trying4Pnut2
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Hi everyone
Im new here and ttc my 2nd. I really need help/advice so please hear me out. Im 30 and DH 45. DS is 10. Been off BC for 18 months now. We were more NTNP rather than TTC. A few weeks ago I had this sudden realisation that Im 30 and my clock is ticking but not as much as my DH's clock! Now Im really ttc. DH is not really worried about a 2nd child, he says he is happy either way, so I cant really vent to him. My problem is that DH has low libido and is happy to have sex once every 2 weeks. I dont want to tell him that we have to do it a certain time as Im scared to put to much pressure on him as he gets exhausted during sex and sometimes cannot ejaculate (TMI but it is a bit of a problem, then). Ive read that regular bd is important like every 2nd day because older sperm (older than 3days) is possibly dead or weak sperm, not sure if there is any truth in that, though. I have asked him if he would be prepared to see a fertility specialist if we have to but he is dead against it and thinks Im having a go at him. Im so scared that we wont have a 2nd child and it is really deppressing me. My cycle varies between 28-32 days. I always thought that i ovulated on cd14 because thats when I get very intense and painful ovulation pain. Now Im not sure because my cycle isnt always 28 but more like 30-31 days rather. I think maybe Im getting the opains before actual ovulation, like 2 days before ovulation. This past cycle we bd cd12 which now seems it was early because my cycle turned out to be 32 days! I was so sad when af came (i thought it was late and I felt pg) that I cried the whole of yesterday non stop. Im so sad and I cannot speak to DH because its not a big deal to him.
Is there anyone with a similar situation - irregular sex and older husband?
Im new here and ttc my 2nd. I really need help/advice so please hear me out. Im 30 and DH 45. DS is 10. Been off BC for 18 months now. We were more NTNP rather than TTC. A few weeks ago I had this sudden realisation that Im 30 and my clock is ticking but not as much as my DH's clock! Now Im really ttc. DH is not really worried about a 2nd child, he says he is happy either way, so I cant really vent to him. My problem is that DH has low libido and is happy to have sex once every 2 weeks. I dont want to tell him that we have to do it a certain time as Im scared to put to much pressure on him as he gets exhausted during sex and sometimes cannot ejaculate (TMI but it is a bit of a problem, then). Ive read that regular bd is important like every 2nd day because older sperm (older than 3days) is possibly dead or weak sperm, not sure if there is any truth in that, though. I have asked him if he would be prepared to see a fertility specialist if we have to but he is dead against it and thinks Im having a go at him. Im so scared that we wont have a 2nd child and it is really deppressing me. My cycle varies between 28-32 days. I always thought that i ovulated on cd14 because thats when I get very intense and painful ovulation pain. Now Im not sure because my cycle isnt always 28 but more like 30-31 days rather. I think maybe Im getting the opains before actual ovulation, like 2 days before ovulation. This past cycle we bd cd12 which now seems it was early because my cycle turned out to be 32 days! I was so sad when af came (i thought it was late and I felt pg) that I cried the whole of yesterday non stop. Im so sad and I cannot speak to DH because its not a big deal to him.
Is there anyone with a similar situation - irregular sex and older husband?