Totally unexpected! Hoping this is a sticky one!!

[jrob]

So, I guess I will be joining this forum from the TTC one. Because I woke up to this this morning:

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I wasn't completely sure, and didn't know how to invert the photo, so I started playing with the filters and it looked like this:
https://imageshack.com/a/img537/9691/vsngTF.jpg

I finally ran out and bought a FRER to be sure as I know EPT can give false positives or that it could have been an evaporation line. Plus, I was told that the pink dye in FRER works better than the blue ones for some reason and might show a stronger/darker line.... And so this is the result!....
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Even though this was completely unplanned and unexpected, the timing is all wrong, and the poor thing is going to be a Christmas baby, I am so happy! I am really hoping that this one sticks! I have had recurrent miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy so I know it's too soon to tell what will happen but I'm really hoping not to have to go through all of that EVER again! This would be, and is, an absolute blessing. I only had the one tube left and then I was diagnosed a few months ago with PCOS and told that my chances of conceiving were slim since the working side was so affected. It's going to be a rough few months getting through the first trimester without any bumps along the way and having to hold this in and not tell anyone until we are in the clear. Hopefully I can get an appointment ASAP with my OBGYN and start the process. I guess I'm going to be considered a high-risk pregnancy due to my history.

I am also looking for a new doctor because I'm not a fan of the group I go to or the hospital they are affiliated with. In fact the hospital is the one that almost killed me by misdiagnosing me and dismissing me 9 times when I had the ectopic. And it wasn't until it ruptured and another hospital found it that I was saved. As I said though, I lost the tube and decreased my chances of ever having another one. So, yeah I want nothing to do with that facility. Any tips on how to find a good doctor associated with your hospital of choice? In my case, I am looking at Valley Hospital in Ridgewood, NJ (In case any of you are familiar and are from around here). I don't even know the first place to start looking. I know I want that hospital because it's where I was born and I know they have an amazing birthing center. But I also want a doctor I can trust with my and my baby's life.

I am going to need a c-section because of my back and pelvic conditions and have known this since I was 14 years old. I'm also 31 now and have not had a child yet so I'm not sure if that will have any effect on everything. I definitely need to find someone excellent that also takes my insurance. I also have been on vicodin for years because of this chronic condition that causes me a lot of pain, and no procedures have worked for it (I've had a lot done). So I need a doctor who can understand my situation and not judge me for needing the medication and be supportive in helping me wean off of them. God forbid I withdraw and stress my body to the point of miscarriage!! I also don't want a candy-man doctor who just says to keep taking them and does nothing to help me not need them anymore. I know my body HAS to have some dependence by now because it's been 5 years. I can go a bit without them when I run out but I don't want to chance it and hurt the baby in any way (by taking them or by stopping) so I need an expert to help me through this.

Wish me luck, ladies!! Here's hoping I finally get to stay on this and other pregnancy boards and not have to go back to TTC.

 

[Blu10]

Wow congratulations hun. Ive akso just got a bfp after a mmc in Feb. Also not great timing as im about to start a new job and will be hsving a crimbo baby xx

 

[tcinks]

Congratulations So happy for you!

As far as finding a doctor, you could probably check the website of the hospital where you want to deliver and see a list of the doctors there. That's how I find mine. And there are also sites where people rate the doctors, not that that's always accurate, but if you have no idea that's a good place to start. That's so awful about the previous hospital where you were, did you file a complaint or anything? So sorry for what you've been through, hoping this is your rainbow!

 

[jrob]

Thanks! That's a good idea. I see about 10 doctors on the list. Is it usually that those are the only doctors that deliver at that hospital if they are listed?

I met with a new OBGYN at the practice I've been going to. He just started there not too long ago and I like him already. His bedside manner was amazing. He came in and told me that there was a faint line from my urine test and I started to panic. He got down on the stool and gently took my hand and told me he wasn't going to let go until I took a deep breath and relaxed. He was very easy to talk to and I feel really comfortable and safe with him after just one visit. But he works out of that horrible hospital and I was going to ask him if he was affiliated with any others.

I did try to file a malpractice suit against the hospital and the clinic that misdiagnosed me.. I have threads on her explaining the whole horrible experience. But the lawyer that finally started to take my case dropped it once he consulted with an OBGYN. In my state it is nearly impossible to file a suit unless you can absolutely prove that no damage would have been done if it weren't for the negligence. They make malpractice almost impossible here. Basically it was obvious that there was some serious negligence but there was no way to prove that I wouldn't have lost the tube anyway. I know I wouldn't have, but I can't prove it. Now I am past the statute of limitations. It sucks but I'm past it now. I just don't want to give that hospital any more of my money. So if this doctor doesn't work out of another hospital I'm going to have to find one off of that list.

 

[jrob]

and blu10, Congrats!!! I wish you all the best! Even though timing isn't great, it is a wonderful thing. I just started grad school for Clinical Mental Health Counseling in September. I'm only in my second semester and will be taking a summer course. I was originally going to be taking 4 classes instead of the 3 that would make me full-time in the Fall so I could graduate quicker. It's already going to take me until May 2017 with the way I have it planned. I'm probably going to have to rethink some things but I definitely will still be finishing and staying full-time. I need this license to be able to start a career and provide for this baby and my step-son. I love my job now, but it doesn't really cut it at the moment. I'm sure my boss will up my hours to help me out once I tell her about the pregnancy, but not by much. Good luck to you! I hope yours is a sticky one too !!

 

[Blu10]

Thanks hun, everything happens for a reason and im sure it will all work out for us x