TTC #1- Looking for buddies!

[tbfromlv]

Dream- hope it’s clear tomorrow! I stopped just because of cost. As soon as we knew we needed to start saving for IVf, I stopped going. It’s not insanely expensive, but I wanted to save any extra we could so that the whole IVf would leave 0 debt. At this point we MIGHT have a couple hundred in debt, but it would be debt for about a month lol so I’m not concerned about it. I might try to go a few sessions before and a session or two after. But we will see.

 

[SunnyBe]

Hi Sarah, welcome! Tb explained it perfectly how the OPK's and temping stuff work. Hope you get the green light from the doctor soon

Tb, hmm yeah that's a tough one. I'm really not sure. PGS doesn't offer any guarantees. It's a good way to eliminate those that are abnormal and save time though. I think I'll do PGS for my next full IVF cycle, because that means that I've had 5 transfers without success (given all of the embryos thaw without damage). It technically doesn't increase your chance of success, as the good embryos would have been transferred eventually at some point, but it could cut down the time to pregnancy. I think that's the major advantage. I'd wait for the results of the miscarriage test-panel before deciding. When is that again?

Dream, your OPK is looking a bit darker today. Hope you O soon!!

AFM, I guess I started my OPK's too late (CD 14) as it seems that I either O'd on that day or the day after. Last chance before I start BCP's in two weeks to prepare for the FET! Tb, are you still taking progesterone after O? What DPO do you usually start?

 

[Dream143r]

Wow guys, I'm feeling O cramps like never before. Painful actually. Tolerable, but it hurts man. What's up with that? Mostly right side but some on the left too.

Def going to take a 2nd OPK this afternoon. We will BD tonight regardless. Problem with afternoon OPKs is I drink soooo much water now throughout the day so it's completely diluted.

My weightloss total is 17lbs now. 8 more lbs and I'll have a normal healthy BMI.

 

[tbfromlv]

Sunny that was kind of what I was thinking. We go to my OB on Monday to go over everything. I consult with Gennet April 11. (Earliest available!) I do continue the progesterone. I always start 3dpo. And until negative at 14 dpo. (Or not!)
Dream maybe that’s a good sign! I always feel the same about afternoon testing.. I drink waaay to much. And amazing job with the weight loss! Wow!!

 

[SunnyBe]

Dream, you should get one of those tickers that shows the weight you've lost! Very impressive. I get O pains every now and then but usually on the day of ovulation itself, but heard that others sometimes have it before O or even after. I hear you on the water and diluted urine, same here.

Tb, sounds like a good plan! Well with the consult in 3 weeks it gives you some time to make a long list of questions and so on

 

[steph1607]

Welcome, Sarah, and good luck!

TB, I never really considered the PGS testing because I had no reason to I guess. But with your previous losses, I guess it could be a good option for you? Not sure what kind of cost that will add on for you?

Dream, that weight loss is amazing, good on you!! Bet you are feeling great.

Sunny I hope you won't need to start BCP, of course, but I can't believe that's coming round so quickly! Imagine if you and TB crosses paths in Prague!

AFM, got our follow up on Monday afternoon. Obviously I'm hoping everything looks clear and that will be the end of these constant appointments and we can get some normality back. We booked our holiday yesterday - so excited! Off to Majorca at the end of June. Hotel looks lovely (better be for the bloody price of it!), and we are surrounded by gorgeous beaches. And to top it off, our lovely new bed arrives tomorrow. Bank accounts are looking a little worse for wear though Husband and I went to a university open evening last week so I am hoping to submit my application for the MSc Adult Nursing by the end of this week. Fingers crossed.

 

[tbfromlv]

Steph that sounds lovely!! I’m a sucker for good beaches. I might have to recover from Prague at Sunny’s house DH and I have been looking at getting a new bed too... but, priorities lol. good luck with the nursing school app. Will you be putting TTC on hold? Or what’s your next steps with that?

So I had 3 days of positive opks then they went negative but today’s is dark again.. what do you think?

 

[Dream143r]

Steph - I'm 100% jealous of your travel plans. That sounds spectacular. A new bed changes everything doesn't it. We got a new one when we moved this past December (frame and mattress) upgraded to a King and put our old queen in the guest room. Some of the best money we ever spent. lol

TB - I would mark that off as another positive again. By the looks of your temps it seemed maybe your geared up to O but didn't and your body is trying again...?!

AFM - CD16 = Positive OPK day. Woooohooo! Crazy how excited I find myself getting each cycle. The highs are HIGH and the lows are LOW. We'll keep the BDs going until I see the temp rise. I'm thinking tomorrow (CD17) will likely be O day. so FX for that temp rise on Saturday morning.

 

[tbfromlv]

Woo hop dream! Maybe, if mine actually works out, we will be tww cycle buddies lol fun! Good luck!

 

[Dream143r]

Not that you guys asked to see my new bed or anything but here it is. I'm obsessed and very proud of my decor choices. lol

 

[tbfromlv]

Dream!!! That’s gorgeous!! I’m full on jealous of that too!!where did you get your headboard?

 

[Dream143r]

Dream!!! That’s gorgeous!! I’m full on jealous of that too!!where did you get your headboard?

Structube - I think they're in the US as well.

 

[Stella2018]

Dream, amazing job on the weight loss! Great job. Also, I adore everything you did with your bedroom.

Steph, that sounds beautiful. You are going to have soooo much fun, I am so jealous. Good luck on the nursing app! That is such a rewarding career choice.

This is great -- unless I missed something everything seems to be in great moods and having a good day. I wish I had more to report, but I am still early in the cycle and there is nothing of interest lol.

 

[steph1607]

Haha Stella we are often cheery on this thread

Dream that is soooo gorgeous! Loving the beautiful wedding pic too! My husband and I are very excited for this bed - we've gone from a double to a super king (hope I did my measurements correctly!! I'll take a picture tomorrow We went bed shopping the other weekend when my back was in spasm so I was like the salesman's dream "ooooooooooh woooooow, you look like you're in lots of pain" with pound signs coming out his eyes!

As for TTC, yes that is on hold. I said before we did the first part of the IVF that if it didn't work this time, I would go back to uni and retrain, because I know that my husband in an ideal world would keep going and going so we decided to make sure we were on the same page before starting. He is very supportive of me going back to uni, but it is quite sad knowing that it's not exactly what he wants. He wanted to create kind of a "5 year plan" of what to do moving forwards because he said he didn't want to be constantly asking me when we will try again. He gets that it has been hell, and of course it has been for him too, but he knows that it is different when it is actually your body going through everything, and I'm the one who has continuously pumped my body full of crap for the past however long.

So our loose plan is that I will (fingers crossed) get a place at uni, qualify in two years, work for a year or so and then we will rethink TTC. If I'm being completely honest, the thought of trying again for a biological child at this point is not something that excites me as much as looking into adoption. I am well aware that my views may change over the coming years. My husband is very, very open to adoption (and always has been, as opposed to me), but I think he would want to "use up" our remaining seven embryos first. I really admire those women who can go through IVF after IVF in the pursuit of their dream, but I have come to the realisation over the past year that it's not the same for me. And I don't think it means I want children any less, rather than I'm not necessarily willing to put us through what could be endless heartbreak with relatively low success rates.

It's hard to bring it up with my husband sometimes, because I know that his entire future happiness rests on us having a family. But for now we have a loose plan and I am feeling excited about the future. I just hope he is too.

 

[SunnyBe]

Dream!! Your bedroom looks gorgeous. So does your OPK btw

Tb, I'd call that a positive. Were your others as dark as this one? Looks like my weird cycle last month.

Steph, sounds like you have a wonderful vacation planned. Must be nice to look forward to that. I'm glad you decided beforehand what you would do in case IVF failed, very smart. It really takes a toll on someone and can start to feel as if it's taking over your life. Good luck with your master's app!!

AFM, starting those awful red progesterone pills again today.

 

[tbfromlv]

Steph- I’m glad you guys have some sort of plan worked out. The journey to have a family can take you in all kinds of directions and I hope 1. That you guys find the best route for you and 2. You stick around with us!

Sunny- yes all my previous positives were this dark. I can’t really say that I’m surprised, when have you all known me to have any kind of normal cycle I just hope this one works.. all the way!
Also I just picked up my new red-pill friend from the pharmacy today in preparation for ovulation (fingers crossed) why redddddd

 

[tbfromlv]

Dark positive today. I expect I’ll see a temp shift tomorrow, then Dream and I will be joining Sunny in the tww

 

[Dream143r]

Steph very smart of you guys to make those decisions ahead of time as a couple. Good luck with your school application. I always admire people who go back to continue on, I don't have the discipline.

Yay for TWW buddies. I love it when we're all close. My OPK was still positive today but not as dark as yesterday. Plus I got a temp shift so I'm thinking I may have O'd yesterday. Not expected since O day has NEVER been the first day of my positive throughout our whole TTC journey. But there's a first for everything right? We'll see what FF after this weekends temps go in. Still going to BD today as this was the last day of our fertile window just to cover all bases.

 

[tbfromlv]

Well I woke up to test around my normal time and had my lowest ever temp of 96.5 then went back to sleep. Then an hour and half later my temp was 97.86. I usually don’t fluctuate that much so I wonder if my rise was just late or what. My opk was positive again (but it’s also fmu so it could have been leftover) I guess we will know for sure tomorrow. I’m also out of opks. I didn’t want to reorder unless AF shows this cycle. If no temp rise tomorrow, I guess I’ll cave. We will also get in another BD session just to be safe.

Dream your temp looks good!

Sunny how are you Feeling?

 

[Dream143r]

Pretty sure I'm 2dpo today. Here we goooooo