TTC #1 at 35+

[Leilani]

I can understand the anxiousness and testing early - it's the endless questions about "Am I out at 8/9/10 dpo?" that do my head in!!

Here in NZ, I've yet to find a stockist of cheap pregnancy tests - I bought a 3 pack for about $18, and they look like the kind everyone on here refers to as ICs - just a bit of card - but they did come with a tiny pot to pee in! When (no if just yet) I get my BFP, I want to use a digital one that says Pregnant on it, to show DH, but just had a look on the Boots.com website and they are over $40 for a 2 pack - just looked and it's £11.89 - which is just under half price!! And most tests here are blue-dye ones too. Boo for living at the arse end of the wold - but yay for it being summer!

 

[Lisa1]

Yes, it's my first marriage. OH was married before -no kids. I'm also due to go back to the doctor. Waiting to see if we've been lucky this month before making the appointment. I really can't afford to wait much longer for help - there is a possibility of PCOS.

My OH wants a baby too but it is definitely me who is driving this. People might say that I've left it too late but I wanted to wait for the right man - it's not about a baby at any cost. We're settled, we're happy and we just want a baby to complete our happiness - not too much to ask is it?

I am trying so hard not to symptom spot...just got to be patient and hope that AF misses her bus this month!!

it's not to much to ask we have waited till we got the right guy! Come on storky you know we are the perfect parents so send us all a this month!

 

[Lisa1]

Thanks bean hopes xx

I think this thread will be really lucky for us all! Come on lets start the 's pma all the way this year.

 

[treezo]

Can i join you girlies, I am 35, husband will be 37 in a few weeks time. We got married in July last year, and I stopped BCP Sept09 this is our first month of ttc for #1. I do feel that I have left it a little late its just amazing how fast the time has ticked til now! Here's hoping we are all blessed fairly quickly

Sending lots of baby dust to you all

 

[Tigger_lass]

Welcome treezo!

 

[Beanhopes]

Welcome Treezo.
What do you all think about us having status listing so we know who is due to test when?
x

 

[Lisa1]

Welcome Treezo.
What do you all think about us having status listing so we know who is due to test when?
x

great idea and maybe ellamum2b could sort out a name for us and a signature?

not sure if that is it's name but some girls have team 2010 etc at the bottom of their posts.

 

[EllaMom2B]

Hmm... not sure how to do a signature, but will try my best to start a list of testing days. Let me know?

I just went to the ob/gyn yesterday. It's only CD 10, but it's been since Sept. with no luck. So she prescribed anastozole and premerin for the next three months (starting in February). After that it's the reproductive endocrinologist for me.

Haven't told OH about the dr's visit yet. His 1st wife was infertile, so has been through the wringer before. He thinks it will just happen for us, but of course I'll be to blame if it doesn't! Sigh.

Forgive me girls, feeling crappy today about everything, and pretty hopeless about ttc.

 

[Deb111]

it's not to much to ask we have waited till we got the right guy! Come on storky you know we are the perfect parents so send us all a this month!

I'll second that!

 

[Deb111]

Forgive me girls, feeling crappy today about everything, and pretty hopeless about ttc.

Hugs hun

Af got me this morning and I'm not coping with it at all well

Have our first appt with the FS on wednesday which I'm dreading - not sure I want to hear what they're going to say either now or further down the line, plus tests freak me out for one reason or another.

Anyway, just to let you know I'm going to take a few days off the site to pull myself together - at the moment I reading people's bfn posts cos I know how painful it is and I reading people's bfp posts cos I'm jealous so I don't think I'm much good to be around at the moment.

Anyway, I'll be back in a few days I';m sure and in the mean time - lots of to you all

Deb xx

 

[EllaMom2B]

And I second the baby first then marriage! I got divorced in 2007 and have been through two years of HELL personally, professionally, and in every which way! Though sometimes now so happy with OH, I think I don't deserve the complete happiness of being a mother too... that having found the love of my life I shouldn't ask for any more...

I do hope this is a lucky thread!!! Sending TONS and TONS of babydust and good wishes to all! Even when I can't hope for myself, I can hope for all of you!!!!!

 

[EllaMom2B]

QUOTE=Deb111;4032270]

Af got me this morning and I'm not coping with it at all well

Have our first appt with the FS on wednesday which I'm dreading - not sure I want to hear what they're going to say either now or further down the line, plus tests freak me out for one reason or another.

Anyway, just to let you know I'm going to take a few days off the site to pull myself together - at the moment I reading people's bfn posts cos I know how painful it is and I reading people's bfp posts cos I'm jealous so I don't think I'm much good to be around at the moment.

Anyway, I'll be back in a few days I';m sure and in the mean time - lots of to you all

Deb xx

We're here for you hun!

 

[Beanhopes]

it's not to much to ask we have waited till we got the right guy! Come on storky you know we are the perfect parents so send us all a this month!

I'll second that!

I'll third that! xx

 

[Beanhopes]

Forgive me girls, feeling crappy today about everything, and pretty hopeless about ttc.

Hugs hun

Af got me this morning and I'm not coping with it at all well

Have our first appt with the FS on wednesday which I'm dreading - not sure I want to hear what they're going to say either now or further down the line, plus tests freak me out for one reason or another.

Anyway, just to let you know I'm going to take a few days off the site to pull myself together - at the moment I reading people's bfn posts cos I know how painful it is and I reading people's bfp posts cos I'm jealous so I don't think I'm much good to be around at the moment.

Anyway, I'll be back in a few days I';m sure and in the mean time - lots of to you all

Deb xx

Oh I'm so sorry Deb. I know you won't be checking this for a while but I'd like to send you a big cuddle . It won't do anything to help you get your BFP but it might help you realise that some of us know how you feel and we are here for you when you are ready to come back.
Take care and remember that we need to be relaxed and stress free to catch that miracle egg. Perhaps try focusing on a new interest, some people swear that they got their BFP after starting Yoga.
Sending you back lots of

 

[Beanhopes]

Hmm... not sure how to do a signature, but will try my best to start a list of testing days. Let me know?

I just went to the ob/gyn yesterday. It's only CD 10, but it's been since Sept. with no luck. So she prescribed anastozole and premerin for the next three months (starting in February). After that it's the reproductive endocrinologist for me.

Haven't told OH about the dr's visit yet. His 1st wife was infertile, so has been through the wringer before. He thinks it will just happen for us, but of course I'll be to blame if it doesn't! Sigh.

Forgive me girls, feeling crappy today about everything, and pretty hopeless about ttc.

Hi EllaMom2B
I've chickened out of my appointment this month and have a feeling I'll be there in March if nothing happens.
Perhaps with your OH you could take the "what he doesn't know won't hurt him mentality" although to carry it all yourself is a big deal. I bought some fertility tests from Amazon by BabySafe his and hers to put our mind at rest. Has your OH been tested before? I didn't fancy the idea of trying for months on end if we didn't even stand a chance. Harsh I know but this ttc drives you crazy enough
Don't feel down at least you've had an appointment and have some potentially magic medicine. We need to pull up all our PMA from somewhere.
Big hugs to you and to us all.
xx

 

[Leilani]

Forgive me girls, feeling crappy today about everything, and pretty hopeless about ttc.

Hugs hun

Af got me this morning and I'm not coping with it at all well

Have our first appt with the FS on wednesday which I'm dreading - not sure I want to hear what they're going to say either now or further down the line, plus tests freak me out for one reason or another.

Anyway, just to let you know I'm going to take a few days off the site to pull myself together - at the moment I reading people's bfn posts cos I know how painful it is and I reading people's bfp posts cos I'm jealous so I don't think I'm much good to be around at the moment.

Anyway, I'll be back in a few days I';m sure and in the mean time - lots of to you all

Deb xx

If you read this: Take it easy Deb - and GL on Weds. Hopefully the specialist will be able to point you in the right direction. With any luck it might be something easily fixable - anything has to be better than the "Unknown Infertility" my GP keeps telling me about. Have you or DH had any tests yet?

 

[EllaMom2B]

It's not OH, I know, because his ex had an ectopic and m/c: he was tested and cleared; she was diagnosed (with exactly what I don't know). I've heard about loads of people on clomid but never anastrozole. I don't think there's any reason to tell OH -- it's all stressful enough, doubly so for him given the past. But maybe I won't even need it... BD yesterday and throughout the week (I hope), so maybe this will be my month? Not feeling it, though. Sigh.

Sorry to be a downer!

 

[Beanhopes]

It's not OH, I know, because his ex had an ectopic and m/c: he was tested and cleared; she was diagnosed (with exactly what I don't know). I've heard about loads of people on clomid but never anastrozole. I don't think there's any reason to tell OH -- it's all stressful enough, doubly so for him given the past. But maybe I won't even need it... BD yesterday and throughout the week (I hope), so maybe this will be my month? Not feeling it, though. Sigh.

Sorry to be a downer!

I'm not feeling it at all either and I don't even know if I ovulated. I will definately be back to temping next month. We have a romantic hols to Dubai at the end of the month which is perfectly timed for my fertile time so if we can't get lucky when we are away from all the usual stresses then I will be looking for a Fertility Specialist in Feb.
A friend used clomid and acupuncture after ttc for 2yrs then on her 2nd month she got her BFP.
Don't apologise we've all got our hopes pined on this and it's seriously hard work.

 

[EllaMom2B]

Just to say I'm thinking of everyone and hoping that you are either

1) Taking good care of yourself while awaiting OV
2) BDing lots to catch that egg!
3) Surviving the 2ww and looking forward to a BFP

Where is everyone in terms of cycling, testing, etc? I'm trying to convince my OH to BD... I think the TTC is getting to him. When he knows it's "that time," suddenly he loses all interest in DTD. Strange. And upsetting.

 

[Leilani]

HI Ella

Well it's Sunday and 12DPO here, so I'm going to wait til Weds Morning to test - AF usually shows late afternoon, so expecting here Tues pm. I have 2 pg tests in the cupboard, but don't think they are very sensitive (the say test on first day of missed period on them). We really are starved of choice here in NZ for some things, pregnancy tests being one of them! (trousers for shorter people is another - every pair comes in extra-long, and you have to shorten accordingly!!)

Anyway, spent a bit of time on e-bay bast night looking for stockists who ship to NZ, and have saved a few in case I need them next month.

As for the BDing, DH and I have come to an agreement - I have to tell him by dinnertime at the latest if we need to have the Babymaking sex, so he has a few hours to psych himself up, then we go to the bedroom about half 9ish, it's a quick wham-bam thank-you mam, I put a pillow under my bum and get a book, and he goes back to the lounge to watch TV for half an hour or so. He doesn't like the pressure of going to be and being asked to perform on the spot! It worked well this month, 3 nights in a row with about 12 minutes of sex altogether - not romantic, but I'm prepared to live with that!

I also think that helped with our post-ov BDing - he's actually felt like doing it - which didn't happen the previous 2 cycles!