TTC and Beyond!

[wavescrash]

Ok I seriously hate you now

 

[clynn11]

LOL Ash that's hilarious. Maybe you'll get a pic with him tonight!!! Tell him to do it for the baby book! Lol!

Amanda (RR)- Hun i'm soooo sorry you're having to deal with all of this!! I hope he can find it in his heart to come and be supportive for you. Someone needs to be there! Hell, i'll drive down there and be with you so you're not alone

BB- Yeah look at that temp rise! I'd say you O'd comparing to other charts, can't wait to see your next temp! And to get the ball rolling on testing!

Britt- Pffft they're gonna have to deal with it! You're having a baby and obviously you want the most time with your baby as possible! They can eff off lol.

Sarah- Thanks for asking! I'm feeling a little better *knock on wood* threw up once this morning so we'll see how the rest of the day goes lol. FX that epo is doing something!! Can't wait to see little Evan!!

Morgan- Eeek sounding very promising! Keep us updated on lil miss Marley J! Did you decide on a middle name for sure??

Sandy- It sounds like you're getting a crap load done! I need to kick myself into gear and start getting everything accomplished that I want to. We keep saying we're gonna get paint and paint Zuri's room and then procrastinate! Lol!

 

[Cowgirl07]

Ashlee that is awesome I'm jealous!
Rr I'm sorry things are so tough right now, your awesome and post when ever you please.
Morgan I can't wait to see Marley j! You looked so cute at your shower.
Afm no hot flashes today or last night. My brothers dumb dog wanted to go see the neighbors when I was on the tractor today. Which pissed me off she hates Amish so why she wanted to go there I have no idea.

 

[clynn11]

Katrina yay for no hot flashes! Side affects keeping to a minimal hopefully. I am so excited for you!!!

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

You're all right ladies! there is nothing they can do! but I honestly do feel bad because i'm going to be out ALL summer and no one can take any vacation time while i'm off. I think they are all semi bitchy because I'm pretty much not allowing the other 3 girls in my department a vacation unless it's before June or in September... i'd probably be irked too, if it were another coworker.. but.. I won't get a vacation this year, and I stop accuring vacation time after i'm off for 30 days, so I won't get much time when I get back to work,so I figure i'm going to take as much as we can afford. So.. tough for them!!!

Ash- Cool you get to go again!!!

We got the Graco SnugRide 40 or something like that. I know the carsear and stroller have already been bought. I need to look into a nice jogging stroller that won't break the bank beacuse i'm going to start training for my next half marathon soon after baby is born.

 

[RobertRedford]

Thanks ladies! He reached out to my sister, who encouraged him to come with me. So, we're getting somewhere. Still having hard day but things are looking up.

Kara, I LOVE Bob strollers. They last for ever and as a runner they are actually great to run with. Plus so easy to manuever and they have a high weight limit. My only beef with them is that if you have it parked with a low weight baby in it and have a diaper bag on the handles, it can get a little tippy.

Ash, awesssommmeee. SO jealous. I love Jason Mraz. Glad you got some clothes, too.

Cassidy, thank you, hugs. So sweet of you to offer. My sister will come if he can't, and its close to her house, so I can spend the weekend with them recuperating.

I bought a pair of maternity pants that I am going to return unless anyone wants them. They're size 27 petite paige premium denim. they have the elastic panels by the pocket, not the belly band. also an isabella oliver maternity tunic tank, size 0. I'll send them to anyone who wants them and will wear them.

 

[RobertRedford]

ps, for those of you who want a nice jogging stroller w/o breaking the bank, look on craigslist. there are TONS of really nice used BOB revolutions for really inexpensive. They may be a little faded, but all the ones I have seen are in great shape. The replacement parts are inexpensive, too, so you can piece a used one back together to make a nice new (to you) one.

 

[RobertRedford]

my ex finally texted back. " you should have someone take you who is going to be there for you and support you through this whole thing. that person isn't me"


queue the water works.

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

Oh RR I am so sorry!!! *hugs*

 

[clynn11]

 

[frsttimemama]

Amanda, I'm so sorry! I wish he could find it in his heart to be there for you, but either way, his sister shouldn't run her mouth and make this any worse than it already is for you. Goodness! Hugs!

Morgan, sounds so promising! Oh my goodness! FX!

Cassidy, glad you're feeling better today.

Ashlee, so exciting to go see him again! I agree with the baby book idea!

Thanks for all the input on carseats and strollers! I appreciate it! We will probably get another Graco SnugRide Connect because we got a second base for our old one (that's what we had) so we didn't have to switch back and forth between my car and his truck. As for the stroller, we do a lot of things.. walking, festivals, races, tractor pulls, community things, so we're thinking probably something with a rubber tire. We've looked at BabyTrend at Walmart, but haven't really made any kind of a decision.

I got a lot done, but I have kinda run out of steam, and I could use a nap.. except it's almost 4 pm now so that would not work well. The place we were going for lunch is apparently closed on Monday's so we went to another Mexican place in town and got fajitas. I had only been there once a long long time ago. Sooooo good! Yum!

 

[HWPG]

oh. sweetie. so sorry.
it sucks that he's the person you want to be there with you, but at least he's being honest with you. i am hopeful that things between you two will come around again, because there are definitely feelings everywhere.
BIG GIANT HUGS!

 

[RobertRedford]

It has turned into him telling me that this is manipulative emotional blackmail. so, sadly, i dont think we're getting any where.

awful. just awful. i dont know what to do with myself i am so sad.

 

[HWPG]

he's hurt. clearly. unfortunately, can't fault him that, being human and all. but it doesnt suck or hurt less to have him lash out. i'm sorry that you're feeling so vulnerable and emotional and that he's hitting you while youre down. IMO, i would just take a break from texting with him. the silence is HARD, but it may help you both to kind of breathe for a moment. just a thought. (it's like you *want* to hear from him, but there's nothing nice to say right now, but you'd rather hear something than nothing.... a cycle.... even if you just say "ok for 30 mins i'm going to turn my phone off". then check after 30 mins).
will your sister be able to take you and you can stay there? some nice quiet time, get some magazines stocked up, maybe a journal...? i know journaling really helped me, during and after. even if no one reads it, it kind of feels like youre telling someone anyways. indulge in some ice cream maybe. watch the movie "frozen" 15 times - girls rule! sing "let it go" with tears running down your face

 

[RobertRedford]

Thanks, Mirolee. I stopped responding. I have nothing more to say. too sad. my sister will (and gladly) will go with me and I will stay with her afterwards and rest up.

He is not going to change his mind and I just have to accept it. I can't force him to come and the back and forth doesn't help. We're both far too emotionally invested.

taking some really deep breaths and coutning down the hours until I am off of work.

 

[frsttimemama]

Amanda, I wish I had some advice or something to say that could help you feel better. I don't. Just know that we are here for you anytime you want to talk about anything. I think that Mirolee's advice is very good. I hope that you are able to find some way to find some peace in all of this sad turmoil in your life right now. Know that things WILL get better. They won't stay this way forever. I can't speak on the part of divorce, only on the loss. Our situations were different there, but a loss is still a loss in my opinion. I don't care if you are 5 weeks, 25 weeks, or 45 weeks. I am always here if you want to talk about anything that I can help with or even just someone to listen. I'm glad your sister is willing and able to go with you.

 

[jury3]

Waves-Weird about your finger...seems random lol Glad you figured it out though!

Ashlee-Such a jerk! I can't believe you got to meet and you are going again!

Morgan-So glad everything went well! I'm glad DH told MIL that she couldn't be in the room...bummer she took it so hard. She'll get over it.
I can't believe you are having so many contractions. Hopefully they will turn into the real deal soon and not just keep torturing you for days!

Rachel-to follow up what bb said, with cloth diapering they say the best way to avoid stains is to lay them in the sun...Also if you are strictly bf then their poo is water soluble so you are supposed to just be able to throw it in the wash.

bb-Sorry you're having a rough day! Car problems suck!

Sandy-We had the graco snugride click connect 35, but it didn't fit in our stroller so now we have the graco snugride classic connect 30. We have the joovy twin stroller, it's a frame and you just snap the carseats in. When they get bigger we are thinking the baby jogger city mini.

Amanda-I'm so sorry I wish there was something I could do or say that could make you feel better....

Sarah-I hope things start moving along for you!
Would you mind sharing the tuna casserole recipe with me? I love tuna casserole...all I've ever made myself is the tuna helper though lol

Britt-Who cares what those people think, you need to do what's best for you and your baby! Luckily you get 12 weeks with FMLA so they can't punish you or anything. Besides, it's just a few more weeks than you were doing before...

Katrina-So glad you didn't have any hot flashes last night! I did not enjoy them at all. Luckily I only had them one or twice while taking clomid.

AFM-I feel like I'm getting bh more often. I was laying in bed this morning and kept having them. Also noticed some pain/pressure in my lower back, kind of on my tailbone. The bottom of my belly kind of hurts, kind of crampy but not bad. Not tons going on but I feel like my body is getting tired of being pregnant lol

 

[frsttimemama]

Julie, sorry you're so uncomfortable. Sounds like your body is tired of being pregnant, but how could it not be since you have TWINS in there!

Sarah, did you end up doing some freezer meals? Sorry if I missed it.

 

[jury3]

I just realized we only have 3 weeks from Wed until our c-section date...what?!?! That is if I make it that far. I feel as though I should probably get off the couch and do something...lol

 

[frsttimemama]

Haha well if that's not motivation! It's crazy it's that time already!

I wish my mom would talk to me about something other than the baby, baby stuff, being pregnant, and baby stuff (yes twice!) Geeesh. I appreciate that she's excited (I am, too!), but enough is enough sometimes. And not only that, but we have everything we need except for a bouncer seat, car seat, stroller, and clothes/blankets/décor if it's a girl. She loves buying baby stuff, but I just don't need it. Ahh!

ETA that by no means am I not appreciative of it all, I'm just.. overwhelmed and a tad bit frustrated. I know she wants to help, and I appreciate it. I wouldn't have all I have if not for her and others. I just don't need much this time around.