TTC these days is like a well planned military campaign for most of us. We know how our cycles work, we count days, we pee on sticks and check our temperatures, we plan DTD around ovulation dates, we know exactly when we can reasonably test and we can test at home and get a reasonably reliable answer in minutes. Not so long ago, people just DTD when they felt like it and that was it. They didn't know they were pregnant until they missed a period and they had to wait for a doctor to get test results back. They didn't know about early miscarriages because they wouldn't have tested in time. Is our approach an improvement, or are we just tormenting ourselves (and our DPs!) unnecessarily?