TTC #1 need support/acceptance

[Jsjskanamks]

Hello! I'm not really sure what is considered long term, so hope I dont offend anyone. We have been ttc #1 for 8 months and have been getting very frustrated. It seems the other groups people are on cycle 1 or 2 getting their bfp and I feel I'm in between the "new" stage and long term. I am only 19 and fiance is 20, both healthy (as we know) so it is frustrated that it has not happened yet. Dr is doing some testing on both me and my fiance this month so I would love to be accepted and given some guidance. I would love to hear your stories and to share more of mine!

 

[spiritbear]

Hi there, and welcome

I remember being in your situation at 8 months and everyone saying just wait it'll happen... feels frustrating, I know.

The good news is that if something is wrong, you are looking into it early and would be able to work on it Your age is also on your side, or so I hear ;-)

Hopefully nothing is wrong and it is just taking a bit longer for you. Hang in there and try to stay positive and not obsess (easier said than done, I know!)

 

[Jsjskanamks]

Thank you so much that really means so much to me Its so amazing to find such lovely women and getting such advice. It really does make a difference when its coming from someone who has/ is going through it!

 

[Hope3]

The World Health Organisation defines infertility as not being able to conceive after one year of trying so you're not LTTTC yet but I can understand your frustration. Statistically speaking it's still early days for you so try not to get caught up in the spiral of there being something wrong with you unless the Dr tells you otherwise.

As the other lady suggested you really do have time on your side. Your eggs will be better quality and if treatment should be needed further down the line your chances of success will be higher.

If the stress is getting to you already maybe you should seek out some relaxation recordings or stuff on mindfulness. I found Circle & Bloom helpful but I'm sure there are others. If you can afford it acupuncture can help your wellbeing too.

Good luck.

 

[dontworry]

Acupuncture can help with fertility, too.

Sorry you're feeling so frustrated! I remember being there very well. Every day was a battle to not think about it, every month getting a green light that I'm ovulating and then a big fat negative on the pregnancy test (which I bought in bulk lol, my friends call me whenever they need one as I always have a stash).

The best advice I have is to distract yourself!! With anything. Reading, studying, work, babysitting other people's kids to get a taste. Anything is better than worrying.

best of luck!

 

[Pixie88]

Hi Im kinda new to this thread. Im just looking for some advice, support and a bit on hope really. Me and my partner have been TTC for a year now and im becoming a little dishearted by it each month. Im 26 and my partner is 34. I am healthy, my partner is overweight and we checked his count which was 50/50. We are both taking conception pills and i am tracking my ov. Im currently on my 2WW. Everyone keeps telling me to relax and it will happen, easier said than done sometimes. I just feel 'will it ever happen?'. My OH is quite down about his count too and thinks it wont get better. Any advice or help pleeeaaasssseee.