Toilet training. Help please.

[Oxygen7880]

My daughter is 2 (will turn 3 on Boxing Day day). I started potty training her 2 weeks ago when she had a week off nursery. It went brilliantly. She only had 2 accidents the whole week and uses the toilet rather than a potty (which is good because they have small toilets at nursery rather than pottys). Poos have been a little harder and she goes several days without doing any but she has gone in her night pull up and a couple of times on the toilet. She's been fab and she even tells me when she needs to go.
Nursery has been a bit harder. She goes 3 x 6hr sessions per week and has been having a couple of accidents in the afternoons. I'm hoping that this will improve (she's only done one week in knickers so far).
The real problem I'm having is that this week she has started saying she needs the toilet and we go up and she doesn't need to go. This is happening every 5 mins sometimes and it's exhausting going up and down stairs constantly (I'm preg too). I doubt it's a physical problem as she is well in herself and when we are out or she's distracted then she's not asking as much. I just don't understand why in the third week she has started doing this. It was all so easy.

 

[adrie]

My first thoughts are that something odd may be going on at nursery. Some nursery/daycare, workers can be odd. I would make sure to have a talk with them and ask about your daughter during the sessions. It just seems like maybe she is not getting the same level of attention/assistance you were providing and that may be reason she is having accidents ??

I attended a 10 week session last January with my daughter; half the time I was with her, and the other half I was in a facilitated group a door away, and the woman in charge of the play side with the kids actually told one of the other kids that it wasn't time to use the restroom when he informed her he needed to go potty. I never signed us up for a second session because she would do and say things on top of this that just really rubbed me the wrong way. For example, she could have gotten his mom who was in the other room to take him to the restroom, but never bothered, and he ended up soiling himself. His older sister told their mom what had happened.

 

[shanny]

Re pre school accidents - i would say this was where she is busiest and least likely to be totally with it and more likely to have accidents - this was certainly true with my kids

Potty training can be a bit hit and miss they can seem to get it and then not - my only suggestion would in your pregnant state use a potty at home (so you dont have to keep moving) we mixed and matched a lot here and at pre school.

I guess I am saying don't stress and see what pre school says they have lots of experience with this too

 

[Lizzybee]

It will come, don't worry. It just seems stressful for you. Perhaps she is worried about having accidents because she was so good in that week. My lo will yell me he needs a poo and then faets his way to the toilet for him to them tell me he doesn't need a poo anymore! Irritating when out but I presume he doesn't know the difference yet and wants to make sure! I'd rather that than lots of accidents. Lots of patience and speak to nursery to see how they can assist. X x hugs x

 

[Oxygen7880]

Thanks ladies. I think she wants to succeed so much that maybe that's why she keeps asking and then realising she's not ready to go. It seems to be in the lead up to her doing a poo that she asks constantly but then changes her mind. It can go on for over a day so it can get draining but she's doing so well and I don't want any pressure or negativity around it all.
I'm not overly concerned about nursery yet. It's only been a week and one of the days she was accident free. They are very good at asking them often if they need to go. I will see how she goes and have a word if it doesn't improve over the next few weeks.