Urologist told DH to use birth control

[Indigo77]

I hope DH can get the doc on the phone, I know I speak to patients directly often to alleviate anxiety and give results... Hoping doc will make exception given you're TTC'ing!

I hope so....glad you accommodate your patients a bit....there are too many that just don't seem to give a shit....

 

[Indigo77]

I can't stand this ttc nonsense anymore.....we were fine and happy before we decided to ttc...

It's stressful enough without people who know nothing winding you up I hope that your OH manages to get a talk with the doctor.

The more I think about it, the more wound up I get....I mean, who does that?
"use birth control....will tell u why in two weeks...." WTH?

 

[dachsundmom]

I'd park my ass in his office until I got an answer.

I know! WTH? Does it not seem like a flippant and insensitive remark?

DH is calling her back right now to get an answer....He didn't want to call and wanted to just wait for the appointment.........When he heard how upset I was he said he will call back and try to get an answer by telling the nurse his wife is upset and distraught and doesn't want to miss a cycle....so we need some answer before the appointment...

This is unacceptable treatment! You don't tell this to a patient over the phone, especially with no explanation!

 

[Garnet]

I don't know either but I was told to use BC until all the results from our tests are back and they can determine why I MC twice. My husband had a sperm sample done too. We have not used BC but haven't really gotten back to TTC. This what they told me and it might not relate to your case at all...

 

[luvmydoggies]

I am so sorry Indigo- some drs. offices can be so insensitive!!! Has dh called you back yet? to see what the explanation is? Hoping you get an answer very soon.

 

[Wendyk07]

How did DH get on? Did the Doctor explain. Dont think you should miss you ttc windoe this cycle. What a waste that would be without a valid reason.

 

[cebethel]

Heck, I'll park my own a$$ in his office until you get answers Indigo! You don't deserve this crappy treatment & added stress

 

[Indigo77]

OMG.....

DH spoke to receptionist / nurse....She got mixed up and thought she was calling someone who just had a vasectomy that "didn't take".....OMFG!

She blamed it on the pathology lab that faxed her my DH's SA but wrote on the cover page..."We are faxing over the SA from the post-vasectomy patient"....

DH asked if they were planning on calling him to tell him that and she apologised and said she was waiting for approval from the doc before they called him....






I told DH we should just cancel the appointment, tell insurance not to pay, and go elsewhere...and get another SA done....If they are this irresponsible and incompetent....I wouldn't trust the SA results or the Urologist's advice.

Well, the good news is my taking those soy horse-pills was not for nothing....I guess...

I asked Dr. Google about 2% morphology and now I feel like even if he were able to knock me up, it would only end in miscarriage....

I cried so much today I gave myself a headache.......

And there is nothing here to eat except fruit and veggies and oatmeal.....

 

[cebethel]

WTF??? How the heck can they mess up like that????

Ohhh Indigo, I've never been through what you are going through right now, so I can only give my best advice/opinion...........which would be to NOT give up. Prove them wrong girl!

You've got your heart & soul invested in ttc, it would be a total shame to let the news change that

Me & my arsenal are here if you need us

 

[LLbean]

there is NO REASON to use BC with low morphology. As far as I know that only means they are not going to make it where they need to and/or will not make connection with the egg and hence not fertilize. So to actually want you to STOP ttc because of that is absurd. Far as I know low morphology has NOTHING to do with birth defects.

Good thing they caught their F up when they did, and again it proves how YOU need to take care of your own health cause Doctors just see us as numbers some times. Heck my MIL had cataract surgery on the right eye the other day and the next day I took her for the follow up and the doctor kept trying to say it was her left!

So when anything at all seems off or absurd ladies PLEASE question it and harass away. YOU are paying for this and have the right to annoy them if needed.

I personally would report them for being inept, but that is me. Definitely seek another specialist if you can. I could no longer trust this one.

 

[Indigo77]

Thanks Eva...

 

[Indigo77]

there is NO REASON to use BC with low morphology. As far as I know that only means they are not going to make it where they need to and/or will not make connection with the egg and hence not fertilize. So to actually want you to STOP ttc because of that is absurd. Far as I know low morphology has NOTHING to do with birth defects.

Good thing they caught their F up when they did, and again it proves how YOU need to take care of your own health cause Doctors just see us as numbers some times. Heck my MIL had cataract surgery on the right eye the other day and the next day I took her for the follow up and the doctor kept trying to say it was her left!

So when anything at all seems off or absurd ladies PLEASE question it and harass away. YOU are paying for this and have the right to annoy them if needed.

I personally would report them for being inept, but that is me. Definitely seek another specialist if you can. I could no longer trust this one.

I'm with you....but it's up to DH....thanks....

 

[LLbean]

well I hope DH understands how a mistake like that can be a really bad sign. Speaking of the eye doctor, they finally started using the tape over the eye technique so they know which eye to operate after a jack ass doctor did the wrong surgery on a patient here at Emory!!!! They were doing so many operations one after the other they totally messed up someones eyes because of not knowing WHO they were actually operating on.

 

[Indigo77]

He is now saying he will look into going elsewhere....not sure if he is just saying that to shut me up or not....

 

[LLbean]

oh I would be scared if I were him LOL

 

[Indigo77]

well I hope DH understands how a mistake like that can be a really bad sign. Speaking of the eye doctor, they finally started using the tape over the eye technique so they know which eye to operate after a jack ass doctor did the wrong surgery on a patient here at Emory!!!! They were doing so many operations one after the other they totally messed up someones eyes because of not knowing WHO they were actually operating on.

That is just scary and ridiculous.....

 

[Indigo77]

oh I would be scared if I were him LOL

He's on the treadmill watching a Mad Men rerun and avoiding eye contact....

 

[dachsundmom]

I would definitely go for another opinion. Will your GP order it for you? It doesn't have to be done by the urologist. My OB/GYN sends it out for me.

 

[crystal443]

Hope you get it figured out quickly Indigo Some doctors offices are just not fit to walk through the door

 

[velo]

For the benefit of the doubt it could have been the lab or the receptionist and the doctor could be a good one. But if its a busy place he might want to look for somewhere that has more time for personal attention. I know that for my DH the doctor had just written on the lab form "semen analysis", so I'm thinking how does the lab know if they are doing this for fertility or vasectomy since presumably the fertility is more in depth.

Anyway glad you called and got that figured out, so you didn't miss out on that one for nothing. The thing that sounded strange about her comment was "keep using birth control" as presumably you were not using any before.