TTC #1- Looking for buddies!

[steph1607]

TB, do you even have any pee left?!!!! This is all getting too much!

Haha Dream, that is a very good question. I think because it was around dinner time, and it seemed easier to lie on a flat floor with my hips propped up on pillows, rather than in a bed. And obviously I could chat with hubby while he chopped the veg What a sight that must have been.

Sorry you felt low this morning Dream. A BFN is always hard to take. even the times when I've just had to take a test before starting medication even though I knew there was no chance, I still felt sad. I'm glad to hear you have picked yourself up though. You're not out yet love.

 

[tbfromlv]

LOL Steph, I didnt empty the cup from SMU right away. Then I decided to run up the road for some FRERs, so I left it. I know, gross, but it was my best shot today! haha
and oh goodness steph.. the things we do to get pregnant huh?

 

[SunnyBe]

I think I see a hint of something TB! Keep us posted

 

[tbfromlv]

Thanks Sunny, and nice temp rise! Is your appointment soon?

 

[SunnyBe]

Just had my appointment. The doctor was glad I was ovulating and didn't seem too concerned about my periods becoming more irregular. She wanted DH to get a SA so we got a referral for that. She also mentioned that the quality of who performs the actual analysis varies greatly and had a couple that they didn't really recommend. It takes about a month (!) for the results to come back in! Any of you had similar experiences? Seems like such a long wait!

I got a script for CD3 blood work and we'll do an ultrasound after that. The script says they'll do TSH, AMH, Estrogen, Prolactin and Progesterone. No LH/FSH. I got the script at reception so I couldn't ask any questions about it, but I thought the LH to FSH ratio was pretty important to test for.

Overall, pretty happy to finally get this going

 

[tbfromlv]

First of all, I hope you don't need any CD 3 blood work! BUT if you do, you might call back and ask about the FSH and LH. From my understanding, they are important for CD 3. I don't know about SA, as DH hasn't had that done yet. I am happy things are getting done for you now! When will DH go in?

 

[SunnyBe]

Thanks Tb! Have you tested again? I really think this might actually be it

 

[tbfromlv]

Sunny I've been staring at those tests all day lol I wont test tonight because my pee is just too diluted after FMU or SMU. I am anxious to see a dark line lol I am still shocked everytime I walk back into the bathroom lol

 

[steph1607]

Oh haha TB, yeah saving the SMU makes sense, silly me

Glad to hear you've got the ball rolling Sunny. I second TB, I think they should test FSH and LH too. As for the SA, that seems like a very long time. I'm pretty sure they test it there and then which is why you (well we do anyway) have to book in a time for DH to do it. When hubby did his January one, the results took about a week (NHS), and when he did his July one (private), the results got phoned through after about 40 minutes while we were still there talking to the consultant. They have their own lab on site so it was obviously quicker.

 

[CTgirl]

Sorry to sound naive, but would one of you be able to explain the CD3, FSH, SA etc testing please? I'm so new to this and none of my friends have ever spoken about it so I am clueless!

TB, I am so excited for you - anything today? (it's 10.15am in South Africa so probably around 2am your side. I'm just itching to know!)

Thank you all for your support and advice. Steph you are hilarious! I've bought from Ann Summers before - sailor outfits etc for hen parties! Your transactions must have looked hilarious. Saying that though, I was a sex editor in my previous job and the IT department must have thought I was so dodgy if they saw my Google searches!

I asked DH last night whether he'd prefer for me not to tell him when I'm in my fertile period and he said he wants to know so he can share in the process/excitement/nervousness with me. The first time it happened I was terrible and freaked out! I still feel awful about that. But when it's happened since then I just let it slide and it seems to have been better in the last few weeks (although I haven't been fertile then but it's still been fun! Hehe). Just nervous it's going to happen this time but trying not to think about it. Maybe I'll put on some super sexy underwear! Lol.

In other news, still haven't O'd but since I inputted previous months' data from my other app into FF, it's changed my ovulation date. So I'm just testing daily (twice yesterday!) and it's getting darker so we'll see. I had a 0.2 degree dip today (that's in celsius, but my app in fahrenheit says it's about 0.32 for you guys). So we'll see if I rise tomorrow - FF says a rise of 0.2 celsius or 0.4 fahrenheit shows a possible post-O temp rise. Hopefully OPK will be positive tonight!

 

[tbfromlv]

CT I hope that O is coming VERY soon. Also, I think trying not to stress over DH performance is the best for now! Could just be a fluke!

AFM.. test are definitely darker. I know they upload funny but it's so clear for us. So here it is.

 

[CTgirl]

TB I can DEFINITELY see that - without even zooming in on the pic. EEK!

 

[tbfromlv]

Ahh! So excited!! And nervous!

 

[steph1607]

CT, this is quite a good link to give information about CD3 FSH tests:

https://www.advancedfertility.com/day3fsh.htm

This is actually another more brief one which also explains LH:

https://www.rmact.com/getting-started/fertility-testing/what-is-cycle-day-3

SA is the semen analysis. So with this test they can see how much sperm is in the semen. They can also check the motility and morphology. The motility is how well the sperm move (obviously they need to be good swimmers to get themselves from A to B!). The morphology tests the shape of the sperm. Good sperm will have an oval shaped head and long tail, but sperm with poor morphology may have some head and tail defects. Some SAs can be more in depth too. The one that my hubby had done at the private clinic a couple of weeks ago also well the sperm move towards the egg. Apparently "clever" sperm are sort of drawn to the egg, and less clever sperm just move off in any direction they can find!

Oh wow, sex editor sounds like my ideal job

Well at least you and DH are both on the same page now. Don't feel terrible about freaking out, it happens, it's natural when you both want something so badly and know you only have a set window in which to do it. Definitely try the underwear too! We also found that doing a crazy amount of foreplay also helped.

Fingers crossed for your positive OPK

We've got our counselling session booked in for 9am on hubby's 26th birthday Happy Birthday love!

 

[SunnyBe]

Omg I can now clearly see it I'm sooooo excited TB! Just for fun, I also showed DH and even he could see it! I think you might really be pregnant

 

[steph1607]

Okay I must have spent too long writing my post to CT and not realised that TB had commented.

OMG you are pregnant!!! I feel sick, this is too much excitement!!

 

[steph1607]

I keep coming back just to look again because it is such a beautiful sight!

 

[SunnyBe]

Thanks for the info Steph! I'll send a message to my doctor next week to ask for LH/FSH as well. Interesting to hear that the SA results got in that fast! I hope your sweet hubby will have a wonderful birthday

Ct, Steph explained it pretty well. I went to my doctor because we've been TTC for close to 9 months and we think there might be some issues I think you're getting close to O-day based on your CM and that temp drop looks pretty good as well!

Dream, so sorry you're feeling down hun! Did you test again today? There will always be a next cycle if this one isn't it, and we'll be here cheering you on!

 

[tbfromlv]

Thanks ladies! It's much darker in person too so I am on cloud 9!!! I can tell you now I am so glad I had that surgery!

Steph- that's a great birthday present lol!

 

[Dream143r]

TB - that line is absolutely beautiful. It's def darkening. Wishing you the happiest and healthies 9 months ever!

AFM: Temp still up but I'm feeling pretty out. I know I know not out till AF. But I'm pretty down today. 13 DPO -

I think I'm just going to take a little break. This is too hard. I don't feel strong enough to deal with this let down and disappointment over and over and over again. Sorry for being a Debbie downer. PMS isn't helping. 4 cycles was kind of the cut off in my mind. Like if it takes longer than that I have to really accept that I could be a really long time, if ever. DH and I always talked about a pretty big family. I've always wanted 4 kids. We talked about just banging them out back to back or relatively quickly so they were close in age. Coming to terms with that probably not going to be our reality is so painful. I also feel like I'm against the clock, I'm not old but I'm not really young either. Turning 32 at the end of this month. Anyways I'm just rambling now. Sorry for the downer venting. I'm thinking I probably won't be around as much but will still silently stalk your ladies and your progress.