Unexplained infertility + struggling to be hopeful about IVF

[TrixieLox]

As many of you know, we've been diagnosed with unexplained infertility after trying for nearly 3 years to conceive with no luck. As some of you know, recent ultrasound found I only had 7 follicles but dr saying this doesn't affect fertility.

Anyway, due to start IVF in August yet just can't get my head around hoping it might work. For couples with specific problems, it's an obvious solution. But with unexplained infertility, there IS no solution cos no-one knows what's wrong. They say positive visualisation and vibes help but how is this possible after trying for 3 years but nothing? Hubby and I admitted last week we just don't think even IVF will work.

Anyone else feel like this and have any advice? I feel we need to get that hope back and establish a positive mindset back before we embark on it!

 

[kinggeorge]

Hi There,

know how you feel, I am lucky to have a 3 1/2 year old son but unfortunatly we have been trying for a second child for over 2 1/2 years with no luck, We have been diagnosed with unexplainned fertility and I have had clomid with no luck, Today I have been told that I am not eligable for anything else as I have one child and cannot be funded for any other treatments.

I feel so sad as I really wanted a big family and never wanted an only child even though I know Im lucky to have just one. My biggest bug bear is everyone telling me not to worry don think about it and you will fall pregnant,,if only it was that easy!!.

It has not happened and I'm just never sure it will but no one seems to understand why I'm getting so upset.

 

[Rihannalove]

As many of you know, we've been diagnosed with unexplained infertility after trying for nearly 3 years to conceive with no luck. As some of you know, recent ultrasound found I only had 7 follicles but dr saying this doesn't affect fertility.

Anyway, due to start IVF in August yet just can't get my head around hoping it might work. For couples with specific problems, it's an obvious solution. But with unexplained infertility, there IS no solution cos no-one knows what's wrong. They say positive visualisation and vibes help but how is this possible after trying for 3 years but nothing? Hubby and I admitted last week we just don't think even IVF will work.

Anyone else feel like this and have any advice? I feel we need to get that hope back and establish a positive mindset back before we embark on it!

Hey Hun I know what are you going through ... I'm in the same situation as yours ... unexplained infertility .. and having my IVF sometime around august-september ... TTC for almost 4 years .. finally got referred to Hammersmith hospital .. waiting for the approval of NHS funding .. then I'll get my coordination appoinment. I'm so scared if the IVF doesn't work but I still have some hope .. my sister in law she was going through the same thing .. now she is pregnant 6 months ( IVF ) I'm happy for her so just don't worry try to be happy and eat healthy and don't forget to take your FA as you have 2 months to go so your body should be fully prepaired for pregnancy I'll pray for you
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[TrixieLox]

Thanks for your comments girls. It's just so strange and mysterious how we can't get pregnant for absolutely no reason. It's crazy! And I can't but help, if all the tests have suggested hubby's swimmers are perfect and the eggs I do produce are top tip, what difference will IVF make? What if the issue is with the embyro embedding? I'll be going through all that emotion and physical turmoil for nothing. Plus you always heard the first round has lower chances... *sigh* Just a bit grumpy today cos getting AF. You'd think I'd be used to it by now... some months are worse then others. x

 

[kinggeorge]

You have the IVF that is a great opportunity try to stay positive they fertilise the egg before putting it back so that is a good start I know lots of people that have had IVF and fell pregnant 1st time most with twins or triplets so prepare yourself for that, at least you wouldnt have to go through all of this again if that hapened x

 

[maz]

Hey Trixie

I am also an unexplained person. As you can see from my siggie, unfortunately I am one of those that so far IVF hasn't worked for. Please try not to lose hope, as you stand as much chance of success as the next person. In my naivity, I actually found the first cycle to be quite exciting and hopeful, and each one after that has got progressively worse. Perhaps that has had an effect on the results of my 2nd and 3rd cycles.

I am due to undergo #4 in a few months - EC guestimated for mid October - and I have no idea how I am going to deal with it. Hopefully I will be able to face coming onto BnB and won't want to hibernate, but we'll just have to wait and see.

Good luck hun.

xx

 

[TrixieLox]

How soon after a failed attempt can you try again?

 

[maz]

I was told a minimum of 3 natural cycles had to pass before I would be allowed to go again ... it's to give the ovaries time to heal. Although I think Mendy had her second cycle more or less straight away.

My first EC was end of November 2008, second EC was end of March 2009, and third EC was end of November 2009. With hindsight, the time between 1st and 2nd wasn't long enough for me to emotionally recover, but that could've been due to miscarrying. This time round it'll be almost a year since my last EC, so I should 'hopefully' be strong enough to cope with it.

Fingers crossed you don't need to worry about subsequent cycles.

x