TTC#1 but AF strikes again..

[PinePolly]

Hey there,

I'm probably not the only one who's going through the same emotions/feelings as I am.

We've been TTC for 4 months, which is not so long but still it hurts every time I see the BFN coming up. Today was one of those days..

Earlier this week, I felt all kinds of symptoms I didn't feel when we weren't trying to conceive and this always gives me hope. My boyfriend is much more at ease. He's the "If it's not now, it'll be later"-kinda guy and it doesn't seem he knows how much it affects me when AF kicks in.

Just wanted to write this down.
Is there someone out there who feels the same ?

Lots of love all the way from Belgium,

PinePolly.

 

[MEPride]

Hi PinePolly.

I felt exactly the same way. My DH is very much a 'go with the flow', kind of man. And sometimes I wish he weren't because it makes me feel like what I'm feeling isn't validated or justified. But I know they are.

DH and I have been TTC for 13 months. This month is our first month trying clomid and I am trying EVERYTHING I can to make it work this month! In the beginning the BFN after BFN really hurt and got me down. It was made worse because I had a chemical pregnancy during our second month of trying. But nothing since. All the worrying made my already irregular cycles even worse. I didn't ovulate for 3 months straight. After a while I decided to try 'going with the flow' and try not to let it all get to me. I stopped buying OPKs (they never worked for me anyway) and pregnancy tests. My cycles returned on a somewhat regular basis and I feel better for it.

Month after month of trying can be disheartening, especially when it seems like everyone around you is announcing their pregnancies. But it really does you no good to worry so much. It certainly affected me negatively.

 

[PinePolly]

Hi MEPride,

It's crazy how much TTC affects your biological rhythm. If it would be that easy, I was already going with the flow. But it's like people don't understand that it isn't some kind of button you turn "on" or "off".

I've never tried OPK's.. I think I feel my ovulation very strongly. It's like a menstruational cramp that'll suddenly pop up 2 weeks after AF. There's that feeling, and the texture of the CM that I check regularly. My sisters has PCOS, but I've never been tested. I'll probably start thinking about medical help around June. Although I still hope that won't be necessary

Nobody in my family knows we're TTC, there's just one good friend I told it to. But she's struggling with her two kids, so she's not really promoting parenthood right now.

I hope you'll have all the luck in the world using Clomid. And know that when your DH is going with the flow again, you're not alone.