I agree, the 20 week scan is massively important for checking things are going well with the baby, I certainly wouldn't opt out. Luckily for me, I live in the UK where these things are covered by the NHS, but a downside of that is that sometimes the care you receive is very functional and the services are stretched. It can seem quite cold and clinical at times and make you feel a little neglected. I have had a private gender scan here, but was told at the anatomy scan that the original gender scan was wrong, which was backed up by further private gender scans. The anatomy scan gave me a lot of peace of mind, and while I love the extra effort that is put into private scans I feel more reassured by the 'official' ones that look at everything and where the health of the baby is the primary concern as opposed to the added extras of gender reveal and lovely photos xxxxxx