TTC just off the pill buddies

[babycakes1982]

Hi Girls,

Cerena sorry about OH. Maybe he's just a bit overwhelmed. I had a uh oh moment with my OH about 1 week ago. I was chattin away about babies (as we do/I do lol !!!!) and I wasn't gettin much of a response and it really started to worry me. So I left it a day a brought it up. He just said he doesn't want to get over excited until it happens. So my advice would be to defo sit him down and chat about it.

Caroline sorry the witch got you hun. PMA 3rd cylce lucky chick!

Squeal sorry to hear bout OH maybe he just wants you to go on top all the time! lol :wink:

Jax how you doin?


xxx

 

[cerena]

OK well we had the talk when he came home from work last night. He said of course he wants to have kids but not right now because we do not have a solid financial base and he said without that, he will never be happy and he does not want to 'scrape by' or he will most likely sink into a deep depression. One point he raised is that at the moment, were we to fall pregnant, I would likely have to work right up to the birth then go back to work fairly quickly because we would be uncomfortable living on his wage alone which isn't all that much (but he is an assistant manager so not all that BAD!) whereas he wants me to be able to have a relaxed pregnancy with plenty of time off work and at least a few years off to spend time with baby and the option to go back to work.

The thing is - I know everything he is saying makes sense. I tried to explain to him how my body is overruling everything but of course he can't understand that. Even asked me to try and describe what being broody is like but how do you explain that?
Another thing he brought up is that what would happen if I were to go into labour prematurely because we currently live a 4 hour drive from the nearest hospital and I didn't really have an answer for that. It made me realise that it's a bit selfish of me, because if something WAS to happen, I would always blame myself for making the choice to get pregnant here.
I asked if we could re-think it all next year and he said that's fine.
I then sheepishly asked how many kids he actually wants because we've never even discussed that!! Luckily we're on the same page there and he wants 3 (me too!) all very close in age to each other, as in 1-2 yrs apart.

It all makes sense and is logical but try telling my body that it's just screaming MAKE BABIES!
Not sure what to do about my pill then..........should I just keep tracking my cycles, taking my prenatal vits and be prepared or should I just give it all a break for 6 months. Hmmmm.

 

[babycakes1982]

Hey Cerena I PM you to see how you are hun xxxx

 

[Caroline:-)]

Hi all!!! Haven't been on here in a bit and it seems I've not missed a lot on this thread!!! Where is everyone?!?!?!

Aaaaw Cerena, I'm so sorry that things aren't working out for you... I really feel for you that you thought you were TTC and now suddenly not anymore... Hope you're doing ok

So, how's everyone doing? Anyone tested lately? Good or bad news? What CD is everyone on right now? I'm CD8 at the moment... so hopefully I'll ovulate in a few days... hope everyone is good, babydust to all

 

[alli.s]

tested yesterday bfn! but got AF today so i'm happy she came instead of making me wait months and months, this month will be better i know my cycle length now!

 

[squeal]

I tested Sunday and got a BFN. Today started to get some brown CM so think AF is on it's way. If not here by tomorrow morning I'll do a test and if BFN again then I'll just wait till AF is here. Today is CD29 for me. At least I'll also know how long my cycle is and think I will buy some OPKs for next month.

 

[JaxBlackmore]

first af arrived whoop whoop! So I guess all the fun begins now

Hope everyone else is good xxx

 

[Caroline:-)]

Aaaaw, sorry you got a BFN alli, but like you say at least AF arrived!!!

Sorry for your BFN too squeal... but you're not out just yet - you never know!!!

Yay, glad AF arrived for you Jex - sure it'll be the last time you think that is good news though!!!! haha

 

[cerena]

OK think I'm back in! OH seems to not be bothered anymore and we've BD's much more than normal this week but despite positive ovulation kit results and fertile CM, I've not seen a thermal shift so looks like I'm one of the unlucky ones that don't ovulate in the first cycle or two after stopping BC

Is everyone else positive they've ovulated?

I'm hoping my insomnia and the fact I can't temp at the same time every day has something to do with it all and that I did ovulate

 

[squeal]

Cerena I haven't a clue whether I had O or not, however, I am buying some OPKs so that next month I know whether I have.

I did another test this morning and got a so I am definitely out and am going to wait for AF to show now.

I'm hoping it will be soon as then I will be due to O while on holiday which would be nice! I think next month would be more convenient for us too, however much I am gutted and want to be pregnant now!

Lets stick together and see each other through to next month and FX'd we will see some s and can go through our pregnancies together too! xx

 

[cerena]

Hi squeal. I got positive OPKs but I read that it doesn't always mean you actually ovulated. Just that your body geared up to...........

 

[mothercabbage]

Hi girls,
just reading ur posts and it seems im not the only one out there who has just come off BC ( on 10/09/2010) and is awaiting to arrive. i wish she wud hurry up!!!! then the fun can begin!!...any one in the same pls let me know we could compare notes!

 

[Caroline:-)]

Yay Cerena!!! Walcome back!!!
I don't think I ovulated the first cycle off BCP... But then my next cycle FF thought I did on CD 8 - I had 2 days of positive opks and temps agreed... but then changed its mind right at the end of the cycle saying I'd ovulated CD 11!!!!! This time on temps alone, so I'm pretty sure I must have actually ovulated then... But yeah, it looks like my first pos opks never resulted in ovulation... which shows that just as you said, a positive opk doesn't necessarily mean you've ovulated! Just waiting for it this cycle now... fingers crossed... so scared in case I don't!!! Not even a hint of a line on opk yet and I'm CD9... I got some faint lines first last time... Are you charting on FF or anything, or just looking at temps yourself? I'd advise using FF or something because the thermal shift it recognised for me is not something I'd have picked up on myself I don't think...

Ooooh squeal, would be fab if you conceived on holiday!!! How cool would it be if you came back not only engaged, but pregnant too!!!! Yep, hopefully this month will be the month for some of us and we'll get our BFP's and get to be bump buddies

Hi mothercabbage I hope AF hurries up and arrives for you!

 

[squeal]

I know, it would be brilliant!! Told OH earlier that I should be O when on holiday and he was really pleased and said that's what he wanted to begin with (for us to make a baby while on holiday) ... I think if it happens then it's meant to be (how soft do I sound) because the chances of us booking a holiday 3/4 months ago, and that actually being the week I O is a big coincidence so if I conceive then it must be fate!

AF is definitely on the way now (I wish I hadn't wasted a test this morning!) there is brown CM/blood present so glad it's over and I can start cycle #2. Will have one last BD tonight to help it along and hope for the best next month! At least I know my cycle is 30 days now, and I have bought some OPKs so hopefully FX'd we will get some BFP's next month between us!

And welcome mothercabbage hope your withdrawal bleed shows up soon. We all came of BC last month so will be going into our 2nd cycle now but feel free to join us, especially as you will be around the same CDs as me by the looks of things.

xx

 

[mothercabbage]

Thanx i would love to join the gang!! some one told me i could be using OPK already?? i didnt think i would O til next month??..keep gettin mild and i stress mild! period cramps but they probably all in my head coz im sooooooooooo impatient!!! hurry up AF!!!!!!!!!!

 

[squeal]

You can use them but you may or may not O so it's entirely up to you. I didn't use them this month just gone but I am this month as I found it a pain not knowing if I had O, or when, as when it came to testing I had no clue how many DPO I was.

I think I will use OPKs from CD10, and every other day until I get a positive on them and then BD every day if possible around that time, then back to every other day for a bit. That way I should be covered, I just hope OH can manage every day, or me for that matter!! He tends to last far too long for me at times!! Sorry if TMI!! xxx

 

[mothercabbage]

well im just gonna BD as often as poss n see wot happens, if i dont get BFP in next few months ill try OPK's n temping.....n SQUEAL love the info overload in that last post!!! he he xx

 

[purpledragon]

Hey there.
Fully new to this site. Been off BC since very end of May after being on it for 12-13 yrs. So far I have had a mixture of CD - 29, 25 then 24. At the moment I am on CD 30. So my fingers are crossed. If I still have nothing by the 23rd sept I will be testing. It would be soooo awesome to have a BFP then as it will be 2 days before my Bday. What an awesome present. I now how frustating the wait each month can be. This has been the yr for babies for everyone else( my sibling and both of my partner's sibling plus about 10 other people we know), so we are telling ourselfs that next yr is OUR yr. Fingers crossed every so tightly.

 

[cerena]

I had a doctors appointment today and mentioned TTC and my concerns about it taking a while to fall pregnant from not ovulating straight away. She said that's what they used to think but studies have shown that you're actually at your most fertile when you stop the pill? Said there is a 'surge' in fertility

She said the first scan is normally done at 18-19 weeks. That seems awfully far along? I thought you had one at 12 weeks to make sure everything is ok? You'd be worrying like mad waiting till 18-19 weeks! Well, I would anyway

 

[mothercabbage]

I had a doctors appointment today and mentioned TTC and my concerns about it taking a while to fall pregnant from not ovulating straight away. She said that's what they used to think but studies have shown that you're actually at your most fertile when you stop the pill? Said there is a 'surge' in fertility

She said the first scan is normally done at 18-19 weeks. That seems awfully far along? I thought you had one at 12 weeks to make sure everything is ok? You'd be worrying like mad waiting till 18-19 weeks! Well, I would anyway

hi cerena.i had my little girl 11 yr ago and i only had the 1 scan at 20wks.but when i had my son last yr i had a 12wk "dating scan" then a 20 wk scan. i think just the one scan would panic me a little(like you said) but now the doctors dont test for pregnancy, you just go along to the midwife when you think your about 10wk and they book you in for the dating scan to determine your due date.
i hope that is true about being more fertile after stoppin BC!!!
baby dust to all xx