Ultrasound 6wks 5 days showed yolk sac but no fetal pole! Help!

[zunny18]

I went to an OB/gyn about a week ago on May 10 thinking I was about 7 or 8 weeks pregnant, since I got a positive HPT on April 4. I took birth control pills up until March 7 but never got a period.
BUT I have NO idea when I ovulated, NO idea when my LMP was. I'm only 18, my boyfriend and I weren't trying to get pregnant, but our entire families are supportive and we're looking at this like a blessing.
That being said...the ultrasound showed I was about 6 wks 1 day. Which to me sounds like it could be possible. I mean...like I said I have no clue when I may have conceived. It showed a yolk sac, a very distinct gestational sac..but no fetal pole or heartbeat. They told me I was having a missed miscarriage and to have a D&C. They were insensitive, took my blood and told me to come back in a week. I cried and I cried..it was terrible.
Well, the following Monday I got on the phone with a midwife. She said a D&C so early is absurd, to wait and see all my options before I make such a rash decision. She got me in for an ultrasound that day (yesterday May 14) which again showed a yolk sac, a gestational sac but no fetal pole and no heartbeat. They measured me at 6 wks 5 days. (4 days since Thursday, which is chronologically correct). They diagnosed me with a blighted ovum! That's two different diagnostics!!! I don't know what to think!
I can't stop crying, I'm so scared. The midwife took my blood to check hcg levels, but won't have the results til Wednesday or Thursday. She called the OB/gyn to see their hcg readings only to find out when they took my blood they were only taking it to check blood type to prep for the D&C. How uncaring!
I understand I'm only 18...I graduated high school. I have a job, I have my own place. I have a plan, and a supportive family. I am owning up to my actions and also preparing to be a loving wonderful mom to a beautiful child! But everyone is treating me as if I don't deserve answers...as this will be a "blessing" because I'm not ready to give life.
I'm so upset.
If someone can please give me some advice PLEASE. Or just some words of comfort.
Thank you..

 

[Ersurgeongirl]

Breathe. Give it time. I didn't see a fetal pole and heartbeat until 7w4d.

 

[zunny18]

Did they tell you pretty much the same things? I feel like the only person now who has hope is me. Even my boss gave me time off and told me to get the D&C over with.

 

[daydreaming22]

Ive been there hun. I would request a re-scan in a week to check for progress. A progressing sac with no fetal pole is usually a blighted ovum but because you are early I would wait to see if something develops before you even think of a D&C. GL

 

[Miracle2012]

Zunny, I totally understand how you feel coz I went to my Obgyn 2 days ago at exactly 6weeks and he told me I had a totally empty sac, no yolk, no embryo, no heart beat. He also suggested a D&C and think I will miscarry. However, I think it is too early to decide that, I am going to give it some time and see a different doctor and see what happens. The wait is difficult and agonizing but I believe I might not be 6 weeks maybe i am less and its too early to see anything. It happens to so many of us who would go back and get a heart beat after a week or 2 later. So I am not in denial and is also ready for the worst but waiting will not hurt. I suggest you wait! coz you never know. Keep us posted. Btw I am much older than you and felt the same when the doc suggested a D&C. There was no compassion.

 

[sp92]

Sounds like my situation! I got a positive on the 7th April, was on birth control so no idea about when I ovulated or conceived or anything. I went for an early scan on the 3rd May thinking I was 8 weeks. They said I was more like 6 weeks, could only see a gestational sac and a yolk sac. I panicked thinking something was wrong, but the doctor was really positive about it and said that I've probably just got my dates wrong. I went back for a re-scan a week later, the sac had increased in size and we detected a heartbeat. I'm back tomorrow for a third scan to make sure that things are progressing.

I'd wait a week or two, get a re-scan and see how it goes from there. It's completely possible that you're just earlier than you first thought.

Good luck hun, really hope that everything is fine! xx

 

[hunni12]

Didn't want to r and r but I got my scan at 5 weeks and all they saw was the gestation sac and tiny yolk sac but doctor said everything came out fine and that when I go back Next.Monday I'll be 6+1 and they should be able to see more

 

[zunny18]

Thanks guys for your encouragement! Miracle I'm glad to know I'm not in this agonizing wait alone! Every day drags on because it's all I can think about. I'm staying positive though, for you and me! Keep me posted on your situation! I have ANOTHER ultrasound tomorrow. But I'm not letting them talk me into anything just yet.
sp92, your story is awesome! I hope my ending is happy like yours!!

 

[Miracle2012]

Yep i know very difficult to wait but our little bean is worth every second. I will keep you posted I have another scan in 2 weeks. xoxo

 

[zunny18]

I have one tomorrow and another one in 2 weeks! So I'm right there with you!

 

[zunny18]

So the one today did not go well, everyone was very negative with me. They kept saying "I'm sorry but this is not a good pregnancy."
The doctor said "Let's set up a D&C" and I said no, thank you..but I will wait a little bit longer. He then said "well, let me tell you a few things about a D&C that might change your mind." When I said no still, he then insisted on seeing me again in 2 weeks so we can discuss it again. He also said if I start bleeding and would like a D&C to make sure I come to his office and not the emergency room. I'm sorry but it sounds like he's trying to make sure he is the one who reaps profit from this procedure...
Another thing I am confused of, and if someone could please give some advice on this: an ultrasound done at an imaging place said I am measuring at 6 wks 5 days on May 14. This OB/Gyn's ultrasound said I'm measuring 7 wks 6 days. That seems like a big difference to me. I'm not sure what to think. I'm so sad

 

[Radiance]

My son didn't show a heart beat at 6 weeks and I went back at almost 8 weeks for another scan and there was his beautiful heat beat

It's normal not to see or hear the heart beat that early, hopefully you get good news!

 

[MissCherry15]

hun dont dare go for a d&c, the thing is your scans are showing growth!! growth is a good thing. I would change doctor if im damn honest. I would give it till 9weeks before saying yes to a d&c and that would only be if at the 9weeks scan there was still no baby or heart beat and you could see that whilst watching the screen. everyone seems to want you not to have a child cause of you being 18. i was 16 when pregnant and had my daughter at 17. im now 20 and a bloody brilliant mum better then some of the older ones!! xxx good luck and dont give up hope xx

 

[EmilyDB1993]

Didn't personally happen to me, but my mother had the same thing happen. HAd her first scan and came home to tell us that the baby was gone, it was just an egg sac. Went back 2 weeks later and there was my little sister beanie-ing around on screen!

Dont panic x

 

[sp92]

Thanks guys for your encouragement! Miracle I'm glad to know I'm not in this agonizing wait alone! Every day drags on because it's all I can think about. I'm staying positive though, for you and me! Keep me posted on your situation! I have ANOTHER ultrasound tomorrow. But I'm not letting them talk me into anything just yet.
sp92, your story is awesome! I hope my ending is happy like yours!!

I hope so too! I'm sure everything will be fine at your next ultrasound. I had my re-scan this morning and we finally saw a little embryo. I was just far earlier than I thought all along! xx

ETA: So sorry, I just read your latest post! I really don't like the sound of your doctor. I'd hang off because if you were going to miscarry, it will most likely happen anyway (I really hope this isn't the case, though). Trying to word this as sensitively as possible, but if I were you then I would definitely hold off and play the waiting game and if you start bleeding, then that's when I'd want to ask questions, but if not then I'd definitely leave it a week or two and get another opinion. I don't think they should be rushing you in for a D&C. Did they show you the screen? Did they tell you what they could see or couldn't see? Not sure how it works in the states, but could you switch doctors or get a second opinion? Hope you're okay hun. xx

 

[New2Bumps]

Sounds positive, especially with everyone else's stories backing it up.
I actually gasped when you said you think your doctor wants to profit. It's so wierd for me even think of money in the same thought as such a horrible necessary medical procedure, my heart goes out to you.
Def. doing the right thing waiting it out. Fingers and toes crossed for you x

 

[Hvk]

Im going through the same thing now. I have a scan on monday. Thought i was 7-8 weeks, an empty sac measured 5.2 weeks. I had an early scan cause i have not stopped spotting for now 3 weeks ! They cant find a reason for the spotting :s they said either to early or the pregnancy has failed. Its a very nerve wrecking time. X

 

[sp92]

Re-reading your first post, and just wanted to add that my doctor today was telling me that the most positive sign at an early scan is being able to see the yolk sac - which you saw on both occasions, right? He was telling me that there has to be a yolk sac for a reason, there's no point in it being there if there's nothing to feed. And I think (someone correct me if I'm wrong) that if there's a yolk sac, then a blighted ovum is out of the question - I think I read that online somewhere but again, correct me if that's not right. Because you're so early, it's so easy for the tiny little embryo to be missed! It can be hidden in a curve of the sac, behind the yolk sac, etc. Like I've said, we didn't see my little embryo at my first 2 scans (6 and 7 weeks ish) and we only just managed to see it today (8 weeks ish) and it was literally so small.

Don't want to get your hopes up, just wanted to share the info that helped to calm me down when I was feeling the way you are. xx

 

[Radiance]

Im going through the same thing now. I have a scan on monday. Thought i was 7-8 weeks, an empty sac measured 5.2 weeks. I had an early scan cause i have not stopped spotting for now 3 weeks ! They cant find a reason for the spotting :s they said either to early or the pregnancy has failed. Its a very nerve wrecking time. X

I bled heavy my whole pregnancy with my son, he's perfect

 

[zunny18]

They called me to tell me the yolk sac has calcified because of fetal demise. I'm going to get a D&C tomorrow and probably just get an iud put in. I'm way too overwhelmed with all of this stress. I am not ready for all of this heart breaking stress.
And as a side note...I am not EVER. NOT EVER. going to an OB/gyn again with future pregnancies. Whenever that may be in my life...the midwife I had....she was definitely a better decision by FAR. I spent 5 minutes in her waiting room and 2 hours speaking with her personally.
I saw the OB/Gyn for 5 minutes, but I waited for him for 2 hours. And he had forgotten my name and everything.

I'm so happy for all of you have happy endings but I work 10 hours a day, 6 days a week. I don't even have the energy to deal with all of these emotions so I'm doing the D&C.