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teeeheee, Sarah. I'm so awkward, I dont know how I would brace myself for questions like that.
 
Ellie is a month already! I love her fb picture she looks like she's saying I'm so big!
Mirolee how annoying.
Afm just had another walk, Dh is stressing me out saying I'm working out to much. I don't think a half mile or mile stroll will hurt anything. Especially since I'm normally throwing hay bales instead. But we let the cows out of the dry lot so I don't have to feed them anymore. No more bouncing skid steer!
 
Kara, your doctor sounds like a piece of work. I understand having the baby's health and safety as a front runner, but it seems like shes forgetting that you're a patient and bedside manner is very important too, among just listening to you, too! It's late in the game, but is it possible to swap doctors? or at least see someone who listens to your concerns and will actually respond in a meaningful way? I'm sorry its so frustrating!
 
Sarah that sounds awkward.
Kara I'm sorry she sounds like a royal witch. How can she say that to you as if your not stressed enough. I don't have any tips for inducing labor. I have heard dtd, eat pineapple etc.
 
There's really no where else to go at this point. We usually have a very good "friendly" relationship and I think that's why she's very open and blunt with me. Which, in life, I am the same way. And maybe she didn't know she freaked me out bc I didn't act freaked out in the office...I always do that to myself. Like just smile and nod and then kick myself in the ass later on. I think its a career induced front bc I have to deal with a lot of bad news etc without reaction at work.

The kicker for the day was that she wrote me a work restriction note to "only" work 8 hrs per day bc I got stuck at work for 12 hours last Friday and no one even blinked an eye like hello im 91/2 months pregnant...So I gave the note to my boss and she called me in and asked me to work 9-5:30 tomorrow instead of my 8-4:30. Nice loophole assholes.
 
Molly-Anal fissures suck! I've struggles with them for a long time. Make sure you drink lots of water and eat high fiber foods. Most of the time mine are fine, but like in the 1st tri when I was so constipated they ripped back open. If you can keep it softer, they heal up. Sorry you have to deal with them...definitely not fun!

Ashlee-Hopefully she's fine. That will suck if she has to worry about that, especially so early in the pregnancy.

Mirolee-Yay for OH feeling kicks!

Nikki-I'm excited the sun bleaching worked! Not so excited she's pulling your hair though lol

Morgan-I would totally be hoarding food in there! That is so stupid they won't let you eat, you'll need the energy! Why are they having you pee so much? What are they testing for?

Waves-That's annoying he offers to help but then doesn't really do much. If he wanted to do it the right way, he would take her with him instead of leaving her there to cry...no reason for her to just lay there and fuss until he's ready for her anyway. It sounds like she's a pretty good sleeper though, so at least you have that going! Not Leah and Hannah just need to line up their schedules a little better :)

Sonia-That's annoying they won't do anymore scans...I made them double check genders at pretty much every u/s lol Even at the last one (34 weeks) you could still clearly tell their genders. I agree that it's not as neat as when you can see the whole baby though. You just see parts.
I get numbness/tingling in my hands all the time. They attribute it to the weight of your growing uterus pushing on blood vessels and such. I have swelling in my fingers and my knuckles are sore too. Internet says it's carpal tunnel. My doc didn't seem concerned at all, said it was normal.

Doc checked me at apt yesterday, still no dilation. These babies are tightly closed in there...She went ahead and did the strep b swab just in case Olivia flips. Not much else to report...

On the help from significant others front...I already predict that DW and I will fight. We both love our sleep and both get grumpy when we've been up or have to get up. However, she is the one that usually gets up with the dogs now. She can wake up, take them out and go right back to sleep. I have a much harder time, sometimes I can't go back to sleep. So I know she'll do what needs to be done. She'll be off for 3 weeks. She already knows she's on diaper duty bc I will hopefully be bf 2 babies...
 
And I just read that most insurance companies won't cover a section until the mom has tried induction or "natural labor". I hate today.
 
Sarah-I would probably just go for honesty lol I've always been like that though...I did have a kid trying to explain to another kid how they would cut the babies out of me and he drew a circle all the way around his belly. He was so sure of himself lol Like they would just cut my belly off, take them out and sew it back on!

Kara-I'm sorry...it seems like a lot of these doctors really suck lately!
Your fundal height is small, but when's the last growth scan they did on her? I would say the growth scan means more than your fundal height bc that can just be from the way you are carrying. Not gonna lie, I think she's full of shit about the small babies and heart decels...Babies are born vaginally at every size all the time and are fine. Even twins, which are notoriously smaller are born vaginally and are just fine. Do not let her get in your head.
And, I know it's scary and takes a lot of balls to go against the doctor, but you don't have to let them do anything you don't want them to do. If you want to try and go longer without induction, they can't make you.
C-section is definitely not my first choice bc of the healing and bc it interferes with how I get to bond with babies after they are born (bc they have to stitch me up and such, they don't go straight on me). C-sections are also a little riskier just bc they don't clear the babies lungs like a vaginal delivery. However, no matter how it happens I'm sure everything will be perfectly fine.
Please do not let her stress you out about all this. Have you considered talking to a midwife or even a doula?
 
Thank you so much Julie. I know I'm just all wound up and need some time to digest. A doula might be a really really good idea. The last growth scan was last week and she was measuring only 23rd percentile-5lbs. So yes, she's small but not considered Intrauterine Growth Restriction. I'm going to collect my thoughts and call and talk to the doctor tomorrow.

Unlil then ill be "comforting myself" bouncing on my labor ball....
 
They never gave me a percentile but Leah was measuring pretty small which is why I had twice-a-week biophysical profiles the last few weeks. So long as they can't find a reason for baby being small and she looks otherwise healthy, there's no reason to avoid a vaginal delivery. My OB was willing to let me deliver vaginally if Leah had flipped regardless of size.

Some babies are just small but otherwise healthy as was the case with Leah. And the weight estimate can be off by a pound either way so she could actually be 6lbs which isn't bad.

Realistically, she can't force you into a c-section so I would just try to make it known you want to try a vaginal delivery at all costs.
 
Kara - I think that is crazy. I pushed out a 34 weeker and labored for 11 hours with very strong contractions 1.5-2 min apart. Every baby is different but you can't predict that the baby will have decels because of her size. I say to try for the vaginal. If you have to labor at the hospital, it's a minor adjustment to have a safe delivery. As far as birth plans go, I never had one. I feel like they never go the way mom wants them to and adds undue stress. I'm glad I didn't have one bc nothing went how I thought it would. Stay strong girly. Try for the vaginal
 
Thank you Amanda and Rachel-I really really appreciate the support right now. Even if we have to induce, I'm sure I can fight for a few extra days to have the chance to go naturally. You girls are right about her size too, some babies are just small!

We had our d&c the 11th of April last year and I've been thinking about it a lot and I think just anything they say to me that seems "put of the norm" makes me to worried and sends me into a tailspin. I just love this little baby so much and can't wait to hold her.
 
It will be amazing however she gets into your arms. The first cry is the best sound ever. Omg it will melt your heart. I was sure I would have a c-section but they made me try for a vaginal bc they knew she was small. I didn't flip out bc inside I knew they would get her in my arms safely whether it was vaginally or c section. When you realize you are about to meet her, nothing else matters.
 
I 100% agree Kara. It's totally natural for you to be worried about this and I think your doctor is being pretty unfair making all of these assumptions just because she's on the smaller side. I know plenty of women that had perfectly smooth vaginal births with 5 to 6lb babies! But no matter what, if it does end up in a c-section she will be in your arms healthy and happy and all will be well <3
 
She will be awesome! I can't wait to see her little face. I'm sorry your so stressed and agree maybe a doula could help.
 
Sonia- I did have numb hand during pregnancy and just after birth. A wristband helped.

rachel-Alia loves left boob better too. I think its cuz she likes her head turned right better. Daycare teacher said its normal, but doc might recommend putting something under her right side to make her look / turn left more. Poop color/texture is normal! Amount is normal! As for eating one side only is fine, but make sure you either have her start on the other side next time or pump otherwise for your sake. Otherwise u'll have lopsided boobs or lose the milk in the side she doesn't eat as much on. Happy bday Ellie!!
 
Mirolee- I do orders too..it sucks! I hate also when I order from a company and the next day a coworker wants to order something from the same company I called the day before.
 
Kara- I was induced...labor contractions were hard, but the epi made it totally fine. I hope she's fine. However I notice alot of us have been told our baby is too small or big and that is a problem...interesting
 
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