Two years later...

[timeforababy]

Just realised it's been two years since we've been ttc. I know this isn't as long as some of the other women on here, but I'm not a patient person.

I went to the GP after a year, knowing something was wrong and kept being told there was nothing. One GP diagnosed IBS, one GP told me i had a UTI and finally one sent me to a gynae who found endo.

2 years on, they removed a fibroid, zapped my endo and I still don't have a baby.

I know I have luteal phase defects, 2 progesterone tests done on d21 show minimal levels (one was below the detectable limit. ha ha)

And finally, we are not allowed to have anything on the NHS because OH has children from a previous relationship.

At least my gynae was nice and cleared my tubes when he did my lap (he didn't have to as I was there for mid-cycle pain, not fertility) but I Just feel lost/confused/sad/upset at the same time.

So many people have had 1 (some 2!) children in the time I have been trying and no one really understands what it feels like to be infertile.

And if I hear relax once more, I will ask them how relaxing is supposed to get me enough progesterone to sustain a pregnancy

Sorry for the vent/rant, just needed someone else who knows what it feels like. Anyone else about the same time?

 

[oneday87]

Hi. i will be two years in july. ive got about two weeks left of my current cycle which is my second on clomid, im sooo hoping i wont make it to the offical 2 year mark.

its been a long journey. full of ups and down. mostly downs. i know how you feel.

Keep the hope. i'll keep my fingers crossed for you. baby dust x

 

[Countrygirl13]

Me too! Two years and five cycles of clomid later....nothing. Testing tomorrow as tww will be over and it's my oh's birthday. Now more grumpy about the soon to be wasted expensive test than excited about a possible bfp.
Hang in there, take each day as it comes. Wishing you lots of luck and buckets of progesterone!

 

[dimps_]

Around three years for me : ( went to a gp after 18 months. Nothing found but still no bfp. I've started my first round of chlomid today but I'm starting to lose hope.

 

[ChartsNHearts]

We've just passed the two-year mark too, without a single BFP to show for it. I also get a bit sad when I see that people have given birth to one or two children that they weren't even pregnant with when we started TTC.

We went to our GP after eighteen-months and were referred to the hospital for tests, which we've been undergoing in the last few months, but no answers yet as to why we can't conceive.

I agree with you about the 'relax' advice too - that's got to be my least favourite comment! Just this week (during a conversation about a painful HSG I had), a relative advised me that me and my husband should "find something else to concentrate on". Very sensitive advice!

LTTTC is definitely a horrible journey to find yourself on, that's for sure.

 

[4magpies]

How old are you? Have you thought about egg share IVF?

x

 

[Swtshae]

AF got me today so it's been 28 months of trying. I never in a million years thought it would have taken this long. That's what I get huh for thinking it would be easy? I've started the initial process of seeing a fertility specialist and have a saline sonography scheduled to check for cyst and or fibroids. Other than that, blood work appears normal and husband sperm is fine.

It has been hard. Especially the beginning of year two when we still hadn't gotten pregnant. However the past 6 months I have been positive about it and had just attempted to relinquish the control of trying to god. I've also tried to accept the fact that having a baby may not gods will for my husband and I. I'm not sure at which point I will know that for sure but I can't continue to allow TTC to take over my life.

 

[Amber3]

Hi there, I have been ttc for 6 years and (I never thought I would say this) it does get easier. I want you to take a look at this information. Maybe it can help you too:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LYibP31OvNM
Best wishes,
Amber

 

[CareBear]

I've been ttcing for 6 years, had 7 cycles of clomid after being told that low progestrone meant I wasn't ovulating. Then found out I have high prolactin basically meaning my 7 cycles of clomid were a waste of time. Am now on medication to bring the proclain to normal levels and am hoping that regular cycles means I'm ovulating as I've not had any other blood tests to find out. LTTTC is hard and me and my husband have only found it slightly easier by focusing on being happy together and focusing on enjoying life as the two of us and doing the things we wouldn't be able to do if we had a baby. We haven't given up hope though.