TTC#3 in August...looking for a buddy

[Treykid3]

@cabbage don't feel bad, girl. I wish I had more time to post. I'd rather do this than work! Did u say when u r going test again? Are u in ur 2nd month of TTC?

@coral is this ur 4th month?

@caz and jojo is this ur 3rd month?

I'm thinking of creating a list to keep up with where we r in our quest for a baby.
How do I edit the title?

@Jojo that little girl is too much and why isn't the mother putting a stop to it or at least regulating the visits? She should understand how hectic it is after school.

 

[mothercabbage]

this is just my 1st month trying im due af on sat/sun so gonna test on saturday as all ive had so far are ...xxx

 

[coral11680]

looks good cabbage!

Jojo, I know what you mean sort of. Today when I picked my kids my daughter and son both ran over and asked for their friends ( who are brother and sister) to come over to play, the house was a mad house for a few hours! grrr, and their mum doesnt drive so I had to drive them home also. Must be 1000 times harder with your little ones and more kids I'd be pulling my hair out!!

 

[coral11680]

3rd month tic trey

 

[jojosmami]

@Trey this is my 4th month. The 1st month was late and tech not TTC. The little girl is really nice and so,so, beautiful! I'm the only parent waiting at the bus stop and most of the kids at his stop are in Kindergarten! I don't know if it just me but I feel like 5-6 yrs old is too young to walk home from the bus stop by them selves or even in a pair! But, maybe I'm just to protective. When I met her mom for the 1st time she was nice, I just think that she was caught off guard by this woman she didn't know showing up at her door. I think maybe she didn't want to say yes she could come to my house but they ust moved here and I think she might have thought it would offend me if she said no. I was actually shocked she said yes. But I gave the little girl the note and hopefully her mom will have a talk to her. Just waiting for the mom to call me and let e know if they can come or not.
@Coral, so you know what I mean! Its crazy! But, I want him to have friends his age so guess I have to suck it up!
@Cab, it could still be early. Are you having any symptoms? How many DPO were you when you found out with your other kids?

 

[mothercabbage]

3days b4 af with son and cant remember with daughter that was 12 year ago!! lol i got changed for bed about an hour ago and my started hurting,they are hurting now, burning infact, never like this usually but i have only just come off BC so this cycles symptoms may be different, nose stuffy, heaps of (TMI) sticky bogies, hips and pelvic area really achy, its my that are doing my head in....really tender! if it is only af, the is a bitch!!!

 

[jojosmami]

Symptoms sound good!!! Keep up your PMA hunni! Want you to the first BFP!!!!

 

[mothercabbage]

im not too fussed if im the 1st bfp on this thread id just really like a bfp!!!!!!!!!!!! managed to resist testing this morning! i thought i was going to cave but went to the loo with no plastic cup and test!! quite pleased with myself!

 

[caz81]

Morning ladies, Im proud of you for holding out of testing cab, but also annoyed cause i want to see your BFP!!! COme on girl, all our hopes are on you!!!

This is my 3rd month of trying, although we actually wanted to start trying in July but couldnt as my hubby had to be abroad for 3 months from april we had been living abroad for the past year and when we wanted to come back to england hubby needed a visa so we had to wait for that, we thought it would just take a couple of weeks so me & Sapphira came back to UK first, but it actually took 3 months - was soooo hard

anyway,this month this im doing differently are:
Agnus castus (did start it last month but then gave up after 6 days!)
no grapefruit juice - i know it helps but i hate the taste of it so given up for now, will start again next month if dont get bfp!
chilling out & just enjoying it - which actually is going ok so far.

I wasnt going to use any ic tests this month after what happened last month but guess what - i ordered 30 yesterday

 

[caz81]

i think im going to ovulate early this cycle, im starting to get twinges and getting a faint line on opk which i normally get a couple of days before a positive

Oh and you can use OPKS as pregnancy tests, you can read them normally within 10 mins and as long as its positive then it is positive for pregnancy, there cant just be 2 lines on it it has to read as a positive ovulation with both lines as dark as each other

 

[mothercabbage]

opk as hpt? i was told that its not reliable?? think im gonna get rid of the last frer test tomorrow..12dpo..it should show by them if i AM preggo right?

 

[caz81]

I think the problem with it is that its only a positive if the line is as dark as or darker than the control line so it can be hard to decide if its positive or not & often does not show up until after a HPT, I used one when I was pregnant with my daughter as I only had a couple of pregnancy tests & showed up at 12dpo as positive on OPK & HPT

yay for doing the test tomorrow, but if its negative your not out, I was reading that even if you temp your ovulation date can still be out by 3 days either way, so you could actually only be 9dpo when you think you are 12 so you could still get a positive in a few days....you have to get a positive, all our hopes are on you - no pressure lol!!!!

ETA: I would not recommend using OPKS as HPT just someone asked earlier in the thread!!

 

[coral11680]

morning ladies,

Caz get to BD'ing in case you ovualte early!

Cab, good girl so proud of you!! do you have any cheapies left or just one frer? if I was you I'd use the cheapy tomorrow if you have any they are more sensitive supposedly? then save the frer for sat?

still no symptoms for me at all, I have a headache but I still have a cold and its all congested in my head

Trey and jojo keep the bd'ing up!!

 

[jojosmami]

Morning Ladies!

@Cab, I'm soooo proud of you for not testing! You're better than me cause last month I tested @ 2dpo
@Caz, thanks for the help with the OPK's. Have you started DTD in case you do O early? Does that Agnus Cactus make you O early?
@Coral, PMA luv!! NO symptoms are good sometimes! I've heard many times women get their BFP with no symptoms!
@Trey, do you think you O yet? I'm suppose to tomorrow I think. Temps still really low. They have been below my base temp from last month, almost all this month.Last night my hubby and I got into an argument because he didn't want to DTD Went to the gym, and he had time to relax and "get ready". When I got home everything was fine, we watched our fav show together and then I started hinting about DTD. He started acting like he was falling asleep, he was so tired, he wasn't in the mood. I was so Are you kidding me? You've known all day what was going to happen and 5 mins before its time you tell me no! Does he have any clue how long I prepare for this week of the month!! Drinking grapefruit juice,temping,charting, Ovu SS, and all for these couple days and now he says NO!!!!! I tried to stay calm and after talking to him and he gave in and said yes... but.. if we did it last night then he wouldn't do it tonight! This is not a freaking game! I was so upset. I started flipping out! 1st of all, you should be happy to have with your wife! Sorry, about ranting. It just really pissed me off. It ended in me and him on the couch. I don't want TTC to be like this. Its supposed to be happy and joyful. Guess when he gets home tonight we'll have to have a talk. Thanks for listening. My BFF said maybe he doesn't want another baby right now and he just doesn't know how to tell me. I would be devastated if he said that. But if he didn't want another baby why would he talk about baby names with me, talk about what its gonna be like to have another baby around etc. He keeps talking about letting it happen. But, he has no clue what this feels like. I don't know what to do. Let's just say, not in a good mood this morning!

 

[coral11680]

awwww jojo

I'm sorry you are going through this. My hubby was a bit like that on my opk positive day I think maybe they feel like they being used? I dunno but it so frustrating isnt it!

 

[mothercabbage]

yea i agree, my OH said i only wanted him for his "goods" so we never dtd for the 3 days following +opk, just on +opk day, they just dont get it!!!!!!!!!!!! rant as much as you want hunni thats what were here for!!! xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[mothercabbage]

morning ladies,

Caz get to BD'ing in case you ovualte early!

Cab, good girl so proud of you!! do you have any cheapies left or just one frer? if I was you I'd use the cheapy tomorrow if you have any they are more sensitive supposedly? then save the frer for sat?

still no symptoms for me at all, I have a headache but I still have a cold and its all congested in my head

Trey and jojo keep the bd'ing up!!

no cheapies left just the one frer, oh says we can get more but i dont think we should it drives me nuts testing too early!!! we got oh's family visiting us for the weekend, staying fri,sat and sunday night so do i wait until theyve gone to test again? or test .............?i dunno when....??

 

[jojosmami]

Coral & Cab, thanks for the love! Ladies, I don't know what to do with him! I'm glad to hear that my hubby isn't the only one who can be a jack-ass Its really put me in a foul mood today. I don't know why I'm freaking so bad because according to the SMEP were only suppose to do it every other day anyway, but guess I just feel like the more the better. And the one ticker says I'll O in 2 days and on another charting site called Taking Charge of Your Fertilty or something like that it says I'll O today, and Whenmybaby.com says I'll O tomorrow!!!! WTF? I'm having major O cramps but the EWCM is gone again and back to watery.Hopefully a talk will get it thru to him. How do I fix this now? I'm sure if I'm still upset, he's still upset. He hasn't even given me the usual morning check-up call. If were both mad he's def not going to want to DTD. How do I fix this? I don't feel like my was unjustified, but maybe I shouldn't have turned into such a big deal. UGGGHHHH! This is so hard! I don't want to say sorry because I don't want him to think they way he acted was ok either. Maybe this month just isn't my month
@ Cab, love your avatar! I would be testng now, while their @ your house and after they leave, but that's just because I'm a POAS addict

 

[mothercabbage]

Coral & Cab, thanks for the love! Ladies, I don't know what to do with him! I'm glad to hear that my hubby isn't the only one who can be a jack-ass Its really put me in a foul mood today. I don't know why I'm freaking so bad because according to the SMEP were only suppose to do it every other day anyway, but guess I just feel like the more the better. And the one ticker says I'll O in 2 days and on another charting site called Taking Charge of Your Fertilty or something like that it says I'll O today, and Whenmybaby.com says I'll O tomorrow!!!! WTF? I'm having major O cramps but the EWCM is gone again and back to watery.Hopefully a talk will get it thru to him. How do I fix this now? I'm sure if I'm still upset, he's still upset. He hasn't even given me the usual morning check-up call. If were both mad he's def not going to want to DTD. How do I fix this? I don't feel like my was unjustified, but maybe I shouldn't have turned into such a big deal. UGGGHHHH! This is so hard! I don't want to say sorry because I don't want him to think they way he acted was ok either. Maybe this month just isn't my month
@ Cab, love your avatar! I would be testng now, while their @ your house and after they leave, but that's just because I'm a POAS addict i

thats what i thought, i just wanted someone to say it for me!..as for OH id tell him how i felt, (quite pissed off!) then id let him have his say, then id tell him how its gonna be, if he dont agree, get out the sexy undies and make him see it your way!!!!!!! ive found myself and oh arguing alot more since TTC, think its all the anxiety ...

 

[jojosmami]

He called a couple of mins ago and seemed fine. He asked what was wrong because I sounded upset and I told him I was fine. He made a remark like Don't worry, we'll take care of it tonight. I don't want it to be a job but I'm not going to complain if he gives it to me! I think I'll start picking out some outfits for Fri night to spice it up a little. Maybe that will make him feel betterWe DTD on CD6,9,11 & 13. So if I O'd early and it happened yesterday I would tech have in there to meet them. Hopefully we will DTD tonight in case I O today and tomorrow night were taking the kids to my Aunts house to spend the night, so we can have a date night and Clean the basement out on Sat ( Its too hard throwing out old toys and having to leave the basement door open with the kids running around.) So I was hoping and I know he was too, that we would be able to have a nice, romantic, adult night. He knows how important it is to me because when we decided to have another baby it was because I sat down with him and had a long talk about what I want in my life and where we were at. I lost my mom at a young age and I've had a pretty rough life and I've always been very independant and made a "Life Plan". We have been living our lives by his plan for the last 6 1/2 yrs and now its my turn to take control of my life again. I told him I want to start going to the gym, go back to school, and have another baby to start things off. If he wanted to go on this journey with me as my hubby then great. But if he wants something diffrenet in life he needs to let me know and we can part ways. I don't want to be 60 yrs old wishing I would have followed dreams and lived my life for me! He's my hubby and I love him to death and will support him in any journey he wants to go on in life. But I expect him to do the same with me. He said he wanted another baby but he was just scared and wants to make sure we can afford one etc. I completley agree. We are doing ok, were not rich but we are comfortable. We don't need help from the government, we both work, and we will be able to give them all what they need and what they want. Now, will he be able to work on his cars like he wants, buy parts, get new tech toys etc. Probably not. But that's not fair of him to be selfish. I've been doing great with the gym, Have a Pediatric First Aid/CPR class on the 24th, and have been planing what classes I will take next. If all that doesn't show him how important it is to me I don't know what will! I know that it will all work out one way or another. TTC is such an emotional roller coaster on its own with out this added stress.