Too many girl's names

[pennymarie]

I can't decide between five names. Seriously. This is the silliest, most petty thing I've ever posted for help. But each name is crazy important to me that I am pretty sure the poor baby will have five names. Thankfully if it's a boy I have just the normal amount. But I really feel like after 4 years and one serious miscarriage, this baby is it. So I know it's just me choosing all the important names for this one. But would you ladies do?

 

[Mypreciouskid]

I would not give a child 5 names. However, my dd does have two middle names.

 

[wannabemomy37]

What are the names? Is it possible to combine them? I wouldn't use 5 names, that seems like waaaay too much. Even 2 seems a lot to me personally, but I know a lot of people do this. To each's own though, I suppose

I'd mostly just try to combine the names or alter them to fit into one name by taking parts of them and making a new name; for example:

Kathryn & Rita = Katrina

 

[pennymarie]

Penny Violet Vesper Marie.
I've removed Persephone. I have one degree in Anthropology specialising in European mythology, so that name was important to me. But I can let it go. Cause it's more about me, and the name should be about the child. So I can "let go" of that one. So I'm down to four!

 

[the why bird]

What's the significance of each name?

Personally I'd try to get it down to three; she's never going to be able to fill her name in on an official form because it's so long. What do the names mean to you? Is there one which doesn't mean as much as the others?

 

[JJKCB]

I wouldn't go for more that 3 max (first name + 2 middle names)

what are the meaning/reason for each name?

 

[daneuse27]

I like Penny Violet Marie.

 

[the why bird]

I like Penny Violet Marie.

Me too. Vesper is fresh and quirky but I don't think it goes with the style of your other chosen names.

 

[pennymarie]

Penny is the name I picked out when I was little. Vesper and Violet are two people who basically saved my life. Violet when I miscarried, I was severely depressed and she helped me realise that I can see my baby, hopefully, one day. But now I have to wait and live. Vesper helped me get out of a bad situation when I was younger and get emancipated to make sure I survived. Marie is because out of 20 people in my family, close family, there are three girls, we all have Marie as a middle name after my great grandma. We don't produce a lot of girls. I'm Kaylah Marie. I use as a username to remind myself there is hope and attainable goals.

 

[pennymarie]

Basically all together it symbolises, even though I didn't have a great childhood, I can respect it, learn from it and now have a family of my own. That will be beautiful and everything I imagine

 

[daneuse27]

If all names mean that much to you, then I say go for it. Very rarely will her full name be spoken out loud anyways. I have two middle names, and only ever use one. In fact, many documents including my passport only have my first and last name. So she would decide on her own what to go by when she's older.

If you think it sounds too much, how about combining Vesper and Violet to be another name or choosing a name that includes sounds from both of them in it? For example I picked Emily as a middle name for my daughter, because her great-great grandparents were named Emil (a man) and Emma. So I thought Emily was a good in-between and is a variant of both of their names.

 

[NotNic]

Could you honour Vesper by asking them to be a godparent (if Christian) and then using the three other names for your lo?

 

[JJKCB]

I would say save another one for if you do have a 2nd daughter (you dont want 1 daughter to have a really meaningful name and the second if you have one to just have some random name)

Penelope Violet Marie
&
Persephone Vesper ???

^ would be a really cute sibset


p.s just realized your location is baton rouge and now I have the song stuck in my head lol

 

[pennymarie]

My egg quality is so low, and the fact I made it to 14 weeks is a miracle so much so that my dr is still telling me I could miscarry, I'm not going to be having more children. Or I'm not banking on it. I wanted twins so bad for those exact names: Penelope Violet Marie and Persephone Vesper Marie...oh well. She will be loved with all the love I have....and probably spoiled...

 

[Amygdala]

All those names are lovely. However, if it was me, I'd stick to Penny Marie.
Here's why: Both Penny and Marie are connected to really positive things. Your childhood thoughts of your future child and her family heritage. I completely understand why the other two names are important to you but that's just it, they're more related to you than her. It was your dark times that you overcame and while those people were obviously hugely significant to you, they're only very indirectly significant to your daughter. They're also connected to hard times that she might find a bit strange to be carrying a reminder of in her name, even though the outcome was positive.
Penny Marie flows really well and is a happy, positive name for a happy, positive child.

 

[wannabemomy37]

All those names are lovely. However, if it was me, I'd stick to Penny Marie.
Here's why: Both Penny and Marie are connected to really positive things. Your childhood thoughts of your future child and her family heritage. I completely understand why the other two names are important to you but that's just it, they're more related to you than her. It was your dark times that you overcame and while those people were obviously hugely significant to you, they're only very indirectly significant to your daughter. They're also connected to hard times that she might find a bit strange to be carrying a reminder of in her name, even though the outcome was positive.
Penny Marie flows really well and is a happy, positive name for a happy, positive child.

I totally agree with this!! Penelope Marie should be the name as it's a name you've always wanted (Penny) and Marie is a family tradition as a middle name. Vesper and Violet were both people who helped YOU get out of bad times, which yes means a lot, but I don't think it makes much sense giving that onto your daughter. I like the idea of asking them to be Godparents if possible. Or what about just Penelope Marie V Lastname, since it's still symbolizing the names yet not taking over her name and just there as an abbreviation that you can explain to her later? Most forms only have a first name and middle/middle initial anyways so the V wouldn't be seen on too much paperwork and it wont make the name so long

 

[pennymarie]

All those names are lovely. However, if it was me, I'd stick to Penny Marie.
Here's why: Both Penny and Marie are connected to really positive things. Your childhood thoughts of your future child and her family heritage. I completely understand why the other two names are important to you but that's just it, they're more related to you than her. It was your dark times that you overcame and while those people were obviously hugely significant to you, they're only very indirectly significant to your daughter. They're also connected to hard times that she might find a bit strange to be carrying a reminder of in her name, even though the outcome was positive.
Penny Marie flows really well and is a happy, positive name for a happy, positive child.

I totally agree with this!! Penelope Marie should be the name as it's a name you've always wanted (Penny) and Marie is a family tradition as a middle name. Vesper and Violet were both people who helped YOU get out of bad times, which yes means a lot, but I don't think it makes much sense giving that onto your daughter. I like the idea of asking them to be Godparents if possible. Or what about just Penelope Marie V Lastname, since it's still symbolizing the names yet not taking over her name and just there as an abbreviation that you can explain to her later? Most forms only have a first name and middle/middle initial anyways so the V wouldn't be seen on too much paperwork and it wont make the name so long

Okay, I don't know why, but that may work! Like Harry S Truman, the story is something like both his grandfathers started with an S so the mom told each of them the S standed for their name. I like the trickiness of it! And I can just say it represents both. I couldn't think of how to combine the names at all
And I live many state away from where I lived when I was younger, so the godparent thing would be difficult. And my godmother was 70 when I was born, so when I finally grew up she passed away. I never met her. I wouldn't want to do that to my kid.

It'll probably be a boy anyway! So I'm fretting for nothing!

 

[Tasha]

I am glad you have a good compromise, I can see why all the names are important to you but five is such a lot.

 

[JJKCB]

you could use Vesper for a boy instead as it sounds very masculine to me

and use Penelope Violet Marie for a girl

 

[bigbloomerz]

Random question but are you planning on more children? If so you could keep one or two of the names back in reserve?
My daughter has 2 middle names, I don't think the one extra would make all that much difference, they usually only use their first and last names anyway. It would just be a bit of a pain when filling in forms and there not being enough squares! x