Trying Again After a Failed IVF Cycle

[s08]

Oh no, oneof, I'm so sorry to hear your news. I remember you from this and the other large IVF thread and was so hoping round 2 would work out for you. I know nothing we say on here takes away any of the pain, but please know we are all here for you if you need any support. Keep us posted on what your re says next week.

 

[L4hope]

Oneof I'm so sorry your second transfer didn't work! Do you not have any frizen embryos? IVF is a bitch!! Puts us through so many ups and downs. It just feels like how can't IVF not work? I have had a failed IVF and FET. I'm so nervous for the poissibility of another fail. Maybe going somewhere else with a fresh prospective will help give youva successful cycle!

 

[oneof14]

Thanks Ladies, we all know how frustrating infertility can be especially when seemingly everyone around you is getting pregnant, even the shows I watch (Grey's and Private Practice, which btw I had to turn it off last nigh)! I just want someone to answer WHEN IS IT GOING TO BE MY TIME?!?!?!?! I keep telling myself I won't focus on TTC but it never works out that way, because something always reminds me... I'm losing my patience, time, money and more importantly my MIND!!!

 

[Sandy83]

So sorry Oneof its such a roller coaster of emotion! I also what grey's and know exactly what you mean and doesn't help that at the moment in the UK everyday in the papers there is something in about Kate and William's baby! We are approaching a new year and i believe it will be a fresh start for us all and bring us all our thinking of you and all the ladies on here xx

 

[Rona]

Hi ladies, just to stop by to say do not give up (easy to say I know), but after 9 years, this is my first successful pregnancy. At the age of 40.5. I am a low responder, but miracle do happen and stay strong. Baby dust to all.

 

[michelle01]

one - BIG

Rona - CONGRATS, that is a great success story; thanks for sharing

 

[whattheiveff]

Oneof - Lady, you are singing my song! Two failed IVFs is absolutely devastating, but good for you for being proactive and looking for a second opinion. My WTF is tomorrow, I have an appointment with another clinic on Tuesday, and set up a phone consult with Dr. Schoolcraft in Colorado in February! One of the hardest things about infertility is the total lack of control over the outcome, but we do have control over how we handle it. For me, I saw a therapist for the first time last week to help me work through all the emotions and fears that go with multiple failed cycles. Don't know if thats the right path for you, but sometimes it helps to just get out of your own head for a while and stop the spiraling of negative thoughts. I also know if DE or adoption are my only options, I'll need a third party to help me work through that. And again, don't know if this applies to you, but I've found a bit of comfort in the fact that by this time next year, I'll either have a newborn, be pregnant, or be in the process of DE, so there will be some sort of resolution. Can I ask what protocols you used and what your embryo results were?

Rona - Thanks for sharing your story! Do you mind my asking your protocols/embryo results?

L4 - Did you have your retrieval yesterday? How did it go?

Sandy- Thats exciting you're doing a FET in January....the results on those seem amazing!

 

[oneof14]

Whatthe, I've been to a therapist for years but I don't think that is going to help me now, it works for some but not be, unless she/he will get me pregnant. DE is not an option for us at this time, I will wait for a dr to tell me when and if that time comes. I certainly agree with you about the lack of control, and. Suffer from general anxiety and control is everything. I was on the same protocol for both IVFs long lupron 1st time I get 8 eggs with 5 embryos with a 5dt of 3 embies, 1-2bb and 2-mourals, 2nd same protocol 7 eggs, 5 embies with a 3dt of 3 embies, 1-8aa, 1-6ab and 1-5aa. I'm not sure the dr went as agressive as I would have liked, will find out on Tuesday.

I'm choosing a consult at Cornell or CCRM as it way closer to my home and less $$. Good luck with your consult and your right a plan makes everything better!

 

[whattheiveff]

Oneof - I'm so sorry that the therapy hasn't improved anything for you. It does seem like your RE could get much more aggressive for a third protocol which would hopefully get you more eggs and hopefully some frosties. It will be interesting to see what they say on Tuesday. Also, please don't think I was suggesting that you might need DE or adoption...I was speaking about myself since I have DOR and what seems like crappy quality to boot!

 

[oneof14]

Oneof - I'm so sorry that the therapy hasn't improved anything for you. It does seem like your RE could get much more aggressive for a third protocol which would hopefully get you more eggs and hopefully some frosties. It will be interesting to see what they say on Tuesday. Also, please don't think I was suggesting that you might need DE or adoption...I was speaking about myself since I have DOR and what seems like crappy quality to boot!

No I wasn't thinking that at all! I understand what you were saying. I agree with my RE despite what he says though we are still going with Cornell. I actually received my paperwork today and I will forward to Cornell tomorrow, I. Hoping to get an appt by the end of January.

I love you positive attitude!

 

[michelle01]

one - I have my FX, toes and everything else crossed that third time's a charm for you You have my full support And I love that you are ready to start again; you truly deserve this and I hope that 2013 is a great year for you!!!

 

[whattheiveff]

Ha...my attitude is definitely NOT positive. My husband has to tell me every night, "We will have a biological child." I still don't believe him.

 

[michelle01]

whatif - You WILL be a mom, stay positive! This is my third cycle, so trust me, I know how you girls are feeling!!! It will happen though

 

[oneof14]

Thanks M, I appreciate that! I'm so frightened to try again, but I must do it, unless by the grace of God we have a natural BFP. Your tests look great! You might have you Christmas miracle after all. I'm so happy for you, I know you've been though so much.

Whatthe, my DH says the same thing to me. I'm positive after having a plan, but as soon as I start the positivity fades.

 

[michelle01]

one - I was terrified to try again, figuring I had everything against me! And hopefully this is my miracle, but it did take me three times and still I am on pins & needles to see if this really did work, and not only working, but sticking! I know you will get your BFP and getting that second/third opinion is such a great idea

 

[L4hope]

Thanks for asking whattheivf. ER went well, they retrieved a total of 14 eggs which made me happy. With that said I got my fertilization report today. Of the 14 on 8 were mature. What the heck is that about?? All 8 are showing signs of fertilization. Will find out tomorrow how many make it to embie status. I'm so afraid to have a repeat of last cycle. Girls this is just so emotionally draining!! We just have to keep the faith that it's gonna happen!

 

[whattheiveff]

L4 - 8 is still a great number! Fingers crossed for you!

One of - totally agree about feeling good once you have a plan but then it all goes to s**t once you actually start.

Michelle - really hoping for you..I admire your attitude!

 

[michelle01]

L4 - That is a GREAT report!! I had 12 eggs and only 8 fertilised! And I had 2 blasts transferred, so don't feel discouraged with that It will happen...next Monday is gonna be a great day for both of us!!

 

[L4hope]

Thanks Michelle! I sure hope so. It's just my nerves getting the best of me right now!! Ahhhh!

 

[michelle01]

I completely understand L4 and it seems like every step of the way, there is something new to worry about. Hopefully you get a great report tomorrow!