TTC for over a year. .or no?

[iwantabean]

Hey me and my boyfriend has been together for 8 years HOWEVER the passed 3 years i have been away at school (college) 2 of the 8 years we have been TTC w/o any luck ...i go to school 4 hours away from home and i only go home maybe 3 times throughout the school year...so i just wanted to know if you ladies think its an infertility problem or is it the distance that is making it harder. ALSO! ((please dont judge)) my boyfriend smokes sometimes (mariguana) so maybe that is also a hendering factor?. idk HELP PLEASEEE sending baby dust and BFP's to you all!!

 

[wanting2010]

Does your boyfriend get to come see you while you're at school? Or are you limited to seeing him during the times you're able to go home? If so I would say that's got a lot to do with it. There are only a few certain days during your cycle when you are fertile and it's entirely likely that you're missing them even on the times you're with your boyfriend.

 

[iwantabean]

he came up here ONE time out of my three years...but the drive is burdonsome so i go home during holiday breaks and that is the only time i can see him..i am happy that you think the distance is a factor because he and I both were becoming worried..Thank you for your reply!

 

[ebony2010]

I think that if your boyfriend only makes the effort once in 3 years and he puts smoking drugs before the health of your possible unborn child then I really think you need to think if this is an ideal situation to to be wanting to bring up a child. I know this sounds harsh but I think it needs to be said. If you do get pregnant how can he support you if he isn't around?

I'm sorry if this is upsetting to hear but alot of women on here find post like this upsetting and I am one of them. x

 

[iwantabean]

The truth can sometimes be hurtful but ur right! and thank you for you reply i will talk to him.

 

[ebony2010]

The truth can sometimes be hurtful but ur right! and thank you for you reply i will talk to him.

I'm glad you didn't think I was being rude. I just wanted to be honest. I've seen too many posts in the past where people just passify other members and to be honest... you deserve more. x

 

[iwantabean]

Thanks!!