today i seriously need a hug!

[jaytee146]

today i saw my ex with another girl driving in a car that he stole money from me to fix on, he grinned and he waved at me. going through this pregnancy is hard enough without constant reminders of the mistake i made by being engaged and living with him. why can't i let go? i truly wanna be a good mother and i wanna be happy. i just feel that i'll be alone forever, and don't say it. . . . this shouldn,t be on my mind i'm scared of being a single parent what if i fail? what if she doesn't understand why her father isn't around.

 

[Ginger84]

Sounds awful, im sorry you are going through this. Your fears are very real and i think most of us on here have been through it at some point.

You certainly wont fail as a mother, take it one day at a time. My LO is over 3 months now and were still going strong, i dont know how i've done it but i've got through somehow.

As for your ex, i know how that feels too. My ex-husband turned up to pick our DS up the other day with his new girlfriend in the car. I was furious and hurt that he would have no consideration for my feelings like that.

Have faith in yourself, and try to keep strong and focus on your LO instead of your ex who im sure didn't deserve you anyway!

x

 

[jaytee146]

thank you. i guess with time all things heal. i'm praying that's true LOL

 

[TiredNurse27]

You won't fail as a mother but he's already failed as a father. Remember that!!

 

[Rhio92]

x

 

[xxfluffyxx]

today i saw my ex with another girl driving in a car that he stole money from me to fix on, he grinned and he waved at me. going through this pregnancy is hard enough without constant reminders of the mistake i made by being engaged and living with him. why can't i let go? i truly wanna be a good mother and i wanna be happy. i just feel that i'll be alone forever, and don't say it. . . . this shouldn,t be on my mind i'm scared of being a single parent what if i fail? what if she doesn't understand why her father isn't around.

hiya hun!! dont worry!! I too had these fears when I was pregnant and crying and alone!! you wont fail! that lil baby inside you will make you sooo much stronger! promise! your post is very similar to one of my own altho my son is almost 1 now! and guess what?? i survived so far!! xx it is hard but you will get thru it! when i was expecting the same happened me but we were still together and he was seen picking up a girl from her house on his 21st bday rather than spending it with me! an my bump! its still hard and upsetting but you willl come to see you have everything that he wants and cannot have!! best advice people have given me is to "let him off" its soooooooo hard but that lil bundle and your health are whats important!! god bless you xx you are not alone xxxxx

 

[teal]

xx

 

[jaytee146]

today i saw my ex with another girl driving in a car that he stole money from me to fix on, he grinned and he waved at me. going through this pregnancy is hard enough without constant reminders of the mistake i made by being engaged and living with him. why can't i let go? i truly wanna be a good mother and i wanna be happy. i just feel that i'll be alone forever, and don't say it. . . . this shouldn,t be on my mind i'm scared of being a single parent what if i fail? what if she doesn't understand why her father isn't around.

hiya hun!! dont worry!! I too had these fears when I was pregnant and crying and alone!! you wont fail! that lil baby inside you will make you sooo much stronger! promise! your post is very similar to one of my own altho my son is almost 1 now! and guess what?? i survived so far!! xx it is hard but you will get thru it! when i was expecting the same happened me but we were still together and he was seen picking up a girl from her house on his 21st bday rather than spending it with me! an my bump! its still hard and upsetting but you willl come to see you have everything that he wants and cannot have!! best advice people have given me is to "let him off" its soooooooo hard but that lil bundle and your health are whats important!! god bless you xx you are not alone xxxxx

Thank you for your post! One day at a time! Right

 

[TwilightAgain]

he sounds like such an ass and she's better off without that kind of figure in her life.

You're gonna do fine, millions of parents manage alone, you can totally do this

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

I'm sorry for this happening to you. I'm very worried about my ex doing this to me as I don't think I'd be able to stop myself from telling him to come pick up his son when he has the time to spend with him & not with his lastest jump & slamming the door in his face.

But...I've been on the other side, having been the one in the car when my ex went to pick up his first son. I also looked after his son all the time he was with us with very little input from my ex. Its hard to be that person too...especially if like me...you felt a little forced into the childs life & you were trying to take a back step & failing because he wanted me as a baby sitter.

Try and stay calm...don't forget you will have your LO all the time...he & his gf will only see your LO for short periods of time

 

[jaytee146]

I can't imagine how it going to be for his Gf, a part of me wants to be childish and yell don't have another female around my child but realistically that's not the right thing to say or do. i'm just praying for strength! and the ability to make solid decisions for my little girl, instead of decisions based on emotions