TTC and Beyond!

[Cowgirl07]

Hope her belly button is better soon.
Evan are you here yet?

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

Amanda - so sorry DH isn't being much of a help. I have a sneaking suspicion that my DH is going to be the same way. He gets SOOOO crabby when he doesn't get sleep and i'm not going to push it TOO much while i'm home on maternity leave and he's going to work, but when I go back to work, he will have to help just as much.

and can you just call the doctor about her belly button? maybe they can see her?

 

[RobertRedford]

Evan, where are you?

Morgan, Sorry hun, that sounds so tedious, but I'm really glad that they're being cautious and keeping a close eye on you.

Katrina, get it get it! I'm excited for you this cycle.

Thanks for all the support, ladies. There is no chance of reconcilliation. In my current heart broken disasterous state, it sounds really lovely, but im having to remember that there was a reason why i left. I think. Just missing him an awful lot and its really hard to get the silent treatment from him. I really just can't wrap my head around it. like, what happened. we were so good then we were so bad and now we aren't together. Hes really stubborn and really hurt, so he is not being there at all nor is he willing to talk about our relationship.

 

[Cowgirl07]

Hugs Amanda. It must be so hard for you.
I'm trying not to get my hopes up. I already decided I hate opks.

 

[wavescrash]

OH doesn't help much around the house after work either which also irritates me since he isn't much help at night either. He always says that he views going to work as a vacation from the girls and his job isn't that hard so I don't really feel like staying home means I have to do all the housework/child minding, you know what I mean? If he had a demanding job and came home always talking about what a bad day he had (as opposed to saying it's like a vacation), then I might be more understanding lol.

And her doctor COULD take care of it, I just don't have access to a car to get her there until the doctor's office is closed. If I were to drive OH to work to use the car, I'd have to wake the girls up early/before they were ready and then have 2 screaming kids the whole way because they were hungry/tired. And that wastes so much gas because he works in the total opposite direction of our DR's office and we can't afford to waste too much gas at the moment while we're getting caught up on bills.

 

[pdxmom]

Katrina rooting for u here....catching those spermies girl!!!

Amanda im sorry dh is not of enuf help at night...i totally see this happening with us too...dh HATES being disturbed while sleeping...i cant even snuggle when hes in deep sleep cos hell get pissed

Amanda - im so sorry ur hurting hun...im sure this is all so diff to process...just remember the big picture and the reason u decided u guys could not b together...mayb reminding yourself of tht will make things alil easier or it will give u more to think of wat u really want

MOrgan yikes about having to b holed up at the hospital for all this time...i surely hope marley decides to make a healthy appearance soon and end this waiting for mommy

Brit - im sorry i have experience of training pets in USA...ive had pets all my life but none from the time ive moved here...having pets here and in India r way diff so cant really help u there hun...although i hope u figure this out soon and zara starts listening

afm - nothing much to report....just sleepy all the time and back is still killing me...have a dr app tomorrow so guess ill ask him if there any solution from the suffering...also kinda pissed tht my dr says i dont need any more u/s...the last one i had was at 19 weeks which was the gender reveal...kinda persuading him to give me one more...some frend of mind had put into my head tht Sara might just b a boy....i dono how im goin to react if tht happens...i just want another u/s to make sure

 

[Cowgirl07]

I'm sorry your friend is stressing you about Sara being a boy, but a little extra reassurance is good. Sorry about your back.

 

[clynn11]

Molly- sorry you're in pain right now (yeah that sounds HORRIBLE I feel so bad for you!!) FX Gabriel stays put as long as possible!

Sarah- That lil man of yours is sooo comfy in there! C'mon out Evan, we all wanna meet you!!

Ash- FX that she doesn't have GD! I go in for my test April 16th.

Waves you totally jinxed yourself. Sorry her little bum is irritated That's no fun. FX all goes well and her belly button heals up quickly. I'm sorry you've been having rough nights and the DH isn't helping as much during those times! It will get better

Mirolee- That's awesome that he felt kicks! DH still hasn't felt Zuri She's so stubborn she stops moving when anyone puts their hands on me!! Plus lately she has just been kicking directly straight down into my cervix. It's the weirdest feeling lol.

Nikki- LOL at Alia finding your hair! She's getting so big already!!

Sandy- I had little baby movements initially starting around 14 weeks then had some times where there would be multiple stretches of days in between where I wouldn't feel anything. Don't worry!

Brittney- I'm sorry that Zara is being so damn stubborn!! Puppy training can be extremely hard. FX she gets the jist of it SOON!

Morgan- UGH that sucks! I know I would be a grumpy mess if I was forbidden to eat!!! Over 37 weeks! Yay! Sounds like Marley J is slowly but surely getting ready to meet the world! Can't wait to see that beautiful face!

Katrina- woot woot! Lots of sexy time!!! I am so so excited for you this cycle!!!!!!

Amanda I'm sorry you're having such a hard time right now hun. But you're right. There's a reason that you decided to split, and although you're in a very vulnerable place right now, maybe it's best you two have a little distance. I completely understand why you miss him and am so sorry you're having to go through this all at once. Chin up hun! You're a beautiful, strong woman and things ARE going to get better!

Sonia- So nice to hear from you more lately! We've missed you!! Can't believe you're over 30 weeks already! Let the countdown begin! FX you can convince your doc to give you another quick peek!

 

[TTCaWee1]

Amanda - does ex DH know about the pregnancy or is he hurt that you left?

 

[RobertRedford]

Rachel, he knows. He is coming with me to the D&C.

 

[Ingodshand]

Hi girls! Evan is still just hanging out. I think I had a few "real" contractions earlier today but then they just stop. I am also in a lot of pain from my left hip and the swelling is still there. I am so done!!!

Waves- so sorry you guys had a bad night. At least Leah is a really good sleeper!

Morgan- how are you doing today? Any progress?

Katrina- get on it!!

Amanda- sorry you are going through such s hard time!

 

[pdxmom]

I hope the contractions r the real deal for u hun...keeping u in my thoughts...

SO all morning ive been having this weird numb tungly uncomfortable feeling in my left palm...its almost as if there isnt any blood circulation there but my palm is nice and warm...is anyone experiencing this ??? dh thinks i shud call my dr...i dont think so as i have an app with him tomorrow anyways and i really really dont wanna ask dr google for fright of weird answers...any of u girls got anything for me???

 

[HWPG]

sonia, i havent had that problem but my guess is it's just a "weird" thing that happens - like sometimes my skin will get super sensitive in one spot for no apparent reason. i would tell your dr tomorrow.

my rant today is work related: i do the ordering of our office supplies, among other things (like chemicals and stuff). the rule is if you want something, you find it, and then email me the link or the specs and i will order it, but it is not my job to *find* what you want (or read your damn mind). i sent out an email to 17 people (my group) saying i'm going to be placing an office supplies order, please let me know if there are any specific requests. i receive 3 emails: 1 asking for AAA batteries, 1 asking for black permanent markers - with a link and the item number and how many he'd like, and 1 that said "can you order me a notebook?" - do you know how many friggin notebooks there are in the world? spiral bound, college ruled, different sizes, side vs top bound, hard cover, soft cover, plastic cover.... omg! so i wrote back "this is not specific enough. please let me know what kind of notebook you want" - but seriously? and this happens fairly regularly. and it's soooo annoying. i have no time, or patience, or want to research your needs.
sigh. people. so annoying

 

[TTCaWee1]

Sonia my fingers went numb from swelling. They are still kind of numb a month out....dr said it was from being preggo. I think Nikki had it as well. Mine started mild but then towards the end felt like my hand was asleep.

Amanda that's good that he's going with you and still being supportive. No offense but I'm pretty sure mine would kill me. I hope it all works out and maybe this will bring you two back together if it is meant to be.

Ellie is one month today. It's crazy. We go back to the dr tomorrow for a weight check and check up. Fx she's over 6.5 pounds. I also have to meet with the lactation RN and she wants to weigh Ellie before I bf and after to see how much she's actually getting. She seems satisfied after bf and I give her 3 oz of formula when she has a bottle so I'm sure she's getting close to that with each bf. she doesn't always do both breasts. Is that normal? Her favorite boob is the left one lol. DH and I have been working on our yard. DH more than me bc I take care of Ellie more than him. He built a privacy fence, an in ground fire pit, and now he's building a sitting area to go around the fire pit. Oh and a shed. Next he's doing the deck and a pergola. He's loving this paternity leave lol. He took 6 weeks off. Although I will slightly complain that he's only changed 2 diapers and done 2 feedings. The feedings are not a big deal bc I mainly bf except 2 bottles a day. But he has got to get a grip on the poop. At least he's not doing nothing...he's been working outside every day for 2 weeks. I did leave Ellie with him for 2 hours the other day but she was fed and changed so all she did was sleep lol. He got lucky there.

How much should babies poop? I feel like she poops sooooo much. And it's all mustardy diarrhea curdled poo. No wonder DH is scared of it.

 

[RobertRedford]

Rachel, I agree. I guess most guys wouldn't be up for going to a d&c for a MC of a pregnancy that wasn't related to him. He was with me during the last d&C. same situation, it did bring us back together, so who knows.

LOL at dh needing to get a grip on the poop, but the backyard sounds amazing. and how nice to have him home for 6 weeks! Also can't believe Ellie is a month old! Crazy that its not even your official due date yet!

 

[wavescrash]

Leah's pooping NONstop lately, same kind --- seedy, mustard yellow and watery/diarrhea-like. The last couple of days, EVERY single diaper had poop in it. And sometimes she'd poop before, during and after a feeding. Her poor bum is so red/raw and sore. For some reason today she's had 2 really wet diapers that had NO poop in it but otherwise she's pooping nonstop lol.

I actually googled yesterday to see if it was normal/okay and general consensus is that it is.

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

Mirolee- Same here!!! I do purchasing and I order all those supplies, but like you, they need to tell me exactly what they want, and they never do!!! it's so annoying!!

Sonia- I haven't had a scan since week 20. I was told I will have no more. It really bums me out. I don't want any issues, but I'd like to see her one last time. =[ Let me know if you can talk your doc into it!

Waves- I totally get it if he doesn't do much at work and then does nothing at home. That's kind of annoying.

Morgan- So sorry girl!! I would hate being couped up in the hospital not knowing what is going on, and i'd be starving!!!

 

[goldstns]

Sonia- at the stage ur at they can no longer do gender and the scans aren't as cool as they were at 20 weeks. The baby is too big to fit in one screen and the bones r developed and cause the screen to be black where they are. So the us isn't as cool. However a 3d is way cool if u can get that.

waves- how much will u have to pay for an emergency room visit? Wouldn't that cost more? At least for us Alia had the breathing issues and just to be checked in was $400 (with insurance help and we have pretty good insurance). Maybe renting a car for the day is cheapest. I think u can get one for like $20.

 

[Ingodshand]

So how do you answer the question, " Mommy, how is my baby brother going to come out of your belly? ". I said through my belly button!

 

[Disneybaby26]

Ugh Morgan, i'm so sorry, I'm in a similar boat, minus the vbac obviously. Doctors effing suck!!

I need help girls. Went to the doctor today and she said my fundal height is only 34 weeks and that bc Makayla is so small she wants me to go back to Yale next week for another ultrasound. Fine. Then she launches into this whole thing about how shes going to schedule a biophysical and NST for the 22nd, if I make it that far and if I haven't gone into labor yet she will schedule an induction for that day. Then proceeds to tell me that more often than not babies that are small need a section because they don't handle the strong contractions well and have decels in heart rate etc. She closed by telling me that "she has a mental list of patients that she doesn't relax until shes knows they've delivered and i'm now on that list. Gee, thanks.

I feel like I have no voice in the matter. The worst part to me is that I know i'm not technically even due until the 24th. FML. I said something about really wanting to labor at home and she basically told me to cut the shit and that we have to make getting the baby out safely above all else. Which I obviously totally agree with but now also totally feel like I'm not going to go into labor, naturally, ill have to be induced, and then they're going to tell me the baby is stressed and they need to do a section anyway. There goes my entire "birth plan" out the flipping window - and I thought the + Strep was interfering....

I feel like my head is spinning. With so many of us trying for VBAC theres got to be a reason why. Is it because of the recovery? The healing? The number of kids you want to have? Because you have an emotional urge to give birth vaginally?

The reason I ask if because if it's going to come to induction, I am almost leaning towards asking for an ELCS. My WORST nightmare would be to have them induce, labor with those violent contractions for hours and then have to have an EMCS. Help

I need to get this baby out on my own.