sbrooke
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Hi all, I've posted on here a couple times now for health related reasons but I'm really going through something and I need some words.
My background on how I got pregnant, wasn't planned, and I'm young, but given my own reasons I decided to keep this child. That's just it.
The father and I were together throughout high school and out for 5 years, he became abusive at one time, and is a two-timing dog, basically. His family is nutso and is involved in a bunch of illegal things, but they're ecstatic for this pregnancy and his mother is overbearingly rude about it's "her" baby. For example, she told me "she has to pick a name for her baby, figure out where she wants the baby shower" and made a joke about using my child to steal from TJMaxx.
If that's not bad enough, my family hates him. I was so so in love and he took care of me through HS, I was attached and he would be like the "bad boy" and so basically they just hated him, plus the abusive thing that happened.... well that just killed anything he had left.
Sooo, I made a dumb dumb decision to lay down with him. I was lonely and I missed being comfortable (sad excuse) I know... but it happened. And no until later did I realize how much my life was going to change forever for it.
Since I got pregnant, I've gone into super mommy mode and somehow I have a completely different mindset. I don't even want to put myself through his BS anymore, I am super content with being alone, and I am getting used to the idea of doing this by myself.
But people are coming out of the wood work, left and right calling themselves "friends" really bringing me down on things I already know. I'm so sick of people telling me how horrible my life will be and to get an abortion when I am not asking them WHAT TO DO. I made my decision. People that don't even "check on me" otherwise. I know what I did was dumb, I know staying with him was dumb before that, but I had no self esteem, and no one was trying to help me build it up. Just told me how crappy the situation was that I was in. Very few fueled me with positive words before this, and now I'm just getting people's opinions left and right with even more messed up situations than mine.
As far as the father goes, the abuse has stopped but he is mentally immature and I can't trust him. I am struggling with my personal feelings, and allowing him to be a father. I know my child will love him dearly. Everything was not always so negative. I still love him, but I have finally let go. I don't know what the future holds.
At first I was somewhat happy, this is a blessing no matter what the situation is. But somehow people have infiltrated my mind and made me feel very NEGATIVE feelings about being pregnant. I often times don't want this baby. I'm telling my parents next week too, I'm feeling very overwhelmed. I would appreciate kind words please, as I look to this forum for support and I already feel my life is in shambles.
My background on how I got pregnant, wasn't planned, and I'm young, but given my own reasons I decided to keep this child. That's just it.
The father and I were together throughout high school and out for 5 years, he became abusive at one time, and is a two-timing dog, basically. His family is nutso and is involved in a bunch of illegal things, but they're ecstatic for this pregnancy and his mother is overbearingly rude about it's "her" baby. For example, she told me "she has to pick a name for her baby, figure out where she wants the baby shower" and made a joke about using my child to steal from TJMaxx.
If that's not bad enough, my family hates him. I was so so in love and he took care of me through HS, I was attached and he would be like the "bad boy" and so basically they just hated him, plus the abusive thing that happened.... well that just killed anything he had left.
Sooo, I made a dumb dumb decision to lay down with him. I was lonely and I missed being comfortable (sad excuse) I know... but it happened. And no until later did I realize how much my life was going to change forever for it.
Since I got pregnant, I've gone into super mommy mode and somehow I have a completely different mindset. I don't even want to put myself through his BS anymore, I am super content with being alone, and I am getting used to the idea of doing this by myself.
But people are coming out of the wood work, left and right calling themselves "friends" really bringing me down on things I already know. I'm so sick of people telling me how horrible my life will be and to get an abortion when I am not asking them WHAT TO DO. I made my decision. People that don't even "check on me" otherwise. I know what I did was dumb, I know staying with him was dumb before that, but I had no self esteem, and no one was trying to help me build it up. Just told me how crappy the situation was that I was in. Very few fueled me with positive words before this, and now I'm just getting people's opinions left and right with even more messed up situations than mine.
As far as the father goes, the abuse has stopped but he is mentally immature and I can't trust him. I am struggling with my personal feelings, and allowing him to be a father. I know my child will love him dearly. Everything was not always so negative. I still love him, but I have finally let go. I don't know what the future holds.
At first I was somewhat happy, this is a blessing no matter what the situation is. But somehow people have infiltrated my mind and made me feel very NEGATIVE feelings about being pregnant. I often times don't want this baby. I'm telling my parents next week too, I'm feeling very overwhelmed. I would appreciate kind words please, as I look to this forum for support and I already feel my life is in shambles.