Ttc number 3 :)

[Gypsy99]

What Sweeney said. It still looks great. I'd say you're still in at the moment. It's hard not to overanalyse things.

Ha you sound like me with my DH. I have a much higher drive than him. He's happy to have sex once a week and thinks there's too much pressure for the every 2nd day I want, but then takes care of himself regularly. I'd easily go everyday lol. He's weirdly more into it those couple days before AF when im grumpy and tired.

Afm - temp from 36.1 to 36.4 today big jump! Hope it stays elevated. Last day at Uni for the year too.

 

[spunky84]

cns: I hope not. I just feel guilty about being so negative with this whole cycle when I know things are hard for others. I told DH that this a lot of work for something that may not even work out lol I felt bad though because he kept saying that he was doing his best, but i kept trying to tell him that I know he is and that I'm saying that because even if we do everything right, there's only about a 20% chance of being successful. He seemed surprised by this information. I kept trying to make sure that I wasn't blaming him because it's nobody's fault and that it's just what it is, but sill a lot work lol (though totally worth it just for that chance).

I think of lot of it is the pressure of us having this cycle only, especially being so irregular where as if I were regular, we could've probably tried for 3 cycles instead of 1. Though DH said he hasn't ruled out one more cycle, but for as irregular as I am, that might push things back too much. Though I'm not focusing on that right now. We'll get there when we get there, but I'm trying to use that as something positive to look forward to if we're not successful this time around. Plus I'll have a better idea of what to expect with my cycle. The unexpected with this one has been a little challenging, too.

Gypsy: It's definitely hard not to over analyze things. I kept telling myself that I wouldn't, but I just tend to automatically. The next week will pretty busy, so I'm hoping that'll keep me distracted enough!

i think a big thing for DH is stress and exhaustion, so his drive is understandably low. We've had sex more in the last 46 days than we have in the last year combined.... yeah that''s how awful the last year has been. I had ds 3-4 weeks into my first semester of school, so it was adjusting to #2 and a newborn, then his dairy protein allergy and reflux problems, DH getting a new job, DS with tons of ear infections (had to get tubes later on - courtesy of my genetics), and more teething reflux nightmare, a summer semester where I spent more time at school than at home (didn't get home until between 10 pm and midnight most nights after having had been there since early morning). So stress and exhaustion has really played a big role in that.

I have to say that he's at least been a trooper during this lol We also seem to be on opposite schedules. When he's really in the mood, I'm not. WheN I am, he's not lol

That is an awesome temp rise! I didn't realize that your pre-O temps were a bit similar to mine!Keeping fx that it keeps going up! And yay on today being your last day! How long of a break do you have before going back?



AFM, all opks have been without a doubt negative (all very faint). Definitely different from what I've been seeing a lot of. I think that makes me feel a bit better as i think getting positive or really dark ones were lowing my confidence in what my body was doing.

I've been a bottomless pit today. I think that's in part from my meds as one of the meds is to help with my appetite for food issues, and I can't have that while ttc - which also isn't helping as it's been a life changer, and I can see a ton of changes in me since stopping, especially as time goes on. I haven't been to counseling in a few weeks because of scheduling conflicts and being sick, but I think once I get back in there I can work on food management without it.

Also exhausted. I was trying to get DS down for a nap and I passed out in the recliner with him for about 45 minutes ( I think) before DH got him to take to his mom's for a bit so I could working on some schoolwork (DS has seriously cired on and off all day long today -- teething). I contemplated just crawling into bed for a longer nap, but decided against it. I'm about to shower and crawl into bed here in a few. It's strange for me as I can't remember the last time i went to bed before 1-4 am. It's nice to feel properly tired and going to bed and getting some sleep. I think part of it is the excitement of temping in the morning

 

[spunky84]

Temp this morning: 97.42... So the drop each day has been -0.7, -0.7, -0.8, and -0.6 totaling 0.28 drop. It seems odd that the drop has been almost consistent.

I logged the 97.42, but I was curious again so temped more over the next 10 minutes and got: 60, 61, 70, 51, 56, 75, 64, 59 (all in the 97s).

I did something similar on the 2nd when I had a 96.92 and then went up to 97.32 and as high at 97.8something, averaging 97.4something, but fluctuated up and down just the same.

This is making me wonder if the batteries need changed and if my temps really aren't accurate. I know fluctuation is normal and maybe that up and down fluctuation can be with how I did that, but I would think they wouldn't fluctuate up and down that much in a 10 minute period. I definitely think there would be some fluctuation, but I think it'd be more going up rather than up and down like that. I just wonder if that could part of the reason for such big fluctuations even when getting enough sleep and temping at the same time.

It's just a thought. I got this bbt thermometer back towards the end of November 2012.... so it's almost 4 years old... I never even thought about the batteries since I didn't really use it that much so it never crossed my mind. Looking back at my first chart with DD, my temps weren't so wild and actually made sense. I know hormonal imbalances could play a part in fluctuations which could definitely be part of the problem, but some of my temps have seemed to be a little crazy even with adequate sleep and regular temp times.

They say you shouldn't replace a thermometer or batteries mid-cycle unless absolutely necessary... but I'm wondering if I might be better off. Maybe that'll shed some light as to if it was more the batteries or more hormonal (even if both contributed). I know either way my temps could be weird and not match this cycle, but I wonder if it'd be worth it to maybe get a little more insight. This downward trend just seems a little strange in the fact that it's been nearly an equal drop daily and 4 days in a row. I would expect at least SOME variation in that.


Do you guys thing that could possible be it? If so, should I just finish out this cycle with this thermometer or should I just go replace the batteries or get a new one and just make note that my temps my be a bit off?

 

[jellybean87]

Hi everyone. I've not been very good at posting on this thread but have been lurking.
This morning I got my bfp! I'm somewhere between 4 & 8 weeks but not sure as I haven't had a period since stopping the pill. I am in complete shock. It took us a year to conceive dd2 so I never expected it to happen this quickly!

Wishing you all lots of luck and hopefully there will be lots of Bfps soon

 

[cnsweeney]

Congrats Jellybean ! Happy & healthy 9 months to you !

Spunky - if it would make you feel better I would go ahead and change the batteries ! If you don't you're gonna constantly be wondering if it's not as accurate as it should be lol

AFM - my temp went up a bit this morning . Back above coverline . It's not as much of a jump as I was expecting but I also took it an hour earlier at 5am instead of 6am thanks to the stupid daylight savings time lol .. bit I took it again at 9am after falling back asleep for 4 hours & it was .22 higher . So I'm thinking it is actually somewhere between those two temps would have been my accurate reading . But either way I will see what it is tmw ! & I'm getting a blood test tmw ! It's gonna take everything in me to not poas in the morning ! Haha .

 

[Gypsy99]

Congratulations Jellybean!!

Sweeney good that it's gone above cover line. How many dpo are you?

Spunky we do sound very similar! IM back in February. If I'm successful in any cycle I'll be dropping to part time for a while.

Is there a way you can step back and de-stress a little? And definitely worth getting a new thermometer.

Afm - first cycle I've done full temps and know I've ovulated, but my temp has dropped down again. I'm 2-3 dpo I'd say. Will see what tomorrow brings.

 

[Gypsy99]

I've reaearched fallback rise so fingers crosses it goes back up tomorrow. Im a bit pissed at DH this cycle. His sex drive is useless. WE haven't DTD for 4 days now. He just stares at his phone last night after we were talking about not wanting sex in the shower and just waiting. Then I do all the things, he likes massages and scratches (like a light tickle on his back) and I've done them the last few nights. I feel completely out this month. IF my O day is right then we had sex 2 days prioe and that's it .

I'm angry at him this morning.. im doing everything and he's doing nothing.

 

[cnsweeney]

Ladies ... tell me whyyyyyyyy I just HAD to test tonight at 6dpo ?! It wasn't even fmu! I feel like a crackhead with these pee sticks I swear ! Lol. Of course it was a BFN & even though I know I shouldn't I got upset lol . Blood test in the morning which I'm sure will also be BFN . But we will see . DH is gonna kill me .. he said I better not take that test yet haha . He just hates how much they cost and after getting a bfp on an frer 2-3 days before an ic last time I don't want to use ic's anymore

 

[cnsweeney]

Gypsy - totally get it in a way . Dh has a very high sex drive but I think he likes me to make the first moves a lot and it's kinda annoying sometimes because I want him to take charge . But he says when he does I yell at him . He doesn't realize he picks the most awful times to try to be sexy lol.

 

[Oculi83]

Jellybean87, wohoo! Congrats dear!! Keep those BFPs coming ladies!!

Cns, waaaaaayyy too early to test! A BFN on a hpt this early doesn't mean you're out! Can't wait to hear about your blood test on Wednesday!

I hope everyone else is doing ok! I've been trying to keep up with you all.

AFM, the nausea is generally better. But the food aversion is out of control!! Foods that I normally like will make me feel sick if I even think of it. Like pasta. Used to love pasta. Now I can't even prepare any for the kids! I honestly don't know what to eat anymore. :/
Got my first appointment in 2 days! So nervous!
Fatigue kicked in badly, too! But I've nobody to help me with the kids so, I can't just lie down and take a nap. Oh well..

 

[cnsweeney]

Oculi - oh I know ! I swear the peeing on a stick addiction is real ! Hahaha . I got my bfp last time 8-9 dpo so I was like meh , what's a couple more days ? Lol .

 

[Katy78]

That's awesome, jellybean. Congrats! Stick around and keep us posted.

Oculi, good to hear from you. I still remember how tired I was with my second. I had an amazing one and a half year old who really enjoyed playing on the floor by himself while I was supervising him from the couch .

AFM, nothing much going on. On my second day of femara. I'll be ovulating around next Sunday. Time flies.
Kids are sick again. Well, at least we had a month of no illness. I hope it passes quickly this time, we could all use some more uninterrupted sleep.

 

[cnsweeney]

Oculi - I had hyperemesis with dd2 so I totally understand ! Luckily dh was awesome and picked up the slack . I couldn't even step foot in my kitchen they had to put me on medication . just hang in there hun !

 

[spunky84]

Jellybean: Congrats!

cns: I totally get the whole testing thing... I've been doing so a ridiculous amount even though I know it'll be negative. I ended up getting some of the cheapy tests at Walmart so I don't feel as guilty about it... though DH has no idea that I unreasonably went through 8 of those in just a couple of days and I didn't tell him I picked up another 8 (cleared out the stock) this evening... poas addiction is real...

I hope your appt went well today, and keeping my fx for you tomorrow! I hope they don't keep you waiting too long!

Gypsy: Unfortunately there isn't much I can do about my school schedule. I could go to nights and weekends, but that push graduation 7 months. I know that doesn't seem like much, but I wasted a year by starting at the wrong school. Withdrew, took a few pre-reqs to be able to apply, and then fortunately got in. After this week, I have about 5 weeks left of the semester. Then I'll have 3 weeks off. I'm probably going to still send the kids to daycare a couple of days a week as they do have friends there and I think it'd be too hard on them to take them out for 3 full weeks and then toss them back in full time again. I'm hoping to take those couple of days a week to recoup a bit before my last semester.

I hope your temp goes back up! I love temping for the fact that it can show ovulation, but I think it can also be so stressful, trying to figure out what each reading could possibly mean. I've never heard of fallback rise before. I just started looking it up to try and understand more about it, but couldn't find a ton.

I'm sorry about things with you and DH I definitely get the sex drive frustrations though. 2 days before O is still good though! I have different O days suggested on different apps. One of the days is Nov 2, but when checking, it still gave a good score for timing. Keeping fx for you


Oculi: I'm glad to see you updating here! I've been wondering how you were doing and feeling! I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with food aversions. I hope it doesn't last too much longer for you. I hope you appt goes well. Glad things seem to be going well otherwise

Katy: I'm sorry to hear that the kids are sick again Hopefully you are still abel to get some rest and that the time goes by quickly until O

 

[spunky84]

AFM, temp this morning down again: 97.24. I didn't have the time to lay in bed and temp for 10 minutes but I did 4 consecutive ones: 97.24, 97.16, 97.8something, 97.7something.

I ended up buying a new bbt this evening. I was looking at the battery last night, and it looks like it's more trouble that it's worth, so I just got a new one. So who knows what tomorrow will bring with my temps. A little nervous.

To be honest, I feel out this month. I just do. Besides that continually dropping temps, I've been some twingy / pulling feelings. Pretty sure I had that a few days before AF last cycle. I feel certain that I'll start by the end of the weekend at the lastest based on those two things, but maybe even tomorrow. It didn't stop me from buying more hpts though lol Last cycle my temp was 97.20 on my last CD and dropping to 96.50 on first day of AF. So I'm expecting to be starting here soon (as I feel like my new bbt thermometer will likely show lower temps too, but I'll at least feel more comfortable about the accuracy even though I'm sure it'll be off either way.

 

[Gypsy99]

Sweeney - Aren't we obsessive at the moment! Every little twinge is a positive and a negative. Hopefully your early test will turn into a positive one next time.

Spunky I would send the kids to childcare too. If you can then you get the time off for a break as well. Studying is so so hard. I didn't at all think it would be as full on as it has been this year.

You aren't out until the bitch arrives. Fingers crossed for you too.

AFM - I put a pretend temp in for tomorrow. Fingers crossed it is up tomorrow. It puts me at 3DPO. I don't feel ready to test at the moment. I started a new job today that is meant to be up until Xmas maybe after the break as well, things are looking up in other ways for once this year and now I'm feeling a bit iffy about having a baby. I definitely still want one 1110% but I think because Christmas is such a big drinking deal for everyone around me as well. I sound so selfish right now lol. If I fell this month I would have to hide it through Xmas and people wold guess what was up straight away!

 

[spunky84]

Gypsy: Congrats on the job! It looks like it's going back up though! Keeping fx that it continues to go up. You don't sound selfish at all! I think it's absolutely 100% valid to think that


AFM, I woke up earlier than I had wanted, but not much earlier (about half hour earlier than my normal wake / temping time). Even though I could definitely crash again, I was afraid I wouldn't be able to and that laying there for half an hour awake would just throw my temps off even more.

New thermometer: First was 97.34, but I actually temped again and recorded the second one just because the thermometer fell out of my mouth for a second as I started falling back asleep until I felt that fall out, so I figured that second might be better to record which was 97.43. Probably inaccurate either way, but I felt that the first was probably more inaccurate with falling out.

I then retested with my old termometer out of curiosity which was 97.25, only 0.01 above yesterdays. So I think my temps have definitely deecreased, but I'm not sure if they have as much as my old says.

CP: High, medium, closed. Dry cm.

 

[cnsweeney]

Blood work came back negative hcg < 1. Super bummed & so is dh but we are trying to remain hopeful . I was only 7dpo. I just thought I implanted at 5dpo and there would be some hcg by now

 

[spunky84]

I'm sorry cns

Like you said though, it was only 7 dpo, so I don't think that totally rules anything out. Though I know it's still really disappointing

Will you go back for another blood test or will you just take hpts at home?

 

[Gypsy99]

Sorry cns. It's still quite early though. Xo

Spunky good that you have a new thermo. Id go 2nd temp as well. I think I need a new two decimal one.

Afm - temp up slightly again I was worried as DH and I argued last night and I slept in the lounge. It's been a week without BD and I tried to take care of things myself last night. But he was 'your doing that again". So I replied "it's not like you've been interested" then he cracked it. I hate it because I start getting depressed thinking he doesn't want me that way. BD isn't just about it feeling good for me it's about togetherness and passion. We've 100% lost the passion. woe is me sorry!