Valeriachan
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I am so frustrated my fiance and I have been trying to start a family for 4 years now not success I feel like i might be pregnant now but every test keeps coming back negative going to ask for a blood test next but here is the problem that is showing now
Okay i was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis=(RA from now on) in 2013 I had to deal with it for a year before anyone would take me seriously because I was so young finally when someone did take me seriously my fiance and I were already trying for almost a year at that point they put me on Neproxen and Prednisone because they knew even before starting to see the RA Specialist so they couldnt put me on anything that would harm the baby if i got pregnant okay so every time that i would see the RA Specialist i would ask is there anything that is Safer for pregnancy they told me no one time they said Hydroxycloriquine aka Plaquenil anytime that anyone offered a new medication for whatever it was i would ask "well is it safer for pregnancy?" if they said no obviously i would turn it down which is what i did when they said no.
So lets fast forward about 6 or so months later I had gained 40+ pounds from the medication Prednisone(it is a medication that is known for making people gain weight if taken for long periods of time) okay so i see my RA Specialist and I tell them that i need to switch to something else for awhile until i lose the weight the medication put on so they were talking about switching me to Methotrexate(evil medication for those that r trying to get pregnant or those that happen to end up pregnant on this medication because it will kill the fetus=otherwise known as the Abortion Pill) well at the same time they were talking about the Methotrexate they were talking about in a couple of months after the Metho gets through my system they will switch me to Plaquenil followed up with "oh and it is safe for pregnancy" didnt think much of it at the time because the only thing that was going through my head was "finally my preys have been answered" I was ready to cry but i held it together as they were talking to me about the Methotrexate i asked 3 total times "what are the side effects" first time asking it they answered with "it wont make u gain weight" after the second and thid time they said nothing else so i was like I guess that is it but i know better then that it wasnt as i was getting checked out the checkout nurse asked me did they put u on folic acid i said not that i know of why? She answered with Methotrexate has the same point in it that Kimo does that makes patients lose their hair.... I wasnt happy that they didnt tell me that in the room but i didnt really say anything well a couple of months later i was reflecting on that day and i was like how long has Plaquenil been approved anyway so i googled it until i found stuff that was from 10 years ago at that point which now is like 13 years give or take oh i was mad i was furious i cried and cried and cried thinking just how much these RA specialist really made life more difficult because of the medication they put me on when they could have put me on the Plaquenil after 3 months of being on the Neproxen and the prednisone in the end i confronted them about it and they tried to pull the "well i dont see it that way" after she said that 3 times i was like u know what it isnt how u see it that matters it is how ur patient sees it u knew i want to start a family u knew that before i even came to my first appointment u scr*wed me over u wont give me something that will help me lose the weight that u helped put me on because of the medication that was supposedly not available take responsibility well needless to say she didnt so i transferred to a different RA Specialist and learned that google is my best friend when it comes to medications that are safer for pregnancy
So i moved to a different state last year got a RA specialist and an OBGYN to try and find out what is wrong. As well as a General Doctor All know that i am trying to conceive well my RA specialist told me that Neproxen last year was announced that it has been proven to hinder conceiving so RA Specialist talked to me about Humira so now i am on that and just waiting to see just how much it is working in time he hopes to have me off of the Prednisone, Plaquenil and the Neproxen or at least a much smaller does that it wont hinder anymore
OKay now the next part
I have 2 cats Munchkin and Smoka, Munchkin is Smoka's Mommy both female cats I have taken like 10 pregnancy tests total between at home n at my doctors office all come back negative but I havent had a period since either late feb or early early March cant remember when it started my fiance and I have been trying to start a family for 4 years now and nothing lately Munchkin has had to sleep in our room thanks to my sister being a witch with a b and since like mid march Munchkin has been sleeping on me around my belly kneading at the blanket around the belly but if i just sleep with a sheet she really doesnt do that though. She wants to go out on the balcony with me when i go out for a cig or when i just feel like going outside i dont have to drag her in from out there either and when i bring her in the room at night i dont have to go hunt her down i just have to open my door n call her and she comes running.
Before March she would sleep in my walk-in closet i guess it was warmer in there but now she sleeps on me even when i am on my side she will come lay on me before March i would call her over to me n sometimes she would come over and get attention and then go into the closet but now i dont even have to call her over within 20 mins of the light going off and i have gotten as comfy as possible there she is on me trying to cuddle she isnt the type that snuggles though that was Smoka's daddy that was the snuggler.
That isnt the only sign sense of smell isnt hound dog but at random times it is
some days having to pee more like today
heartburn like crazy alot today to
last 4 hours have felt like i needed to throw up but dont actually throw up
hungry more often then normal
and slight not painful abdominal pains around where it would be growing
i am sleepy more often now i even took a nap in the daytime the other day which i rarely ever do me and light dont mix when trying to sleep when i take meds that make me sleepy then it doesnt bother me but i even had the tv on and the blinds open and i passed out no problem.
But every pregnancy test has been Negative not even a maybe just straight negative
It is so frustrating that every test comes back negative we want children so badly every one of our friends other then 1 has had kids both of my sisters which my youngest is pregnant with her second child it is really really really frustrating and really depressing that we havent gotten to start a family of our own so many nights we have stayed up crying
I am trying not to get overly excited but its hard not to but i know just how much it is going to hurt when it still turns up negative
Well both of my sisters have had 2 pregnancies with my youngest going through hers right not i mean talk about a punch in the gut I think i would have rather taken a punch in the gut then hear her say she was pregnant again it hurts so much that so many people get blessed with making a family and they take it for granted
my older sister well she went through the same thing well not as long and she was married and she thanks god every day that she didnt have kids with her ex-husband but she never i guess u could say rubbed in the fact she did finally get to start making a family not even when she got pregnant the second time never once I think that is because she knows what it is like my little sister on the other hand has no clue just how much her comments like with her first child she will say something like "its the parents job to discipline our child" even though the first child has a different dad but he was a dead beat but new daddy aint any better its little stuff like that, that she says that really hits hard in the gut but its like she has no concept because she has never been through it she has no idea how blessed she is.
OKay i think i am done for now shower time and hopefully i can put this stuff in the back of my mind for the time being .................... yeah right my mind isnt nice like that time for another night of not knowing if i am or not so frustrating
I hope on Wednesday i can get the blood test done or hopefully go straight to the sure fire way of finding out and do a vaginal ultrasound i dont think i am going to be that lucky but if they do the blood test then that is a start
Okay i was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis=(RA from now on) in 2013 I had to deal with it for a year before anyone would take me seriously because I was so young finally when someone did take me seriously my fiance and I were already trying for almost a year at that point they put me on Neproxen and Prednisone because they knew even before starting to see the RA Specialist so they couldnt put me on anything that would harm the baby if i got pregnant okay so every time that i would see the RA Specialist i would ask is there anything that is Safer for pregnancy they told me no one time they said Hydroxycloriquine aka Plaquenil anytime that anyone offered a new medication for whatever it was i would ask "well is it safer for pregnancy?" if they said no obviously i would turn it down which is what i did when they said no.
So lets fast forward about 6 or so months later I had gained 40+ pounds from the medication Prednisone(it is a medication that is known for making people gain weight if taken for long periods of time) okay so i see my RA Specialist and I tell them that i need to switch to something else for awhile until i lose the weight the medication put on so they were talking about switching me to Methotrexate(evil medication for those that r trying to get pregnant or those that happen to end up pregnant on this medication because it will kill the fetus=otherwise known as the Abortion Pill) well at the same time they were talking about the Methotrexate they were talking about in a couple of months after the Metho gets through my system they will switch me to Plaquenil followed up with "oh and it is safe for pregnancy" didnt think much of it at the time because the only thing that was going through my head was "finally my preys have been answered" I was ready to cry but i held it together as they were talking to me about the Methotrexate i asked 3 total times "what are the side effects" first time asking it they answered with "it wont make u gain weight" after the second and thid time they said nothing else so i was like I guess that is it but i know better then that it wasnt as i was getting checked out the checkout nurse asked me did they put u on folic acid i said not that i know of why? She answered with Methotrexate has the same point in it that Kimo does that makes patients lose their hair.... I wasnt happy that they didnt tell me that in the room but i didnt really say anything well a couple of months later i was reflecting on that day and i was like how long has Plaquenil been approved anyway so i googled it until i found stuff that was from 10 years ago at that point which now is like 13 years give or take oh i was mad i was furious i cried and cried and cried thinking just how much these RA specialist really made life more difficult because of the medication they put me on when they could have put me on the Plaquenil after 3 months of being on the Neproxen and the prednisone in the end i confronted them about it and they tried to pull the "well i dont see it that way" after she said that 3 times i was like u know what it isnt how u see it that matters it is how ur patient sees it u knew i want to start a family u knew that before i even came to my first appointment u scr*wed me over u wont give me something that will help me lose the weight that u helped put me on because of the medication that was supposedly not available take responsibility well needless to say she didnt so i transferred to a different RA Specialist and learned that google is my best friend when it comes to medications that are safer for pregnancy
So i moved to a different state last year got a RA specialist and an OBGYN to try and find out what is wrong. As well as a General Doctor All know that i am trying to conceive well my RA specialist told me that Neproxen last year was announced that it has been proven to hinder conceiving so RA Specialist talked to me about Humira so now i am on that and just waiting to see just how much it is working in time he hopes to have me off of the Prednisone, Plaquenil and the Neproxen or at least a much smaller does that it wont hinder anymore
OKay now the next part
I have 2 cats Munchkin and Smoka, Munchkin is Smoka's Mommy both female cats I have taken like 10 pregnancy tests total between at home n at my doctors office all come back negative but I havent had a period since either late feb or early early March cant remember when it started my fiance and I have been trying to start a family for 4 years now and nothing lately Munchkin has had to sleep in our room thanks to my sister being a witch with a b and since like mid march Munchkin has been sleeping on me around my belly kneading at the blanket around the belly but if i just sleep with a sheet she really doesnt do that though. She wants to go out on the balcony with me when i go out for a cig or when i just feel like going outside i dont have to drag her in from out there either and when i bring her in the room at night i dont have to go hunt her down i just have to open my door n call her and she comes running.
Before March she would sleep in my walk-in closet i guess it was warmer in there but now she sleeps on me even when i am on my side she will come lay on me before March i would call her over to me n sometimes she would come over and get attention and then go into the closet but now i dont even have to call her over within 20 mins of the light going off and i have gotten as comfy as possible there she is on me trying to cuddle she isnt the type that snuggles though that was Smoka's daddy that was the snuggler.
That isnt the only sign sense of smell isnt hound dog but at random times it is
some days having to pee more like today
heartburn like crazy alot today to
last 4 hours have felt like i needed to throw up but dont actually throw up
hungry more often then normal
and slight not painful abdominal pains around where it would be growing
i am sleepy more often now i even took a nap in the daytime the other day which i rarely ever do me and light dont mix when trying to sleep when i take meds that make me sleepy then it doesnt bother me but i even had the tv on and the blinds open and i passed out no problem.
But every pregnancy test has been Negative not even a maybe just straight negative
It is so frustrating that every test comes back negative we want children so badly every one of our friends other then 1 has had kids both of my sisters which my youngest is pregnant with her second child it is really really really frustrating and really depressing that we havent gotten to start a family of our own so many nights we have stayed up crying
I am trying not to get overly excited but its hard not to but i know just how much it is going to hurt when it still turns up negative
Well both of my sisters have had 2 pregnancies with my youngest going through hers right not i mean talk about a punch in the gut I think i would have rather taken a punch in the gut then hear her say she was pregnant again it hurts so much that so many people get blessed with making a family and they take it for granted
my older sister well she went through the same thing well not as long and she was married and she thanks god every day that she didnt have kids with her ex-husband but she never i guess u could say rubbed in the fact she did finally get to start making a family not even when she got pregnant the second time never once I think that is because she knows what it is like my little sister on the other hand has no clue just how much her comments like with her first child she will say something like "its the parents job to discipline our child" even though the first child has a different dad but he was a dead beat but new daddy aint any better its little stuff like that, that she says that really hits hard in the gut but its like she has no concept because she has never been through it she has no idea how blessed she is.
OKay i think i am done for now shower time and hopefully i can put this stuff in the back of my mind for the time being .................... yeah right my mind isnt nice like that time for another night of not knowing if i am or not so frustrating
I hope on Wednesday i can get the blood test done or hopefully go straight to the sure fire way of finding out and do a vaginal ultrasound i dont think i am going to be that lucky but if they do the blood test then that is a start
