Vent/Rant/BLAH

[mama d]

So - I just need to vent and it's hard to do that with anyone because it makes me sound like a heartless jerk. My best friend found out that she's pregnant a few days ago. They had been trying for 2 months. I am SO very excited for her but it makes me feel just icky inside. She was so sweet about telling me and she completely understands how hard it is for me. But I can't help feeling just a tad jealous and ok, downright terrible. It's UNFAIR. She absolutely deserves this...but I do too!!!!!!!!!

Ok, rant over. I just need you ladies to give me an attitude check. I feel like such a bad friend that I have to TRY so hard to be excited. And I feel bad that my very best friend was sad to even tell me...because she knows how much it hurts me.

Praying for miracles.

 

[Armywife84]

I wish I could get pregnant in 2 months. Ha!

Well at least she told you, before you had to find out from others or from FB. However, it still doesn't soften the blow.

Even though it was forced, you did well by acting happy for her. That's more than I would've done.

 

[cooch]

Don't beat yourself up. You are completely NORMAL!!!!!!!

Everyone experiences these feelings there are even some people on here who have got to a good place. You will have good days and bad days, you just need to keep focused on your goal. x

 

[mjemma]

One of my best friends told me she was pregnant just before Christmas and had conceived on her honeymoon. She called me and I avoided calling back for a few days as I had a sense of what she was going to tell me. She knew about our ttc troubles and made sure I knew before anyone else and I was very grateful for that. I tried to be happy for her on the phone and had a good cry afterwards then I sent her an email explaining that I was genuinely glad it had been so easy for her but that it was very difficult to deal with and I think she really appreciated that.

It's never easy hearing about friends' pregnancies. LTTC is totally unfair and you have every right to feel upset and angry. I'm sure your friend understands.

 

[Deb111]

Don't beat yourself up about how you're feeling. We all feel guilty for the way we react to friend's pregnancies, but I think it's important to remind ourselves that yes, we are jealous, but that doesn't mean we don't want this wonderful thing to be happening to us INSTEAD of our friend, just that we wish it was happening to us ASWELL xx

 

[wonderstars]

Don't blame ya. I think we've all had many many, why not me, moments. And really, why not?