TTC 18 months....

[sbl]

Hi all,
Myself and my husband have been ttc 18 months now!!
So I what prompted me to post here was this month I had such a strange AF.
My cycle is usually between 29 - 34 days very painful lasts at least 6 days and I loose allot of blood. But this month it didnt come till day 37(which totally got our hopes up) it was light only last 3 days and mainly consisted of brown blood sorry prob TMI !! I seemed to only have fresh blood while going for a wee. Ever since i've been having cramps and back pain with extreme tiredness!!
Has this happened to anyone else?? I'm thinking maybe cyst???
Hope someone out there has some idea as my doc is USELESS!!!!!
baby dust to all!!
xxxxx

 

[Lisa40]

Awww hun,

I didn't want to read & run but I'm afraid I have no idea, our bodies can be so cruel sometimes, why is your doc useless?

xx

 

[sbl]

Thanks hun,
support and understanding is what i'm searching for the most so your reply means allot!!!
My doc just fobs me off all the time as when i was in my teens i got pregnant which ended in MC, so she is just not taking us seriously as she feels and i quote " it will happen in time"!! so frustrating!!! we have booked to see a doc privately and have appointment for next thurs. looking forward to it as it may end in some sort of result be in positvie or negative i just cant take all this not knowing whats going on with me!!
Things have been so difficult recently as my sis, sis in law and mate are all preg!! so happy for them but it just reminds me how its not happening for us!!!
crying and stressed allot...
xxx

 

[Lisa40]

I really do know how you feel. OH & I have been trying for 2 years now & I started spotting today so I'm a bit down myself. I've made an appt for this Thursday to see the doc so maybe we can support each other through the tests & things.
I don't know if I want them to find something wrong or not, If there's something wrong they might be able to fix it...if there's nothing wrong what do we do??

It's supposed to be sooo natural so why isn't it happening

Whereabouts in the world are you?

x

 

[sbl]

god we are so on the same page as just this morn as my hubbie left for work I said the words "its supposed to be the most natural thing in the world"!!!
TTC is so stressful and every little ache or pain or anything out of the usual is dwelled over!! do u do that or just me???
I think some months i convince myself i have symptoms and then dreaded AF arrives!!! utter disappointment!!
I'm in ireland!! you??
xx

 

[Toots3495]

Hi ladies, I'm heading into my 28th month of trying so I totally understand how depressing it can be. We have to try and stay positive and hopefully our time will come, I'd probably have gone nuts ages ago if I didn't keep telling myself that!
I hope the docs can provide some answers

 

[Lisa40]

Oh yeah, I do that, I was convinced this month cos I had sore boobs, a nosebleed, an achy back... but I guess these things happen to non pregnant ladies too lol

I even take my temperature at random times in the day just to see what it is... not that it tells me anything! aarrggghhhhh

I'm going crazy

I'm from Liverpool so hopefully any treatment can be provided on the NHS, my sis used to live in Dublin and she had to pay 50 euro just for an appt at the docs! it's so wrong.

x

 

[Lisa40]

Hi ladies, I'm heading into my 28th month of trying so I totally understand how depressing it can be. We have to try and stay positive and hopefully our time will come, I'd probably have gone nuts ages ago if I didn't keep telling myself that!
I hope the docs can provide some answers

Hey Toots,

I remember reading the whole of the It fell out thread once, took me about 4 hours lol but it was so funny. Hope you are doing ok, sorry to hear you are still trying. Have you had any luck at the docs?

xx

 

[sbl]

Hi Toots3495
yeah positive is the word all round aint it!!!
are u using opk's if u dont mind me asking???
xx

 

[sbl]

yes lisa it is absolutely shameful whats going on over here.
my mate has 3 cysts and has been waiting for a year to have them removed.
we'll prob have to pay about 150 euro for private doc next thurs!!

god yes every month same thing which only leads to disappointment when AF arrives!!
by the way are u using opk's??
xx

 

[Toots3495]

Blimey Lisa 4 hours! Had tests done at hospital which showed that there's nothing wrong with me or oh. They guessed that I'm hostile so I'm just plodding along and hopefully we'll get lucky. Have been offers iui but I'm holding off on that for the time being. Are you seeing your gp on Thursday and hoping he'll refer you to a specialist to see what's going on?
Sbl, I have used opk which show I'm ovulating so that's one good thing. How about you?

 

[sbl]

yeah toots i'm ov alrite
hubbie very worried its him but i have assured him that it could just as easily be me!! or a combination of both!!
which opk's are u using??
x

 

[Toots3495]

My oh was really worried the problem was him but thankfully his results were fine. When we first went for tests I thought that if there was a prob I'd rather it be with me and not him. I think us girls just generally handle things better!
I'm using the cheap opk from amazon, I find they work just fine. I'd like a cbfm but they are quite expensive and I know pretty much my ovulation period now, been monitering everything for long enough now

 

[Lisa40]

Yeah I use opks too although I have only been using IC. The only ones I have found that worked for me are One step Advanced LH. I used 2 different brands one month using the same urine sample, supposedly the 2 tests were the same strength & I got a positive on 1 and a complete negative with the other brand, not even a faint line. So I am a little confused to be honest, but the Advanced 1 step ones seem to work & coincide with my temperature rise too.

I've already had day 21 bloods taken Toots, I was ill last week & went to the docs & he prescribed me antibiotics so I thought I should mention the (tiny) possibility of being pregnant, but I also told him it had been 2 years, as I was CD21 then, he took bloods & said that if I come on to go back for CD3-5 ones & that he'd also give OH the details to have a SA done & then we'll take it from there I suppose.

So my doc seems fairly helpful at least.

xx

 

[sbl]

Toots
I was using cbopk's but its gotten very costly at this stage about 6months ago boots in ireland had a deal on cbmonitor for like 50 euro and i passed it up thinking i would surely get prego soon!!!! yes i think i wud rather it be me too as i think he would really take it awfully bad. i've heard allot of talk of secondary infertility recently so i'm researching that at the mo in prep for docs visit!
lisa
your lucky your doc is helpful!!
this may sound stupid but i found opk's confusing??any tips?
oh and are either of you taking conception vits??
xx

 

[Lisa40]

yeah I'm taking pregnacare conception & I've got OH on the wellman, they are fairly expensive too at about £20 a month but I guess a baby will cost more haha!
do you have a child already then SBL if you are researching secondary infertility?

& I know this might sound gross, but I keep the opk's to compare how dark the lines are and also I still keep the ones from last month, sometimes though I don't get a complete positive but it may be that the surge is too quick, so if I see a pattern getting darker over a day or 2 & then lighter, I'll assume its about the right time, then I'll try & confirm with cross checking CM and temps too.

So I'm pretty confident I am ovulating, I kind of hope it's me too, but then again can be increased in volume & motility by a change of diet which could be easier than trying to fix my eggies. I think my OH will take it in his stride, he's already stopped drinking altogether cos he thinks it could be him, so we'll see.

I'll keep you both posted what happens on Thursday if you like?

xx

 

[sbl]

no lisa i got preg in my teens which i ended in mc at 6 weeks,which is why i think it could secondary.
thanks for the tips on opks just bought some on amazon as cb ones have us broke lol!! yeah i'm taking pregnacare conception too but cant find wellman ones over here. must try new holland and barrett open near me actually!!
yeah keep me posted hun! hopefully it will be good news!!
wish i could get my oh to stop drinking he was at a stag last weekend and is still dying from it! hahaha!!
i've been charting everything but since starting pregnacare vits i've noticed allot more cm, did you get this??
also i read somewhere online some womens cycles got longer when they started taking them but this hasnt happened to me.you???
xx

 

[Lisa40]

My cycles actually got shorter after taking the pregnacare for a while, used to be 30ish days & now they are down to about 26-27 days. I haven't really noticed much of a change in my CM to be honest, I probably need to start paying it a bit more attention

Well I did some research on the alcohol and it says that anything more than 6 units a week can have a detrimental effect on the and as it takes about 75 days to make a new anything he does now can affect the poor little 3 months down the line.

My Oh has only really cut down this last month, I think the 2 year mark has finally hit home, it's why I'm half hoping it's him & that the get better over the next 3 months.

I got my wellman from boots, don't know if you could order some online??

 

[sbl]

Oh just in from work and i read him post about alcohol think he's feeling a little guilty now!!
i've tried boots over here for them a few times and the girls have said they were getting them in but no sign of them in there. just spotted pregnacare his and hers on amazon for 15 pound gonna purchase!!!
very crampy today in my lower back feel like AF never left and its been gone now a week and half...wth???
I hope pregnacare shorten my cycle like it did yours, i'm very concerned about it being in the average 34 day mark...what do you think??
any ideas of why your spotting or is your af due???
xx

 

[Lisa40]

yeah AF is due tomorrow or Thurs, the spotting is textbook for me so I know she's on her way.

I wouldn't be worried about a 34 day cycle as it is within the normal range, I'd be more worried if they fluctuate a lot, I guess longer cycles are irritating though cos you get less tries.

to us all

xx