TTC after spina bifida termination

[Pixiedust22]

I lost my little Oscar a few days ago at 21 weeks. I feel like the only way to heal even a bit is to get pregnant again and I want to try as soon as possible! I just wanted to know how long I should wait and take folic acid for? I've been told I should take 5mg to help minimise risk that this will happen again.

 

[Cattia]

Hey Pixie, l remember you from first tri back in Feb. I'm so sorry for your loss. Did they give you any advice at the hospital about when you could try again? My mmc earlier this year was only at 8 weeks so I was under the epu, but they were super helpful. They said I could try again straight away and I had the nurses name and number to call if I had any more questions, so I wonder if there is someone at the hospital who you could call and ask about everything? X

 

[Button#]

I'm so sorry pixiedust.

 

[Pixiedust22]

My midwife is coming to visit today, I'm going to ask her.

 

[Pixiedust22]

She said I should wait until I've had a normal period which might be about 6 weeks. Feels hard to wait that long.

 

[Natnee]

Hi, Pixiedust. So so sorry for your loss, My Poppy was stillborn 6 weeks ago. I know exactly how you feel about NEEDING to be pregnant again. Are you already taking folic? I'm not, but hope to ttc in a couple of months, maybe I should start now. I've just got first AF back now. Wasn't sure at first if it was still a bit of post birth bleeding as that really only tailed off properly about 10 days ago but I think it is AF as got the whole 'bloaty slightly cramps' feeling as well as increased bleeding.

 

[Pixiedust22]

Hi Natnee, so sorry to hear about your baby. I think taking folic acid as soon as possible is a good idea!

 

[Natnee]

I'll start then, I have some left from before so will start taking them

 

[Soanxious]

Just found this page.. Pixie and others Take the folic acid asap.... they do say a min of 3 months in system before ttc.. but as soon as you take them that will be better...

When I fell pregnant last oct I asked my gp for the 5mg folic acid as my Brother was born with Spina Bifida and hydrocephalus and they said I had a 1 in 35 chance of having a child with Spina Bifida when I was pregnant with my 1st 3 children when I was younger .. well my GP was useless and gave me 400mcg I said I have that amount in my prenatels and he said well thats all you need.. so I walked out.. anyway cut a long story short.. I have since had another another 4 mc.. and when I spoke to a new female GP 2 weeks ago I asked her for the 5mg folic acid and she was disgusted that I was not given it last yr!!! so I have 1 3 month supply now. so started taking it daily.

I would take this time to try and recover a bit mentally and physically and mourn the loss you have had. Whilst boosting yourself with lots of nice vitamins and minerals getting your body ready for the next baby.

It is an empty and anxious time.. and next time you get a BFP it wont end there with the Anxiety.. but there are lots of women on here to help you through it all if you wish to seek it.

Good luck ladies xx

 

[Pixiedust22]

That's horrible they didn't give you the 5mg! It's not like it's going to hurt you... I'm taking the 5mg now and I never stopped taking the 400mcg that I was taking before.

 

[Soanxious]

Im livid.. so much so I am thinking of making another formal complaint against the Dr.. I was 40 at the time and he BLASTED me for being so stupid as to get pregnant in the first place.. it was horrific...

 

[Pixiedust22]

WTF? My mum had my sisters at 39 and 41 and they're absolutely fine...

 

[Soanxious]

Oh he's a P***K im making sure his retirement arrives sooner than end of summer.. he is HORRID!

 

[Pixiedust22]

I hope so! I had a horrid doctor once, luckily he's retired now...

 

[Natnee]

Well, I'm 38, so if I'm going to have another baby I'll be 39 by then. If someone told me I was too old, I'd be livid too! What a dickhead.

 

[Pixiedust22]

I'm 25 but if I want to have a baby when I'm 40 I'll have one!

 

[Soanxious]

We should all visit my Dr and give him a piece of our mind

 

[Pixiedust22]

Good idea! I hope you don't have to see him anymore.

 

[Soanxious]

Oh the practice made sure I wont see him anymore... if I need an emergency appt and he is the only one I have to tell receptionists that the practice manager has said I can see a different Dr so they have to fit me in with another.

 

[Pixiedust22]

That's really good of them... I hope you have a doctor that you can trust. I always see the same one now because she's so nice. When I told her I lost Oscar she almost cried!