TTC After Loss 2011 BFP!!!

[poppy666]

He's 44 your still in your prime, ive seen loads of expectant mums on here over 40 xx

Im going to start folic acid and asprin this week getting ready... the asprin thins your uterus and helps blood flow x

 

[Deethehippy]

He's 44 your still in your prime, ive seen loads of expectant mums on here over 40 xx

Im going to start folic acid and asprin this week getting ready... the asprin thins your uterus and helps blood flow x

I take folic acid and am gonna take evening primrose up until ovulation as it gives me more CM!
I make OH take Zinc and vitamin c tablets as i read they help the sperm!
Is there anything else we can do? We do not drink or smoke but sometimes eat too much chocolate!

 

[poppy666]

With my last bfp i took Soy Isoflavones from cd2-cd6 and got my BFP plus Preseed Dee.. im thinking of taking it again when i get af.

 

[poppy666]

Talking about ewcm.. ive been getting this for days, we DTD last night and ive got a tinge of blood in it like i did Sunday, anyone else have this? x

 

[jenny25]

can i just give a word of warning asprin should only be taken after ov cause it thins the blood and if the lining of the uterus is too thin the egg wont implant reason saying my gyne put me on it and i was to take it after ov and i also have a blood clotting prob xx

 

[poppy666]

Thanks Jen i'll do that then, only reason i thought of trying it is i had a pulmonary embolism a few years ago and was put on Warfarin for 6mths, 5 days after i came off it i concieved LO so i thought maybe my blood was thinner idk?? went on Heparin whilst pregnant with LO and was ready to go on it again if id not miscarried

Think im in process of ovulating now with amount of ewcm ive had x

 

[pip7890]

OH and i are trying to get straight back on the pregnancy wagon asap.. x

Hello Angelface

Sorry to hear of your loss.

Welcome to this group. That pregnancy wagon is gonna be full to busting at this rate! to you.

Found out last night via facebook message that my sister is 7wks pregnant i was totally gutted and didnt know how to reply, i know i should be happy for her but cant be at the moment.

Sorry ladies guess i sound aweful towards my sister, but dunno how else to feel xx

It is so hard Poppy. I remember the first time I miscarried there was a young woman in the office who'd had a one night stand and announced her pregnancy the day I returned from my miscarriage. The same day I found out another colleague had just announced an unplanned pregnancy. As she was 46 she had waited until she'd got the all clear and only announced her pregnancy when she got to 6 months. She actually came to see me and apologised for her pregnancy. I told her not to be so silly - that was her time and I knew my time would come.

Now that I'm older, and at the other end of the fertility spectrum, I'm not sure I would be quite so gracious. I have no idea how I would react if my sister announced a pregnancy just weeks after losing my baby. All I can do is say we're here for you and if it helps, please have this .

I'm so worried that i have now missed the boat so to speak
I am 37 in feb and my OH is 45, statistically wise we are pretty doomed as far as genetic problems, miscarriages and not getting pregnant again ever goes.

Our clocks are not only ticking, maybe they have stopped....

But Dee you have been able to conceive so that's a big plus. Now, it's just a matter of working out how to make the bean stick.

I'm 40 and my OH is 45. When we decided to try we talked about everything that could go wrong. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage and my second ended in my DS. Did this mean that I was really lucky or really unlucky? I had been using a coil for 14 years which can cause infertility problems. My OH had never fathered a child before so what if he couldn't? I was fast approaching 40, had been menstruating since I was 10, so what if I was all dried up? I'd just ended a tough 6 year on the job training course and was going through an incredibly stressful time with final exams and work assessments the week of my last period. I was/am 2 stone overweight. Just taking all this into account, I felt I would never get pregnant, never mind whether or not the pregnancy would be viable and any health concerns that may affect the baby. Lo and behold, out comes the coil and I'm pregnant a week later! All that worry for nothing.

If I'm to have any chance of having another, I've got to relax about it. I'd like to think that you and I are not 'old' just 'ripe'! I feel in my bones that our time will come.

Talking about ewcm.. ive been getting this for days, we DTD last night and ive got a tinge of blood in it like i did Sunday, anyone else have this? x

I've seen you mention this before and it got me thinking and paying more attention when I'm wiping. Until a few days ago I was simply bleeding/spotting, but I noticed yesterday and today that when I wipe it is more of an elastic, stretchy CM. I didn't think anything of it as it was dark brown blood stained. However, according to Fertility Friend I'm on CD11 of my cycle but am not due to ovulate until CD29 (ie 23 January). (Although it has averaged my cycle as 47 days as it has treated my pregnancy as one long cycle so perhaps I've not completed it correctly.) I had some pains a few days ago across my tummy which felt like ovulation pains, but was on both sides. Putting two and two together, and assuming my cycle is all to pot (I didn't have a regular cycle because of the mirena) I think I might be ovulating/fertile at the moment. Shame about that as I think it might have to go to waste as I feel so damn rotten with this stupid cough and infection.

As you last night, then fingers crossed and lots of for you.

Pip x

 

[poppy666]

Aww thanks for the hug Pip think if it been a few months down the line id of handled it a lot better than what im doing now and do feel terrible how im feeling towards her, but need to think of my emotionally health before i go visit my sister and im sure she'll understand.

back.

Also it does sound like your about to ovulate too, im not even sure why the hell i DTD last night i was so upset and adament i wasnt going to but nevermind in a way im glad because ive not done anything with my OH for 10wks in fear it would effect the pregnancy x

 

[jenny25]

yeah hun i have aps im at risk for clots and stuff too i was on clexane and asprin so my consultant said best to take it from ov onwards to stop the blood clotting too thick its like a catch if you dont take it the blood clots too much and if you do it can make it too thin but if you take 75mg thats enough so it can just be right im on it too urgh xxx

 

[pip7890]

Also it does sound like your about to ovulate too, im not even sure why the hell i DTD last night i was so upset and adament i wasnt going to but nevermind in a way im glad because ive not done anything with my OH for 10wks in fear it would effect the pregnancy x

Me too. The OH said yes, we can try again definitely. We've not DTD since November when I found out I was pregnant simply because I felt so rotten with MS. Whilst I'm not rampant I do like my nookie - quality rather than quantity - and I have really missed it (and it's probably not helping my headache). In the days after the m/c I felt incredibly close to my OH as he was been so tender and I really wanted to DTD but physically wasn't up to it. Now that the bleeding has almost stopped I can't decide whether I want to DTD or not because: (1) I desperately want nookie; (2) I'd love another child; (3) with how I'm feeling physically at the moment I can't imagine ever having the energy to be pregnant again but I know that willl pass; (4) I'm scared of having to go through this all again.

I think if I focus on getting well, NTNP and not stress out when all your s come flying in I shall be fine. Whilst I don't have a lot of time, I'm taking the positive from the fact that I fell so quickly and hopefully I will do so next time when my body is ready for it.

Pip x

 

[Deethehippy]

Awww thanks Pip That made me feel better.
Sometimes i feel selfish wanting so bad when i already have 2 beautiful children but i am with a new partner now and we just wanted 1 child together you know.....i guess if it's meant to be it will be though

 

[pip7890]

Awww thanks Pip That made me feel better.
Sometimes i feel selfish wanting so bad when i already have 2 beautiful children but i am with a new partner now and we just wanted 1 child together you know.....i guess if it's meant to be it will be though

I know exactly what you mean. After the birth of my son my ex-husband said to me that if I wanted any more children I would have to find another man, because it wouldn't be with him. He just didn't adjust to parenthood at all and only admitted about 18 months ago that he'd finally grown up (our son is now 14 years old!).

My OH is a wonderful step-parent. His previous relationship was with a lady who had two children under 5 who had been sterilised. He knew from the outset that they would never have children together and brought the children up for 7 years as his own until she left him for another man. He still maintains contact with the children even though it's nine years since they split. I always think of them as his step-children and we try and include them in our big family occasions (they get treated the same as my son who lives with us).

So, my OH had resigned himself to the fact that he would never have children even though as a young man he had wanted to have 5! (He's the 8th child of 9.) As you'll appreciate he was absolutely thrilled to bits when he heard he was going to have a child of his own and I can't put into words how bad I feel for him. His family have been devastated by the news of the miscarriage to the point that I can't even talk to them on the phone because his sisters in particular are so upset and tearful. I just don't need that at the moment because it doesn't help me or him heal.

Let's be Positive Pollys. This will happen for us. We deserve it. They deserve it.

Pip x

 

[emilyrose.x]

Hey Ladies!.. && big welcome too the new joiners

Hope we are all okay today??
Didnt get to bed till late last night - felt really funny and had a BANGIN headache

Had the weirdest dream EVER.. had a dream that i went to the hospital for my scan and the woman started asking when i MC'd? i replied "at 6weeks 2days" and the woman said "Hmm well the baby measures at almost 10weeks?" she did an internal and found a heartbeat - started crying with joy then i woke up There is a story on the internet how the hospital told a women her baby had died and found out later that week it was fine and healthy.. My OH worried i got my hopes up, to which i replied "no i know that type of luck doesnt happen to me, was just the gutting that it was a dream" soo trying to be happy today but pissed off because im still having pregnancy signs

Pip - i hope you feel better soon babes! x

 

[poppy666]

Also it does sound like your about to ovulate too, im not even sure why the hell i DTD last night i was so upset and adament i wasnt going to but nevermind in a way im glad because ive not done anything with my OH for 10wks in fear it would effect the pregnancy x

Me too. The OH said yes, we can try again definitely. We've not DTD since November when I found out I was pregnant simply because I felt so rotten with MS. Whilst I'm not rampant I do like my nookie - quality rather than quantity - and I have really missed it (and it's probably not helping my headache). In the days after the m/c I felt incredibly close to my OH as he was been so tender and I really wanted to DTD but physically wasn't up to it. Now that the bleeding has almost stopped I can't decide whether I want to DTD or not because: (1) I desperately want nookie; (2) I'd love another child; (3) with how I'm feeling physically at the moment I can't imagine ever having the energy to be pregnant again but I know that willl pass; (4) I'm scared of having to go through this all again.

I think if I focus on getting well, NTNP and not stress out when all your s come flying in I shall be fine. Whilst I don't have a lot of time, I'm taking the positive from the fact that I fell so quickly and hopefully I will do so next time when my body is ready for it.

Pip x

I truely believe having a good attitude like that towards everything Pip you may see that BFP when your least expecting it along with others who are NTNP

 

[mumatmadhouse]

hello madhouse welcome to you

sorry for ur losses babes and of course room for one more

i felt much more ready this time everyother i didnt want to for months very odd isnt it xxxxx


have some fun with us i just had a date wiith oh currently as pip says balancing lappy on legs while pillow under bum stay there

welcome again to the nutty house of capricorns

speaking of which when are all these bdays mines this sunday whoooop xx

Thanks Hayley,
Wow what a busy thread. Some of these posts have really made me smile I think its so important not to lose your sense of humour along the way, although this sometimes proves hard i know. I must admit I am feeling quite positive about things right now all things considered
I am also v happy to report again! I left the laptop downstairs tho,lol. Much more confident now we have done the deed a few times and feel closer to dh again. Have decided i need to spice things up a bit and have some fun in the bedroom again Sometimes this ttc can take the fun away.
Could you send me the siggy plz hun? My bday is 30th may so i am gemini, moody at the best of times,lol.
Lots of baby dust to all, hope we see our first bfp v soon

 

[pip7890]

had a BANGIN headache

Pip - i hope you feel better soon babes! x

Me too. I think mine is from all the coughing. I'm really sickening myself off now. Just waiting for the thrush to start as a result of the antibiotics and I'll be absolutely made up!

Had the weirdest dream EVER.. had a dream that i went to the hospital for my scan and the woman started asking when i MC'd? i replied "at 6weeks 2days" and the woman said "Hmm well the baby measures at almost 10weeks?" she did an internal and found a heartbeat - started crying with joy then i woke up There is a story on the internet how the hospital told a women her baby had died and found out later that week it was fine and healthy.. My OH worried i got my hopes up, to which i replied "no i know that type of luck doesnt happen to me, was just the gutting that it was a dream" soo trying to be happy today but pissed off because im still having pregnancy signs

Can I tell you about my dream? I was at work and was given an exercise book (like you use in school) and told I had to do a test. There was 20 questions all about miscarriage and I answered them all dead easy. In this dream I knew I'd already answered them before because of my miscarriage 15 years ago. Anyway I hand my exercise book in and got told that I scored 20 out of 30. I said that can't be right because I've answered these questions before, look and I turned to the earlier test answers in the book. I flicked back to the current test to see what the other 10 questions were that I hadn't seen and just as I got to the page I woke up. Damn. I'll never know what those questions were and if I don't know the questions how the hell will I ever know the answers. Arrrghhh!

Pip x

 

[emilyrose.x]

Arw' Pip - im hoping the thrush stays WELL WELL away! ya dont need that on top of everything else!! Damn it!! Thats worst part about waking up when it gets to a certain bit! try not to think about it hun or you'l be worrying yourself! Seems like it was a crappy nights sleep for us Capricorns last night.. DAMNN! Its worst when they do actualy seem real- like all the details..Grr x

 

[pip7890]

I'm signing off now ladies. Sitting in front of the laptop isn't helping the headache.

I'm going to be a brave little soldier and take a walk alone to the doctors to pick up my fit note, call in at the swimming baths to pay for DS's swimming lessons and maybe have a wander past the shops with sparkly things in the window. Think little matchgirl - I'm the one with the nose pressed against the window.

If I'm not back online tonight I shall catch up with you all tomorrow. I feel a Yorkshire Pudding making session coming on!

Take care.

Pip x

 

[emilyrose.x]

Ok hun - try stay possitive!
Yorkshire Puddings.. nom nom nomm save me one?? hehe! speak soon! xx

 

[poppy666]

Cya later Pip, you made me hungry now so out with the cheese n pickle crackers again me thinks xx