LankyDoodle
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I always knew I wanted 2 children; my husband didn't initially, but after a few months said he'd love another. We tried in June, when our first daughter was 14 months, but we quickly decided we wanted to wait until she was about 2 for various reasons - all seem quite trivial now, but at the time they were quite significant. So we stopped trying and in early October (5 weeks ago today) I had the mirena coil in (I'd had one for 4 years previously and conceived first month trying 3 months after I had it out, and have no issues with it really).
My husband had been having a few aches and pains in a few joints and had his hospital appt on 27th October. He was diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis and told he will have to start methotrexate as soon as he's had an appt to see a specialist nurse. That appt hasn't come through yet, but it will quite soon as once it's diagnosed they like to treat asap to stop progression of the illness. We assume he will get the appt for some time in December so will need to start it some time after that and the initial tests (so around new year - 8 weeks' time or so). He can delay starting it, but he wouldn't want to delay more than a few weeks after the appt, so we are looking at the start of feb maximum really.
You should NOT conceive whilst EITHER partner is on methotrexate or has taken it within the last 3-6 months, as it works by preventing cell-division which can lead to poor fetal growth/no fetal growth and any number of birth defects. Not only that, but it reduces fertility enormously. So we are on a ticking time bomb as there is no way I would be selfish enough to actively try for a baby when there are those odds, no matter how many anecdotes say that people have done it and the baby been fine and healthy. It's just not a chance I am willing to purposely take - accidents happen but I will do everything I can to prevent. Most treatments for his illness are similar and conception not advised whilst on them, and once he starts treatment he will always need it because this is a progressive disease that could eventually disable him.
So, don't ask me why it has taken me nearly 3 weeks to get this done - I suppose it's been sinking in for both of us and we just brushed it under the carpet until about Sat last week when I had a sudden breakdown about it all - I cried solidly for about 4 hours. I just couldn't see reason. I know I should be grateful and thankful for the one baby I have, but my male GP (who I saw yesterday but didn't remove the coil) said I am grieving for the baby I planned and may never have and for the life we'd planned for both of us. I had my coil removed today and we are going to start trying immediately.
I realises the chances of conceiving straight away are very slim, and even if I do there is a high chance of miscarriage early on. I breastfed for 16 months, but my periods returned 7 months post-partum and were regular (every 27-29 days) from then until I had the coil last month, since when I have had on and off bleeding (which is normal). I have now had the coil for 5 weeks, and I am also overweight. However, we don't drink or smoke, eat reasonably well, are reasonably active, get plenty of sleep and are young (28 and 37). We are both taking pre-conception vitamins. So we are doing what we can.
I won't be temping. I won't be charting. I won't be symptom-spotting. I won't be doing anything that will stress me out. Our time is short and I need to give myself the best chance possible, which means NO stress.
So that's me and why I'm here in this forum (which I never used last time as I was an annoying one who went straight from wtt to pregnant!). Let's hope I'm pregnant by February!!
My husband had been having a few aches and pains in a few joints and had his hospital appt on 27th October. He was diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis and told he will have to start methotrexate as soon as he's had an appt to see a specialist nurse. That appt hasn't come through yet, but it will quite soon as once it's diagnosed they like to treat asap to stop progression of the illness. We assume he will get the appt for some time in December so will need to start it some time after that and the initial tests (so around new year - 8 weeks' time or so). He can delay starting it, but he wouldn't want to delay more than a few weeks after the appt, so we are looking at the start of feb maximum really.
You should NOT conceive whilst EITHER partner is on methotrexate or has taken it within the last 3-6 months, as it works by preventing cell-division which can lead to poor fetal growth/no fetal growth and any number of birth defects. Not only that, but it reduces fertility enormously. So we are on a ticking time bomb as there is no way I would be selfish enough to actively try for a baby when there are those odds, no matter how many anecdotes say that people have done it and the baby been fine and healthy. It's just not a chance I am willing to purposely take - accidents happen but I will do everything I can to prevent. Most treatments for his illness are similar and conception not advised whilst on them, and once he starts treatment he will always need it because this is a progressive disease that could eventually disable him.
So, don't ask me why it has taken me nearly 3 weeks to get this done - I suppose it's been sinking in for both of us and we just brushed it under the carpet until about Sat last week when I had a sudden breakdown about it all - I cried solidly for about 4 hours. I just couldn't see reason. I know I should be grateful and thankful for the one baby I have, but my male GP (who I saw yesterday but didn't remove the coil) said I am grieving for the baby I planned and may never have and for the life we'd planned for both of us. I had my coil removed today and we are going to start trying immediately.
I realises the chances of conceiving straight away are very slim, and even if I do there is a high chance of miscarriage early on. I breastfed for 16 months, but my periods returned 7 months post-partum and were regular (every 27-29 days) from then until I had the coil last month, since when I have had on and off bleeding (which is normal). I have now had the coil for 5 weeks, and I am also overweight. However, we don't drink or smoke, eat reasonably well, are reasonably active, get plenty of sleep and are young (28 and 37). We are both taking pre-conception vitamins. So we are doing what we can.
I won't be temping. I won't be charting. I won't be symptom-spotting. I won't be doing anything that will stress me out. Our time is short and I need to give myself the best chance possible, which means NO stress.
So that's me and why I'm here in this forum (which I never used last time as I was an annoying one who went straight from wtt to pregnant!). Let's hope I'm pregnant by February!!