Tthf

[LuckyD]

I've had a couple of short stories published in literary mags, and thought perhaps I might write a collection of short stories int he future, but right now I want to focus on this kids book. I'd love to write a series, but that will depend on whether or not anyone likes the first one!

Hey, that's awesome Soph! How cool that you have had some work published, and great idea about writing a children's book. Love it! Boys totally love the toilet humour - how perfect that you have two boys at home to make your case study.

 

[mushmouth]

I am fine thanks love...AF arrived today so BOO to that, but am actually ok and feeling positive about this next cycle. Am going to kick back even more - give up on SMEP, just have some fun. When are you due to start trying again? Good luck

Hopefully as soon as AF shows up which could be next week, the week after... who knows! hubby is in limbo a bit as he isn't sure if we should leave it longer to make sure I'm fine... I'M FIIIIIINE would just like to start over

ooh thats so exciting about going to help your friend! I find when its someone you truly deeply care for, jealous takes a back seat and happiness is in control! Boo at the witch though! grrrr

I've been meaning to ask this for a while, but didn't want to sound dense or pervy... but do you girls use normal soap to wash downstairs? I've been using a PH balanced wash from avon, and thats got to be a good thing surely? just a thought...

 

[mushmouth]

ooh Soph I think you;re very right! My little brother (now 11 but taller than me!) is totally about bogeys, and farts, an cutting up sticks to make weapons....

 

[soph77]

Oh no Lucky, I'm sorry the witch has come for you but I am glad we get to have some more fun, although it sure would be funner (if that was even a word) if we all managed to get up the duff!
That would have been so funny to see you and dh arrive on segways!

Jamie, you are going to have so much fun, hope you can find some time to check in and say hello!

Honey, missed you love! I'm glad you have made up with dh but hate that you are stressed out and feeling crappy. I want you to go out and have a few cs cowboys and spend some quality time with hubby. Forget about work stress (I know, easier said then done) and enjoy some booze and lovin'
Seriously, take as much time as you need to find yourself in a positive space. We will be here for you when you need us, and if you are still having trouble finding your mojo, just think of Fletcher the bird rubbing his butt on a wooden peg - that's how he got his mojo!
Joking aside (again), ups or downs, I am here to see you through

 

[LuckyD]

Hey mushmouth, after all the questions we ask on here I don't think there are many things that could be too 'pervy'....
I just use normal soap, but I don't interfere too much if you know what I mean...we are built to be self-cleaning so you don't want to mess with that too much!
It makes me laugh what I find myself talking about on BnB...honestly, y'all know more gory details about me than anyone else in my life!

 

[LuckyD]

Oh no Lucky, I'm sorry the witch has come for you but I am glad we get to have some more fun, although it sure would be funner (if that was even a word) if we all managed to get up the duff!
That would have been so funny to see you and dh arrive on segways!

Thanks love xx I think it will be funner (totally going to use it as if its' a word) for all of us to get knocked up together - this is going to be the month my friend! Don't know why I feel that, but I'm sticking to it!

 

[mushmouth]

Hey mushmouth, after all the questions we ask on here I don't think there are many things that could be too 'pervy'....
I just use normal soap, but I don't interfere too much if you know what I mean...we are built to be self-cleaning so you don't want to mess with that too much!
It makes me laugh what I find myself talking about on BnB...honestly, y'all know more gory details about me than anyone else in my life!

haha its so true - some of the things I say on here, I don't think I could actually get the words passed my lips with anyone else!

 

[soph77]

Moondance
I know what you mean on the Internet I would lose my reason if I lost it, its like a great book I can not put down and fulfills all my questions, I wonder what your DP really wants from your relationship some time men hate to feel like they have to plan stuff they prefer for it to happen LOL so may be he likes to go with the flow, but may be with the fact you are trying for a baby you need to have a talk you do not need him to be all in for a baby, yet when you do get pregnant he gets cold feet and leave you to cope alone esp as he is not keen for you to meet his family or move in with him I know he has good reasons so not judging at all, I just am a little worried you will have your heart broke by him, I do not think a baby would be the end of the world though for either of you depends if you believe you can cope either with a involved partner or on your own! sorry in advance if I have offended. good luck getting that computer course finished you will have options then. my DH was a welder and has spent the last year in college and now has got all her papers for computers in IT and fixing them he was always good at that any way and prob knew most of it already now he has the papers to prove it.

Moon, I have to say that I am more than a little worried that you might have your heart broken too. Please tell me to butt out if you like because you know better than anyone what your relationship is like. I just wonder if he isn't prepared or ready to to make a commitment to you, are you sure that he is 100% prepared for a child, and if he is when will he make that commitment to you? Will you be ok, raising a baby if he doesn't? Hun, please forgive me if I have upset you and let me assure you that worse case scenario, he breaks your heart and you have a baby - that baby will be the most perfect and right decision you ever made, no matter what. I raised my ds on my own and loved every minute of it and would not change a second of it.

Oh Anna, I hope you get back in the saddle soon hun It is so frustrating when you want it and don't get it!

Mush, I've missed you too!!! Where abouts are you in the dud cycle hun, have you got much longer to wait? I've heard that you can be extra fertile after a loss, so here's hoping that you get your bfp right away!

 

[tryforbaby2]

Mush, I use regular soap to wash downstairs BUT I use a ph balanced (Summers Eve) during my period and keep summers eve wipes in my purse when I am feeling a bit icky. Don't worry not a pervy question!!! When I was a teen and young 20's I used summer eve everyday but I kept getting chronic UTI's I assumed was from the soap (here it was scented thats why I was getting UTI's) I was told by my OBGYN to wash lightly around that area and to not get soap in the 'holes' (sorry if TMI) and rinse very thoroughly. Hope this helps! And yes, jealousy does take a back seat when it's someone you truly care about and love! Fingers crossed for you mush! Not to be a weirdo, but from what I see on here (BnB) it seems alot of women get their bfp (again) immediately after a mc. Hope thats the case for you!

Soph, your book sounds like it would be fantastic! When you write it, let me know where I can buy it! I hope I have a son to read it too!!! Your student sounds likemaybe he has matured alittle since then! I was a teacher's pet in school. Half nerdy half brat! Sooo what kind of NEW car are you thinking about buying? DH and I swore we would never buy a new car ever again (new used) because of the car payments. We always said that when we are going to have another child that we should start looking into a minivan or an SUV. I used to have a Dodge Durango when I had DD but at the time couldn't afford to large car payments and sold it to someone else; I did love the durango though! And I would love to hold your hand throughout first tri, second and third!

LuckyD, your civil union and party sounds so sweet!!! I love your entrance to your wedding/civil union! That is so nice and caring of you to help your bestie out! You are a great friend! I am sad to hear af arrived for you but I am happy to hear you will be tthf this cycle minus the smep. Smep was too strict for me and something we could never follow. Are you using softcups or opk's this cycle? It would be so cool if this thread 'tthf' would be a 100% graduate thread this cycle for eveyone!!!

Jaimie, Have a fun and fabulous time over the next few weeks!!! I'll miss you and your charm! I am totally addicted to this thread too! I also check it like 10 times a day! I mainly only use this thread I don't really post anywhere, not like I used to anyway! Have fun with the aliens!!!

Anna, we didn't last night either!!! We were both too tired!!! My sex drive is super high during the day, that I told him that maybe he can start coming home for lunch Maybe we can allure them tonight!

Honeybee,I hope everything is ok and gets nothing but sweeter for you! Have you talked to your boss already about the pay issue? Glad to hear your friends house is awesome! How is your little gardencoming along? Miss ya girlfriend! Hope you are well!

Ejay, Have you found a pregnant horse avatar yet? How is Molly (thats her name right?)? What are you plans and strategies this cycle? Good Luck!

Moon, seriously, the girls are right! You do write colorfully and with very interesting stories! I'd look into that if I were you! My MIL always tells me the same thing, to write a book about mylife called 'confessions of a physcotic mother' about my mom! Lmao Sometimes, Moon, I am alittle confused about your DP. As a friend, love, I'd like to see you with a man with whom you love and adore, who share the same feelings as you (not saying your DP doesn't). Someone to hold you and take great concern in your life and well being.You seem like a lovely girl/woman and I would love to hear that you are happy and well!

Niamh, Morning/afternoon Lovey!!! How the heck are you today? Are you still spotting or hasit gone away?

Jill and squirrel, morning/afternoon loves! :wave: Jill, I wouldn't worry about what you say offending anyone, especially if thats not your intention. I know I say things, but somehow I am the one who thinks it and then decides to just say it. I don't want to hurt anyone but sometimes you feel as if you are walking on eggshells or annoyed about something, when you know everyone else feels it too. I just say it to clear it up, not to be mean or hurtful (because I do LOVE you girls, I really do!!) just sometimes an honest voice is better than sugarcoating it or ignoring it. I think we all understand each other and if we say something politely hopefully we would understand andnot take it personally.

If I missed anything I am sorry girls. I am off to yoga very soon!

 

[tryforbaby2]

Moondance
I know what you mean on the Internet I would lose my reason if I lost it, its like a great book I can not put down and fulfills all my questions, I wonder what your DP really wants from your relationship some time men hate to feel like they have to plan stuff they prefer for it to happen LOL so may be he likes to go with the flow, but may be with the fact you are trying for a baby you need to have a talk you do not need him to be all in for a baby, yet when you do get pregnant he gets cold feet and leave you to cope alone esp as he is not keen for you to meet his family or move in with him I know he has good reasons so not judging at all, I just am a little worried you will have your heart broke by him, I do not think a baby would be the end of the world though for either of you depends if you believe you can cope either with a involved partner or on your own! sorry in advance if I have offended. good luck getting that computer course finished you will have options then. my DH was a welder and has spent the last year in college and now has got all her papers for computers in IT and fixing them he was always good at that any way and prob knew most of it already now he has the papers to prove it.

Moon, I have to say that I am more than a little worried that you might have your heart broken too. Please tell me to butt out if you like because you know better than anyone what your relationship is like. I just wonder if he isn't prepared or ready to to make a commitment to you, are you sure that he is 100% prepared for a child, and if he is when will he make that commitment to you? Will you be ok, raising a baby if he doesn't? Hun, please forgive me if I have upset you and let me assure you that worse case scenario, he breaks your heart and you have a baby - that baby will be the most perfect and right decision you ever made, no matter what. I raised my ds on my own and loved every minute of it and would not change a second of it.

Oh Anna, I hope you get back in the saddle soon hun It is so frustrating when you want it and don't get it!

Mush, I've missed you too!!! Where abouts are you in the dud cycle hun, have you got much longer to wait? I've heard that you can be extra fertile after a loss, so here's hoping that you get your bfp right away!

Soph, you took the words right out of my mouth Re: Moon. Moon, honey, we love you and care about you and wouldn't want to upset you!!!

 

[mushmouth]

I "think" I'm around CD 21 of a normally 31 day cycle... but my OPKs think I OV'd around CD 13/14 which is a few days early for me, so I hope it brings AF slightly early too... I just hope I fall back into a pattern quick and don't have to wait tooo long!

thanks for the detail Julia! hehe I will keep it in mind!

I have a good feeling for you this month soph! there must be something in the water over here at the mo! hun

 

[Moondance]

DP is just .... awkward... thats all.
He doesn't like to be pushed into things... Once, awhile ago when I had a depressive moment, I was getting all paranoid and kept asking him what he feels for me, etc etc, he felt like he was being pushed into saying things he wasn't ready to say and all.
He does say that he loves me, but he doesn't actually use those words. I've been told that he wants me and only me, and he can't wait to be a dad.
It's just difficult with his family. His oldest child is only about 6 years younger than I am, how is it going to look to her, when dads girlfriend is so much younger than dad? Proverbial S**t will hit the fan. It doesn't help that I also feel awkward about meeting his kids. I don't want to meet them and have everything to go to pot because his kids disagree with us being together.
My ex, when I was with him, I thought it was this great wonderful thing that meant something when he let me meet his kids only about a month after being with him, but his son never got along with me (he's apparently like that with everyone), but hey, I ended up being dumped... so... clearly, its not something that means something.
All this week the "family" have been at his house, his daughter, two sons and the ex, who he is still friends with, they were all staying there as they had major plans in the city, but couldn't make day trips as they live so far away. But while the family were out on Monday, I was down there for the day. He is so loving and sweet, couldn't keep his hands off me. When I was with his pregnant mare, I had my hands on her tummy and was listening to her belly, so he came up to me, lifted my shirt, put his hands on his tummy and bent over and put his ear against my tummy saying "I can't wait for there to be our baby in there".
Whenever I get AF and I feel horrid for not conceiving, he is such a darling, he tells me that its no big deal. Once we almost broke up coz of my shenanigans being stupid and obsessive and stuff... when I went to see him, I was in tears thinking it was all over... All he said was "You insecure ol chook" and hugged me until my tears went away.

He is nothing like anyone I've ever been with, so loving and tender and gentle and giving. Keeps telling me he's going to take me to dinner for my birthday and I told him I don't want anything because he's already given me the two best presents on the planet, himself and my horse Reggie. He just blushes, its truly adorable.

Usually when we chat online, I always say to him xxxhugattackxxx and he turns around and says it back, the other night I say "xxxhugattacksxxx" and he responds with "xxxxxxhugattacks and kisses and kissesxxxx" which made me go D'awwww.
I mean, he might not be able to say the words, but it is there, I can see it.

 

[tryforbaby2]

Well Moon if that is what you are comfortable with and that suits you than I am happy for you!

 

[CelticNiamh]

Well Moon if that is what you are comfortable with and that suits you than I am happy for you!

Me too

 

[Annamumof2]

Mush, I use regular soap to wash downstairs BUT I use a ph balanced (Summers Eve) during my period and keep summers eve wipes in my purse when I am feeling a bit icky. Don't worry not a pervy question!!! When I was a teen and young 20's I used summer eve everyday but I kept getting chronic UTI's I assumed was from the soap (here it was scented thats why I was getting UTI's) I was told by my OBGYN to wash lightly around that area and to not get soap in the 'holes' (sorry if TMI) and rinse very thoroughly. Hope this helps! And yes, jealousy does take a back seat when it's someone you truly care about and love! Fingers crossed for you mush! Not to be a weirdo, but from what I see on here (BnB) it seems alot of women get their bfp (again) immediately after a mc. Hope thats the case for you!

Soph, your book sounds like it would be fantastic! When you write it, let me know where I can buy it! I hope I have a son to read it too!!! Your student sounds likemaybe he has matured alittle since then! I was a teacher's pet in school. Half nerdy half brat! Sooo what kind of NEW car are you thinking about buying? DH and I swore we would never buy a new car ever again (new used) because of the car payments. We always said that when we are going to have another child that we should start looking into a minivan or an SUV. I used to have a Dodge Durango when I had DD but at the time couldn't afford to large car payments and sold it to someone else; I did love the durango though! And I would love to hold your hand throughout first tri, second and third!

LuckyD, your civil union and party sounds so sweet!!! I love your entrance to your wedding/civil union! That is so nice and caring of you to help your bestie out! You are a great friend! I am sad to hear af arrived for you but I am happy to hear you will be tthf this cycle minus the smep. Smep was too strict for me and something we could never follow. Are you using softcups or opk's this cycle? It would be so cool if this thread 'tthf' would be a 100% graduate thread this cycle for eveyone!!!

Jaimie, Have a fun and fabulous time over the next few weeks!!! I'll miss you and your charm! I am totally addicted to this thread too! I also check it like 10 times a day! I mainly only use this thread I don't really post anywhere, not like I used to anyway! Have fun with the aliens!!!

Anna, we didn't last night either!!! We were both too tired!!! My sex drive is super high during the day, that I told him that maybe he can start coming home for lunch Maybe we can allure them tonight!

Honeybee,I hope everything is ok and gets nothing but sweeter for you! Have you talked to your boss already about the pay issue? Glad to hear your friends house is awesome! How is your little gardencoming along? Miss ya girlfriend! Hope you are well!

Ejay, Have you found a pregnant horse avatar yet? How is Molly (thats her name right?)? What are you plans and strategies this cycle? Good Luck!

Moon, seriously, the girls are right! You do write colorfully and with very interesting stories! I'd look into that if I were you! My MIL always tells me the same thing, to write a book about mylife called 'confessions of a physcotic mother' about my mom! Lmao Sometimes, Moon, I am alittle confused about your DP. As a friend, love, I'd like to see you with a man with whom you love and adore, who share the same feelings as you (not saying your DP doesn't). Someone to hold you and take great concern in your life and well being.You seem like a lovely girl/woman and I would love to hear that you are happy and well!

Niamh, Morning/afternoon Lovey!!! How the heck are you today? Are you still spotting or hasit gone away?

Jill and squirrel, morning/afternoon loves! :wave: Jill, I wouldn't worry about what you say offending anyone, especially if thats not your intention. I know I say things, but somehow I am the one who thinks it and then decides to just say it. I don't want to hurt anyone but sometimes you feel as if you are walking on eggshells or annoyed about something, when you know everyone else feels it too. I just say it to clear it up, not to be mean or hurtful (because I do LOVE you girls, I really do!!) just sometimes an honest voice is better than sugarcoating it or ignoring it. I think we all understand each other and if we say something politely hopefully we would understand andnot take it personally.

If I missed anything I am sorry girls. I am off to yoga very soon!

glad im not the only one, and it looks like it might not happen tonight as well, because well Andy was in a funny mood this morning and i am well tired as its bloody hot and horrible here

 

[CelticNiamh]

Tryfor spotting has stoped now thankfully,

ANNA and Tryfor hmmm I got's twitchy hips as well and DH aint putting out, poor lad is still in pain boo hoo

I was marjor stressed today so much to do ! My bestfriend text and can not make it over saturday for Adam comunion I told her I was disapointed she son has his finals for his foothball team fair enoungh I guess, he wont want to miss that but Im so annoey at my self I let her make me feel bad, Like I wasnt good enough for her by not letting her know she hurt me so thinking of emailing her what do you think !!!

be back to finish some one is at the door

 

[Annamumof2]

hell i give up on him he posted somethign very horrible to me on facebook elier and i have had it, i want to end it he never makes me happy.

no wonder im not pregnant, he gives me so much bloody stress

 

[tryforbaby2]

Anna, I am going to try like hell to get some tonight but I am completely exhausted and don't think I'll make it up that late!!! Good Luck for for you tonight!

Niamh, is this the first time she has decided she couldn't make it to something you have for your children? I tend to take things personally but I have been trying to learn not to.
We all have our own lives. Your children are more important to you than someone else's right? She probably feels that way about her son too. His football is important to them as religion (communion right?)is important to you. Don't let yourself feel bad, trust me, there is no reason to be UNLESS she has a habit of doing that to you or otherson more than several occassions.
We have that happen too, I can't stand it. We will go to this one's birthday party and that one's wedding or that one's baby shower, but when our stuff finally comes around a select few whom you are always there for always have an excuse. Like it's ok for me to dish out money and gifts but not ok for you?! I hope I am reading your situation correctly and not just ranting on and on about my own personal BS! Lmao

Before you write her an email explain to me how you feel.

 

[tryforbaby2]

Anna, I wasn't going to say anything but I did see what he wrote.
Argh, Men!

 

[Annamumof2]

Anna, I wasn't going to say anything but I did see what he wrote.
Argh, Men!

yeah its alright hun, and hes making me out like i'm a bad mother when im the one that looks after them and feeds them while hes at work 2pm till 10pm, and he is the one that said im aloud lay in's in the mornings and he will take them to school for me, so im like WTF??

so screw him i've had it now.