LadyKate1980
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Hi! We just started TTC again after a 36 week stillbirth in Nov 2009, an 8 week miscarriage in May 2010, and a 23w3d incompetent cervix/PTL loss in Oct 2010.
Our son was stillborn due to "an unknown chromosome defect" and he had down-syndrome like features, even though I never tested positive for any of those things during pregnancy. We almost miscarried him at 7 weeks (the doctor said his gestational sac looked like it was collapsing on him and that usually indicates a problem) but we did not miscarry....I went in for my 36 week check-up and told the doctor that the baby had not moved in 3 days and he dismissed me as a paranoid pregnant lady. 2 days later we went to the hospital and discovered his heart had stopped beating. I labored for 16 and a half hours because my cervix was having difficulty opening due to scar tissue from a LEEP procedure I had done in 2007. I believe they manually opened my cervix, causing damage, but I didn't find that out until we lost our daughter to IC.
Our miscarriage was a baby that never developed past 6 weeks. I knew something was wrong when I went in at 5 weeks and the doctor didn't see anything and told me my dates were off, when I knew the were not. At 6 weeks we saw a sac and pole but no heartbeat, and again my doctor told me it was just that I had my dates incorrect....we never did see a heartbeat, and at 8 weeks I miscarried naturally. I was not very upset, I cried a little of course, but after losing a full-term infant with the diaper bag packed and everything, only to find he was dead and hold his limp and still, but perfectly formed body in my arms....well, having an early miscarriage did not (and still does not) seem like that big of a deal to me. Especially since we almost miscarried our son and then wound up losing him later...the doctors told us that it was very very rare for a baby like that to make it past the first few weeks of pregnancy. Usually the body detects when something is wrong and terminates the pregnancy...for these reasons, I do not grieve my miscarriage and I understand why.
Less than one month after we miscarried naturally, we were pregnant again and that lasted for 6 months before we lost her. My pregnancy with her was full of anxiety the first trimester since I bled a lot, but I was told that was implantation bleeding, even continuing into the 10th week. The second trimester was blissful and I enjoyed EVERY SECOND, because I knew that might be the only time I would ever get. I have learned to appreciate pregnancy for what it is, and not get my hopes up too much about the end result. A defense mechanism, I suppose.
Our daughter appeared to have nothing wrong with her, but my cervix gave out and I lost her to chorioamnionitis after being 5cm dilated and on hospital bed rest for 3 weeks. She was 23 w3d, and born alive, but did not have enough lung tissue to be kept alive...they tried to give her oxygen but she never took a breath and we were told it would cause too much suffering for her to try and force it...there just wasn't enough lung tissue there and she had suffered from the infection and the lack of amniotic fluid as we were told I had been leaking for some time, undetected. She lived for about an hour before she passed on.
I just sent off some release forms in the mail, so hopefully within a week or two we will get all of her test results back (the analyzed the placenta and took blood samples at birth) soon from the hospital where she was born.
We just started TTC, and I'm more than a little concerned....In the span of one year, we have had a full-term stillbirth, a mid 2T loss from IC/PTL, and a miscarriage. Other than SIDS, (God bless those mommies!!), we've lost a baby just about every way one can lose a baby, and in such a short period of time.
Is there anyone here who can relate?
Our son was stillborn due to "an unknown chromosome defect" and he had down-syndrome like features, even though I never tested positive for any of those things during pregnancy. We almost miscarried him at 7 weeks (the doctor said his gestational sac looked like it was collapsing on him and that usually indicates a problem) but we did not miscarry....I went in for my 36 week check-up and told the doctor that the baby had not moved in 3 days and he dismissed me as a paranoid pregnant lady. 2 days later we went to the hospital and discovered his heart had stopped beating. I labored for 16 and a half hours because my cervix was having difficulty opening due to scar tissue from a LEEP procedure I had done in 2007. I believe they manually opened my cervix, causing damage, but I didn't find that out until we lost our daughter to IC.
Our miscarriage was a baby that never developed past 6 weeks. I knew something was wrong when I went in at 5 weeks and the doctor didn't see anything and told me my dates were off, when I knew the were not. At 6 weeks we saw a sac and pole but no heartbeat, and again my doctor told me it was just that I had my dates incorrect....we never did see a heartbeat, and at 8 weeks I miscarried naturally. I was not very upset, I cried a little of course, but after losing a full-term infant with the diaper bag packed and everything, only to find he was dead and hold his limp and still, but perfectly formed body in my arms....well, having an early miscarriage did not (and still does not) seem like that big of a deal to me. Especially since we almost miscarried our son and then wound up losing him later...the doctors told us that it was very very rare for a baby like that to make it past the first few weeks of pregnancy. Usually the body detects when something is wrong and terminates the pregnancy...for these reasons, I do not grieve my miscarriage and I understand why.
Less than one month after we miscarried naturally, we were pregnant again and that lasted for 6 months before we lost her. My pregnancy with her was full of anxiety the first trimester since I bled a lot, but I was told that was implantation bleeding, even continuing into the 10th week. The second trimester was blissful and I enjoyed EVERY SECOND, because I knew that might be the only time I would ever get. I have learned to appreciate pregnancy for what it is, and not get my hopes up too much about the end result. A defense mechanism, I suppose.
Our daughter appeared to have nothing wrong with her, but my cervix gave out and I lost her to chorioamnionitis after being 5cm dilated and on hospital bed rest for 3 weeks. She was 23 w3d, and born alive, but did not have enough lung tissue to be kept alive...they tried to give her oxygen but she never took a breath and we were told it would cause too much suffering for her to try and force it...there just wasn't enough lung tissue there and she had suffered from the infection and the lack of amniotic fluid as we were told I had been leaking for some time, undetected. She lived for about an hour before she passed on.
I just sent off some release forms in the mail, so hopefully within a week or two we will get all of her test results back (the analyzed the placenta and took blood samples at birth) soon from the hospital where she was born.
We just started TTC, and I'm more than a little concerned....In the span of one year, we have had a full-term stillbirth, a mid 2T loss from IC/PTL, and a miscarriage. Other than SIDS, (God bless those mommies!!), we've lost a baby just about every way one can lose a baby, and in such a short period of time.
Is there anyone here who can relate?
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sarah jayne just pointed u that way for more support 
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I hope ya'll can concieve quickly and deliver a bouncing baby!! Stay strong and do as much research (which I am sure you already have lol) on what has gone wrong in the past and see what kinds of things can help you this time around. Good luck sweetie!
