TTC after 20 years...starting all over!

[Jo.t]

Im 36 & my partner is 40 we have a 20yr old dd - we separated when she was 2 .
I went on, remarried & had 5 other children with my 2nd husband. That marrage ended early last year. I got back with my ex & we would love another baby ! He had one other daughter who is 15 now .

I hope we are not too old !

 

[mommyjill]

Im 36 & my partner is 40 we have a 20yr old dd - we separated when she was 2 .
I went on, remarried & had 5 other children with my 2nd husband. That marrage ended early last year. I got back with my ex & we would love another baby ! He had one other daughter who is 15 now .

I hope we are not too old !

Fab story Jo

You are not too old by a long way ( same age as me lol) still plenty time for you from what others are saying fingers x for a speedy bfp

 

[LLbean]

not old at all... if you are I am DOOMED LOL

 

[Chocciebutton]

....I am having my 3rd at 39 and I have a 15 year old son and a 6 year old son!!

 

[LiSa2010]

LLbean, have you tested or did the get you?

 

[LLbean]

oh the witch is here my friend so on to the next round ;-) but now hubby is determined... before he kept saying he just KNEW we were very fertile and would not even by accident do the deed without a condom until he was perfectly ready... now after 2 months he is changing his tune real quick. I got him the Fertility Blend Vitamins for men and supposedly he will have his sperm checked too... I have made it as easy as possible (he doesn't even have to drive the sample in) and even that is freaking him out. Men are such wimps!

 

[future_numan]

Hello, Can I join you ladies ?

I am 38 yrs old with a 21,20 & 18.. My ex and I divorced 9yrs ago and I had no plans on having anymore children ( I had a TL in 1994)
Life moves on like it always does and I met and married a wonderful man in 2006.
We discussed children but only lightly. Then in 2008 I was getting close to having an empty nest so really thought about another baby.
It was decided that I would get a TR ( May'08) in an attempt to get pregnant
We TTC for about a year and when nothing happened we sot out fertility treatments and were able to have Emily.
Now we are trying for just one more.
I love, love, love being an older parent. I am finding I am so relaxed and tend to be enjoying every minute.
I had hoped that we would conceive on our own this time but sadly it doesn't seem to be happening.

 

[hoping4XX]

Hey I just wanted to reply because your story is similar to mine. I wish you much luck. My husband and I have 4 boys from previous marriages : 21, 18, 16, 8
and we have 1 DS together -14 months. So 5 boys. We want our DS to have a sibling closer in age and would love a baby girl. EVERYONE thinks we are crazy and usually has a snide comment. I really don't care, I had my first child at 17 and in a bad relationship. I don't think I appreciated the miracle of life and think that my 14 month old has benefited from maturity and wisdom. Both my hubby and our child are true blessings and I am ignoring what everyone else thinks. Anyway, Just wanted to wish you luck.

I am testing April 9th. Not looking promising. How about you?

 

[future_numan]

That's so funny, we are almost twins. I have all girls about the same ages as yours ( 5 girls in all, DH also has a 15 yr old)
AF is due on Monday or Tuesday for me so I won't test till she late.
So we are close in our cycles
I haven't had too many snide remarks now that Emily is here. I got more when everyone found out we were expecting.. like WHAT, You were almost free!!..
I find life would be empty without my children.
I was with my ex-husband since I was 13yrs old and he wasn't awful or anything but we were very young and grew apart.
Looking back now I relaeize that I missed so much of my older daughters childhood just trying to complete my education and starting my career.
I walked away from my 15 yr career as a Logistics Manager to become a SAHM with Emily.
I am not going to lie and say that I don't find it challenging being home since I have spent most of my life working.
I think I miss the social part of it, but I wouldn't change this experience for anything.

 

[LLbean]

WELCOME to both of you!

Keep us posted and don't ever let anyone get in the way of your dreams, Babies are the best thing ever and keep us young so ...no matter how "old" people say you are or how crazy you may be for wanting to start all over again you just GO FOR IT... I know I am!

lots of baby dust for everyone!

 

[hoping4XX]

That's so funny, we are almost twins. I have all girls about the same ages as yours ( 5 girls in all, DH also has a 15 yr old)
AF is due on Monday or Tuesday for me so I won't test till she late.
So we are close in our cycles
I haven't had too many snide remarks now that Emily is here. I got more when everyone found out we were expecting.. like WHAT, You were almost free!!..
I find life would be empty without my children.
I was with my ex-husband since I was 13yrs old and he wasn't awful or anything but we were very young and grew apart.
Looking back now I relaeize that I missed so much of my older daughters childhood just trying to complete my education and starting my career.
I walked away from my 15 yr career as a Logistics Manager to become a SAHM with Emily.
I am not going to lie and say that I don't find it challenging being home since I have spent most of my life working.
I think I miss the social part of it, but I wouldn't change this experience for anything.

OMG we are twins. I walked away from job as well. Believe me there are days when I miss working - like you the social part of it. Glad spring is almost here and we can get out of the house more. Good luck to you. I got a BFN - how about you?

 

[Jennifer01]

I realize this is an old thread but I found it from a newer one and man do I belong here...hoping to touch base with some ladies in my position!!
I have a 17 yr old that I raised on my own, I'm 36 now and married, been ttc around 2 years ntnp about 2.5 years. Oh has no children. I swear if I ever get a bfp I wont believe it until I'm in labour lol!! Obviously it's been taking too long and I'm discouraged, I don't tell many people I'm ttc, and like many of you, people often have remarks for me out of the blue like "omg can you imagine if you got pregnant??you're almost free!!" ummm yeah, I don't want to be free!! We have just started testing and we know my husband has great swimmers but I have a bad feeling I might have endo
Anyway sorry for the novel, it's just nice to see I'm not alone...it feels that way alot of the time!!

 

[SarahSausage]

Hi
I'm 39(in 2 weeks) and have an almost 19 year old who I raised on my own and a gorgeous daughter 5 months old with my husband who I conceived after one month of trying at age 37(almost 38). We're thinking about ttc again very soon & I worry so much that it was just a fluke last time that I conceived so quickly & easily.

 

[LLbean]

hang in there ladies but DO go see a FS just to cover all your bases.

 

[lullabybarb]

Hi:wave: im 41 and DH 49, i have 3 children from my previous marriage, 19,14 & 12, i miscarried 5 after my 1st DD so feel very lucky to have them, i have been married to my DH for 5 yrs, when i met him he had renal failure and was awaiting a kidney and pancreas transplant and said from the start that he did not want any children with me which at the time was ok but as i approached 40 and with my children growing up so quickly i began to feel lost and all of a sudden i was aching for another it took a while to convince DH and with him seeing me so upset he agreed this is my 2nd cycle ttc and although im very excited im also very nervous as DH has a lsc although he has 3 children which gives me some hope! but with that and my age and also previous mc's i worry that i wont be able to have just one more but im not giving up hope! i have a cbfm and i chart my temps on ff and also have a cb digi ovulation and opks so im well prepared to do my very best to catch that eggy.

LLbean i am so sorry for your losses have you had tests to find out what may be causing them? wishing everyone good luck and lots of

 

[LLbean]

Hi:wave: im 41 and DH 49, i have 3 children from my previous marriage, 19,14 & 12, i miscarried 5 after my 1st DD so feel very lucky to have them, i have been married to my DH for 5 yrs, when i met him he had renal failure and was awaiting a kidney and pancreas transplant and said from the start that he did not want any children with me which at the time was ok but as i approached 40 and with my children growing up so quickly i began to feel lost and all of a sudden i was aching for another it took a while to convince DH and with him seeing me so upset he agreed this is my 2nd cycle ttc and although im very excited im also very nervous as DH has a lsc although he has 3 children which gives me some hope! but with that and my age and also previous mc's i worry that i wont be able to have just one more but im not giving up hope! i have a cbfm and i chart my temps on ff and also have a cb digi ovulation and opks so im well prepared to do my very best to catch that eggy.

LLbean i am so sorry for your losses have you had tests to find out what may be causing them? wishing everyone good luck and lots of

Thanks...they are doing a biopsy as we speak

 

[lullabybarb]

Hi:wave: im 41 and DH 49, i have 3 children from my previous marriage, 19,14 & 12, i miscarried 5 after my 1st DD so feel very lucky to have them, i have been married to my DH for 5 yrs, when i met him he had renal failure and was awaiting a kidney and pancreas transplant and said from the start that he did not want any children with me which at the time was ok but as i approached 40 and with my children growing up so quickly i began to feel lost and all of a sudden i was aching for another it took a while to convince DH and with him seeing me so upset he agreed this is my 2nd cycle ttc and although im very excited im also very nervous as DH has a lsc although he has 3 children which gives me some hope! but with that and my age and also previous mc's i worry that i wont be able to have just one more but im not giving up hope! i have a cbfm and i chart my temps on ff and also have a cb digi ovulation and opks so im well prepared to do my very best to catch that eggy.

LLbean i am so sorry for your losses have you had tests to find out what may be causing them? wishing everyone good luck and lots of

Thanks...they are doing a biopsy as we speak

Good luck i had tests when i lost mine and they could not find a reason why, i was ready to give up as it was heartbreaking, then my dr suggested progesterone injections 3 times a week up until i was 20 weeks pg and by some miracle it worked, i have learned so much more this time round than i did years ago and find that a lot of women have low progesterone which causes miscarriage early in pg which can be diagnosed by a blood test, thought it may be worth mentioning this to you just in case.

 

[LLbean]

Hi:wave: im 41 and DH 49, i have 3 children from my previous marriage, 19,14 & 12, i miscarried 5 after my 1st DD so feel very lucky to have them, i have been married to my DH for 5 yrs, when i met him he had renal failure and was awaiting a kidney and pancreas transplant and said from the start that he did not want any children with me which at the time was ok but as i approached 40 and with my children growing up so quickly i began to feel lost and all of a sudden i was aching for another it took a while to convince DH and with him seeing me so upset he agreed this is my 2nd cycle ttc and although im very excited im also very nervous as DH has a lsc although he has 3 children which gives me some hope! but with that and my age and also previous mc's i worry that i wont be able to have just one more but im not giving up hope! i have a cbfm and i chart my temps on ff and also have a cb digi ovulation and opks so im well prepared to do my very best to catch that eggy.

LLbean i am so sorry for your losses have you had tests to find out what may be causing them? wishing everyone good luck and lots of

Thanks...they are doing a biopsy as we speak

Good luck i had tests when i lost mine and they could not find a reason why, i was ready to give up as it was heartbreaking, then my dr suggested progesterone injections 3 times a week up until i was 20 weeks pg and by some miracle it worked, i have learned so much more this time round than i did years ago and find that a lot of women have low progesterone which causes miscarriage early in pg which can be diagnosed by a blood test, thought it may be worth mentioning this to you just in case.

Oh they had me on progesterone injections AND pills LOL...my MC from July was due to that.

 

[LLbean]

How is everyone?

 

[Casper72]

I completely understand and am in a similar situation, only my new husband and I each have 2 children already, but we want very much to have one of our own. It feels like something is missing in our lives. I am 39, he is 35 and had a vascetomy reversal June 2011. It went well, he has about 90% sperm return, all good, strong, straight, fast swimmers. We have been trying for 5 months, used ovulation kits, ovarian reserve kits and preseed with no luck so far. I had an ultrasound earlier this week and discovered that I had an ovarian cyst that recently ruptured and am wondering if that is why I have not conceived yet? I wish you all the best. Hang in there and keep us posted.