking forward to having an introduction type bbq to invite friends and family to meet my lil guy. Of course no gifts and that will definitley be made clear. As far as celebrating him, we celebrate everyday this new blessing. We got test results back that said normal, so we will be going out for a celebratory dinner to mark this milestone....everything we hear is worth celebrating and I think thats good enough for me! Thanks a bunch!

 

[Leesy]

have the shower and just put gifts not necessary on the invite.

 

[Gnomer]

Please forgive my British confusion, but isn't a shower a way to celebrate the impending arrival of a new bubs? I was always under the impression it's a gathering, and not soley a gift giving event?
If it is just a gathering, then I don't see anything wrong with having another.
If it is actually just a party to receive gifts, then I don't think I agree with having one, nevermind more haha.

 

[Kristle]

I don't see any reason not to have a shower, I understand finances are tighter with larger family's and it could benefit help with items you need. Also showers are a lot of fun!

 

[Scout]

Because whenever I hear of any female friend or relative who is pregnant, instantly i want to know if there is going to be a shower. It doesnt even matter to me what number child she is on.

Exactly the way I am. I love the idea of a sprinkle though...just sounds so cute. Personally, I don't think it's tacky, especially since this one is a different gender. Congratulations!

 

[Cntrygal]

This is my first and I was just informed yesterday that a few friends are throwing me a shower. The nicest part about it, they won't tell me anything. I just have to give them names and addresses. I'm as curious as a cat and a big planner so not having ahold of the reigns at all drives me a little nuts. But at the same time, we have so much going on that it's nice to know I just have to show up. For any future baby's I'll do the sip'n see or meet'n greet type deal once he/she is here if no one wants to throw a shower.

Thats a nice gesture of your friends.... To be honest, i would really like a shower, but im not up for organizing one for myself. I might do a sip and see type party after hes born. When I had my shower two years ago, my mother and sister in law threw it. And while i am grateful for the thought, they did not invite any of MY friends OR family. The party was more for my husbands sake....to show they cared. It was a nice gesture but I did not know any of the family members they had there. Just a handful of my husbands friends. It was a little awkward and they had a DJ and beer, and it rather felt like a house party with gufts instead of a baby shower. Not really my idea....but hey, like i said, a nice gesture and here I am sounding ungrateful. Im looking forward to having an introduction type bbq to invite friends and family to meet my lil guy. Of course no gifts and that will definitley be made clear. As far as celebrating him, we celebrate everyday this new blessing. We got test results back that said normal, so we will be going out for a celebratory dinner to mark this milestone....everything we hear is worth celebrating and I think thats good enough for me! Thanks a bunch!

I'm with you on the sip'n see type deal for #2. That way it can the kind of gathering you want it to be.

I honestly couldn't be happier that they are throwing me a shower, it seriously warms my heart. But originally I really didn't want a shower because I'm horrible at getting thank you's out. No shower=no thank you cards to remember to mail. But the further along I get the more excited I get. I was actually slightly uncomfortable at both my bridal showers b/c it felt weird inviting people to a gathering to bring me stuff. But it already feels different with a baby shower b/c they'll be bringing cute baby stuff for our little guy. It's really about him, not me. The girls won't tell me anything about the shower besides the date/time and I'm providing the names/addresses. I told them I wanted to get thank you cards ready ahead of time and they told me not to worry about it. So hopefully they will be having people put their name/address on an envelope as a way of "signing in", or some other easy peasy way for me to get thank you's out quickly.