Venting...

[bbbbbbb811]

Being completely silly here but I have to say it too someone lol....
I need a break but I can't bring myself to actually have one. Stupid huh? My partner works all hours, often isn't home before I'm asleep or in a different town over half the week and although he is brilliant when we are lucky enough to have him I'm technically a single mother. I do have my mother who would happily baby sit, I can't happily just do it cause I feel very guilty even thinking about leaving my children?!?! But boy do I just want to lay down in a tidy house in peace right now. But first I must tidy lol. Does anyone else feel guilty doing anything for themselves? Probably not.... I know it's normal to have family members babysit so I don't know what my thought process is

 

[hanni]

Yes! Could have written this myself. The only times I've let anyone look after him is when I've had to for classes at college. My mum always offers to baby sit but I just can't bring myself to. I've just recently joined the gym again and feel awful about leaving him with my OH for an hour (and I've only been once!)

Wondering when it gets easier?!

 

[bbbbbbb811]

Hanni..... I'm SOOO glad you said that I'm not sure it does get easier tho!?!: My youngest is 2 days younger than your son so we will see who cracks first

 

[tulip1975]

You are not going to get extra credit for spending every waking moment with your child. It's good for babies and kids to get a variety of experiences.

You need some practice for when it's time for LO to start school. Call your mom now.

 

[AK89]

I totally get where you're coming but do try to remind yourself that you're being silly! You would ALL benefit from it... I'm sure your kids would love to go and spend some time with your mum, and if she's like any other grandma she'd love it too! And you'd feel better after a good rest. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate. You definitely deserve some me time!

A part of me still feels guilty when someone babysits my 10 month old just for the sake of it (ie. so I can get a rest/break as opposed to so I can go to work or get some stuff done) but I do try to see logic and just embrace it. It'll be over before you know it! Take your mum up on the offer

 

[Ashley1021]

Could've written this too! My DS will be a year next month. I'm going out of town this weekend for a bachelorette party. I'm already dreading it! Two whole days! My aunt offered to take me to Aruba in November for four days, all expense paid, and I told her no! His dad and grandma are more than willing to help out too!

 

[bbbbbbb811]

It's nice to know even tho it's silly there are other mummy's being silly too
maybe I'll work up to it

 

[hanni]

Was it like this with your oldest?

Dominic is being baby sat properly for the first time on Tuesday 😨 he's going to my nans while my OH and I go to his nanas funeral.
Feeling anxious and guilty. What if he gets upset? What if he misses me? What if he's starving hungry and his bottle teat is blocked but she just thinks he isn't hungry so doesn't feed him his milk?! I feel so bad about having to leave him.

I'm also totally exhausted at the minute. He really isn't a sleeper, I don't think I've had more than an hours sleep at once in about 2 weeks. Part of wants to ask my mam if she'll have him for a night, she would totally love it but then I feel so guilty about it and I know I'd be sick with worry without him.

How do you get over this?!

 

[bbbbbbb811]

Was it like this with your oldest?

Dominic is being baby sat properly for the first time on Tuesday 😨 he's going to my nans while my OH and I go to his nanas funeral.
Feeling anxious and guilty. What if he gets upset? What if he misses me? What if he's starving hungry and his bottle teat is blocked but she just thinks he isn't hungry so doesn't feed him his milk?! I feel so bad about having to leave him.

I'm also totally exhausted at the minute. He really isn't a sleeper, I don't think I've had more than an hours sleep at once in about 2 weeks. Part of wants to ask my mam if she'll have him for a night, she would totally love it but then I feel so guilty about it and I know I'd be sick with worry without him.

How do you get over this?!

Same with my eldest I'm afraid! But it does get easier as they learn to communicate... slightly
I wouldn't sleep if I was on my own and child free, so a 'break' might just be more hassle than its worth thinking about it!!
But lacking sleep is doubly tough, we co sleep from 4/5 am which makes us all more rested and less grumpy! Probably should take my own advice but why not have your mum babysit in your house while you have a nap, that way if there is a problem you are still there?