Truly NTNP...

[justmeinlove]

Thanks I figure the same - hence after some indecision and anxiety, NOT taking the morning after pill

 

[Berri]

Thanks I figure the same - hence after some indecision and anxiety, NOT taking the morning after pill

I'm still not sure what I want but we're still NTNP. Interesting TWW ahead of you though

 

[justmeinlove]

Ewcm this morning. So if it was four days out, probably a low chance!
Tmi but went to a hooping class last night, underwear was v wet on return...from more ewcm or the exercise? Who knows!

It's odd though, this whole thing seems to have shifted my totally done perspective a bit :-\ I'm not sure I am ok with that, as I am still really worried it would be a nightmare again.

 

[Berri]

Justmeinlove...sorry if you've told us before... Why did you decide you were done? What's the nightmare?

 

[justmeinlove]

Ah. The arrival of our first was horrible. She had undiagnosed silent reflux and basically just screamed and didn't sleep for months. I Hated the first few months, only felt a bit better after a year and only actually really started to be happy around a year and a half? It was terrible and really put a lot of strain on me and hb. And she still doesn't sleep through :-o So whilst I do like the idea of two, I just have no positive memories of having a baby so it's really hard to make myself want to? Even though as a toddler, she is Awesome.

Thanks for asking btw! It's a really sad difficult sticking point for me and I want to talk it through 😊

 

[Angel_blues]

All babies are different! Maybe after this one you'll want 10 more because s/he is such an angel!

 

[busytulip]

I agree with Angel. All babies are different. Some personalities just aren't fond of the infant stage either. I hope you are content with whatever the outcome is.

My poor DH has not been feeling very well. He says that he doesn't quite know how to describe it other than feeling 'off'. I told him that he needs to be seen, but you know how some guys can be....it's like pulling teeth.
The older kids are all back to school now so our schedule has become pretty crazy.
I also got some disappointing news from my doctor yesterday. My lab work is all out of whack and if I were to fall pregnant I would be at a pretty high risk of miscarriage. I see a specialist in a few weeks, hopefully we can get things in check. So I am of course a stressed out, emotional mess and I haven't a clue what this means for our TTC journey.

How is everyone else doing?

 

[Angel_blues]

Aww I'm sorry busytulip I hope its something easy to fix!

I'm good, relieved by my ultrasound results. I threw up for the first time this morning. Very little warning... Hopefully that doesn't happen at work!

 

[Berri]

Justeminlove, making these decisions is hard (I think in part because it's our head fighting our biological urge). Really not trying to talk you round one way or the other because only you really know what you can handle. But here's my experience with 2 for what it's worth...

• DS1 is a terrible sleeper. Did not nap during the day until 14mths. However at 3.5 he still naps now but is also up at 5am. He is very demanding of my time/attention and very stubborn (has been from the get go)
• DS2 is a GREAT sleeper (used to fall asleep on his playmat) and is much more accommodating (I think this is a combination of the fact that as a baby he had to wait for things and his personality).
• If I had 2 like DS1 I think the first few months would have been much harder and I wouldn't go a 3rd! Even with the early sleep deprivation and adjustment, I could have 8 babies if they were all like DS2 (and I won the lotto ).
• You will be much better prepared the second time around. If baby has reflux (silent or otherwise), you will know the signs and be able to address the issue with your DR before you are at the end of your rope (btw I know at least 8 close friends who had first babies with reflux but second without).
• You are forced to be much more active with a baby and toddler so I didn't get so caught up in that baby stage (don't get me wrong, it wasn't easy, just different). I remember with DS1 sitting around for days (willing him to sleep ) and DH going out to get us dinner when the baby finally went down (around 11). With DS2 I remember making dinner the an hour after I came home from hospital and putting him the sling the very next morning to go out for a walk with DS1 to the park.

Having said all of that... if you don't another, then that is the best decision for you and yours! Sorry, that was very long. While I haven't had a baby with reflux I am happy to answer questions about life with 2, just ask


busytulip... what is it with men?! I hope you can convince him to see the doctor. I'm so sorry about your labwork and I hope the specialist gives you some positive news.

angel, funny how being sick is reassuring isn't it?! So glad everything is going well for you.

 

[busytulip]

Angel when will your next appointment be? Sorry you got ill, it is funny how reassuring that can be.

Berri thank you. How are things going with you?

Just me-when will you test (sorry if you said somewhere earlier)?

 

[Angel_blues]

Yea it is but at the same time, I wish it would go away next ultrasound is Tuesday, but i might move it to Monday... My brothers birthday is on Tuesday and I want to have time to print an ultrasound picture onto a blank card a write something like
"Hi uncle Marin, I know I'm not here this year, but next year I won't be such a flake!

Love Peanut"

 

[busytulip]

Awww that's cute.

 

[Angel_blues]

Haven't quite decided yet feeling ok?

 

[justmeinlove]

Berri, thanks! I really appreciate that

Testing, I'm expecting af on the 1st, so if it doesn't come by the 3rd, probably then I think it will though.

 

[justmeinlove]

Thanks for being so nice everyone

 

[Angel_blues]

Of course!

 

[justmeinlove]

Hmmm. Had a chat with hb as on second day of ewcm, so pretty sure Friday won't result in anything.
He thinks the way to go is whilst we're both a bit up for another, we should stick with trying to be careful and then in January go for our original vasectomy plan.
I don't really want to try after December as I'll be 40 (!) in July 2017.
But - hmmm I'm not sure if I can do being open to it but only for a few months then just leaving it. What would you all do? Wondering if we should be properly incautious until January?
He's probably right though, it just sounds emotionally draining as a plan.

 

[Angel_blues]

He finally did it in the mountains, in front of a lake as quiet as can be and he drops to one knee and say will you marry me. perfect even though it was raining!

 

[busytulip]

Congratulations! That ring is gorgeous and the proposal sounds beautiful.

 

[Berri]

Congratulations Angel!!