Toxic friends (rant)

[jem77]

A very close friend of mine has been blowing me off since I told her I was preg at 10 weeks (she does not have children). Bit of a background.... I think she was secretly happy when my ex-husband and I split. When I started dating my current boyfriend she never gave him a chance because she felt I shouldn't be dating... I have been able to look past most of that, because we have a lot of fun when we go out. Well, now I'm preg and she is treating me like a leper...blowing me off when we have plans, not inviting me to events we always attend together, etc.... Anyone else experiencing this type of behavior from so called friends? Do I call her out on it or just pull away from the friendship? My feeling are hurt, but she is just not a supportive friend....

 

[CelticStar]

I'm not pregnant yet but I know all about the toxic friend!
I have one who I've just recently found out has been sharing information about me to my ex, she's even told him that me and my OH are ttc which was stupid, my ex has made a point of letting my OH know that he knows but there were only three people who knew about it, me, my OH and my TF (I like the TF abbr. for toxic friend lol!)
It's horrible because I did count her as my best friend and have welcomed her into our home to lodge with us.
Things have gotten so bad with her that we're giving her notice to find somewhere else to live, she's even tried causing trouble between me and my OH....Anyone would think she was still at school.....She's 31, I'm 29 and my OH is 33!!

Ooops, sorry, tiny rant about my TF and I didn't mean to

The way I see it, if she can't be happy for you and join in with that happiness then she's not worth the title of "friend". It's how I'm thinking with my own situation, it's nothing that reflects on us, it's only about the flaws in the TF character!

 

[tink30]

Oh yes, ive seen some friends in a new light this pregnancy!! one friend is my sons godmother.. she was horrible a little while back and deleted his pics off facebook, which really upset me.. she has it in her head that she is going to be this baby's godmother (not happening) and has been really pretty awful all the way thru. She doesnt have a man because she feels unless they are models they are not worthy.. and does not have children.. but she chooses this life and then hates that i have a family. Im keeping her arms length from now on xx

 

[youngmommy2]

My best guy friend has been treating me like sh*t lately.. Im pretty sure its because he has feelings for me and i guess feels like theres no chance now that im pregnant. Ugh.

 

[binksmommy]

Ok... I'm on the other end of this discussion. I had a friend that got Pregnant right away and then I was forced to watch and listen about this baby for now 9 months while falling into depression... My anxiety about seeing her made it so I couldn't even breathe... It's not that I'm not happy for her but the situation was too much for me.. I started to move away slowly from hanging out with her. At about 6 months along she became very mean about it and would throw her pregnancy in my face or remind me that I wasn't the one Pregnant.. I just decided a week ago I am done. Her baby is due on the 18th and I wish her luck but I won't have any part of it.. Then she told a mutual friend this weekend she doesn't know what my problem is and that this "behavior" is out of no where.. seriously??? Did she not hear me every month when I didn't conceive and my heart was BROKEN?? Or maybe she didn't care...

So my point is I guess... maybe she's hurting.. maybe she's just being a b*tch.. you need to do what is best for you. Maybe moving away from the "friendship" will benefit you both. G'luck!

 

[Novbaby08]

Yep when you announce your pregnant you tend to discover who your real friends are.

 

[disney doll]

She doesn't sound like a real friend who would be there no matter what.....Sometimes in life you learn who your real friends are and who u can and can't count on. Pregnancy brings out the best and worst in people at a time when you are feeling vulnerable...speaking from experience.